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Well, my dad used my name today...a bit stunned!

@kaitylynn :   That is wonderful news.  I would be more than stunned... my dad has said very few words to me since I announced my transtion over 4 years ago...  he has only said my name a few times since then and it is my old dead name.   My mom, on the phone, just recently said "goodby Danielle I love you" as we finished our conversation... that was a first from her... and i was stunned.
Thanks for posting your good report.
Hugs,
Danielle
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Transgender talk / Re: Ten years is a long time...
« Last post by KathyLauren on Today at 04:20:22 pm »
Lauren, I agree with everything you have said. 

I have only been here a little less than three years.  But in that time, I have come to respect the depth of the wisdom you share with everyone here.  You, too, are one of those lights that brighten our souls and smooth the way.  I am very glad that, after ten years, you still choose to participate and to help others.
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Transgender talk / Re: Male vs female razors and plucking
« Last post by SailorMars1994 on Today at 04:19:00 pm »
no pluck the face/neck .. nope, can't do .... OWWWWW

I pluck or epilate most everywhere else. It is not recommended if you plan on laser or electrolysis

Why not recommended?
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I love your hair it looks beautiful but I'm so jelly over those glasses I so want them

Thanks. 😊 I Like them too. I destroyed my budget and I couldn’t get any new clothes for half a year after, but they are soooo worth it.
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@Jayne01    Shush... There will be pictures that I post of those events...
... then you will have to eat crow.
Danielle
Oh.....ok! I will be patient. I am patiently waiting....yes, that is what I’m doing, I am being patient...

Is it time yet? Is it time yet? What happened? Where are the pictures? Where are they? Where are they?????????? Details! I NEED details.........

Oh right.....I am being patient......

Hugs,
Jayne (this is me being patient )!
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Transgender talk / Re: Katie Again's stuff
« Last post by Katie Again on Today at 04:04:55 pm »
Another post in "Positive Mindset... put away negativity", added here for completeness;

I guess I'm realistic, I know I live in a cloudy  world and when it shines, it's not so bad.

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Very true but should read the other way round - its a shiny world and there are clouds sometimes but we know it will be shiny again soon. We just help them get out of the way.

To illustrate this point, I have been trying to get agreement with my brothers about telling my parents that I'm their daughter etc etc. We had the meeting tonight as in a previous post from me, and we sorted out power of attorney blah blah blah to look after my parents and what their new 'Will' entailed. All nice and caring stuff and we all agreed on sharing all the responsibility with veto over financial actions.
Then at the end they cleared the table of coffee cups plates etc, which surprised me as they aren't domestically minded... and told me that as Mum and Dad were concerned about me and my recent erratic behaviour (I can admit I have been gently stirring things slowly to get progress on telling M&D), they had decided to act without me there (As they didn't know how I would react) and gently went through everything I had told them about my 50 years of denial, self abuse, alcohol, stealing, suicide attempts GD etc and gave them more info off the web as well. Surprisingly to me my Mum said she wasn't surprised, Dad took it in but wasn't particularly happy (he's too old school) but it seems one parent is on my side at least. Dad wouldn't take  calls from me to wish him happy Fathers day last weekend, now I know why.
I cried in the pub for about 30 minutes, although a bit upset they didn't tell me, I could understand why. OMG, the millstone around my neck suddenly got so very much lighter. They have also told my nephews and nieces, all of which twigged very quickly and were OK with it all especially the girls.
So, I should have trusted those that love me more and not be so wary of asking for help, in this case it was given without my consent but Im OK with that fully, in these circumstances. Mum wants to come down and see me very soon and they (one brother or another) will bring her in a few weeks.

So, for this thread, it seems that for me I need to be more accepting and trusting and not to expect the worst outcome always. If it happens it happens and you deal with it, but go for it with a smile (I did a lot of that between the sobs) and people will warm to you.

My brothers didn't know what to expect (hence clearing table) but it seems a possibility was for me to be angry at them, I told them I'm not like that any more. Mind you I did sit there and watch them both eat enormous charred Gammon steaks 2 eggs and chips (still a favourite of mine..), which was annoying as I had already had my lean chicken breast salad at home, and I was crying and salivating at the same time - not a pretty sight - but I did refuse several offers of chips (French Fries) as I really am going to loose weight this time.

