Topic: Kalandrina's Journey Begins

[Kalandrina]

Well its been a very long time in starting this journey and i have no clue yet as to how or what will happen over the next months and years.
I came out to a few friends who i know socially