So posting this on my thread as well, but I am realising that those negative thoughts about how people will react are just thoughts, and should be let go, people can and usually do respond in wonderful ways to help us.

Enough from me anyway (excuse spelling as I'm still blowing nose...)
Hugz
Katie  "

Enjoy as my life is becoming more possible daily
Hugz
Katie
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FTM Bottom Surgery / Re: Post-op Phalloplasty
« Last post by randomdude5 on Today at 04:03:01 pm »
Lol exploding stitches yes. I think that happens often. When I had my first stage, I was uh... backed up... because of the narcotics lol, so I chugged a bunch of laxatives... And you can probably imagine the rest! It resulted in some popped stitches. :P When I explained what happened to my surgeon at one of my post ops he was just  like... "Oh, you had a blow out!" If he's got a name for it, it must happen often enough, haha.
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Transgender talk / Re: Positive Mindset... put away negativity
« Last post by Katie Again on Today at 04:01:37 pm »

I guess I'm realistic, I know I live in a cloudy  world and when it shines, it's not so bad.

Sent from my SM-G930T using Tapatalk

Very true but should read the other way round - its a shiny world and there are clouds sometimes but we know it will be shiny again soon. We just help them get out of the way.

To illustrate this point, I have been trying to get agreement with my brothers about telling my parents that I'm their daughter etc etc. We had the meeting tonight as in a previous post from me, and we sorted out power of attorney blah blah blah to look after my parents and what their new 'Will' entailed. All nice and caring stuff and we all agreed on sharing all the responsibility with veto over financial actions.
Then at the end they cleared the table of coffee cups plates etc, which surprised me as they aren't domestically minded... and told me that as Mum and Dad were concerned about me and my recent erratic behaviour (I can admit I have been gently stirring things slowly to get progress on telling M&D), they had decided to act without me there (As they didn't know how I would react) and gently went through everything I had told them about my 50 years of denial, self abuse, alcohol, stealing, suicide attempts GD etc and gave them more info off the web as well. Surprisingly to me my Mum said she wasn't surprised, Dad took it in but wasn't particularly happy (he's too old school) but it seems one parent is on my side at least. Dad wouldn't take  calls from me to wish him happy Fathers day last weekend, now I know why.
I cried in the pub for about 30 minutes, although a bit upset they didn't tell me, I could understand why. OMG, the millstone around my neck suddenly got so very much lighter. They have also told my nephews and nieces, all of which twigged very quickly and were OK with it all especially the girls.
So, I should have trusted those that love me more and not be so wary of asking for help, in this case it was given without my consent but Im OK with that fully, in these circumstances. Mum wants to come down and see me very soon and they (one brother or another) will bring her in a few weeks.

So, for this thread, it seems that for me I need to be more accepting and trusting and not to expect the worst outcome always. If it happens it happens and you deal with it, but go for it with a smile (I did a lot of that between the sobs) and people will warm to you.

My brothers didn't know what to expect (hence clearing table) but it seems a possibility was for me to be angry at them, I told them I'm not like that any more. Mind you I did sit there and watch them both eat enormous charred Gammon steaks 2 eggs and chips (still a favourite of mine..), which was annoying as I had already had my lean chicken breast salad at home, and I was crying and salivating at the same time - not a pretty sight - but I did refuse several offers of chips (French Fries) as I really am going to loose weight this time.

So posting this on my thread as well, but I am realising that those negative thoughts about how people will react are just thoughts, and should be let go, people can and usually do respond in wonderful ways to help us.

Enough from me anyway (excuse spelling as I'm still blowing nose...)
Hugz
Katie

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Transgender talk / Re: Male vs female razors and plucking
« Last post by Faith on Today at 03:56:17 pm »
no pluck the face/neck .. nope, can't do .... OWWWWW

I pluck or epilate most everywhere else. It is not recommended if you plan on laser or electrolysis
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Weight loss / Re: Thank You Deborah
« Last post by Deborah on Today at 03:53:46 pm »
You have made great progress that took a tremendous amount of self discipline.  All the credit goes to you!


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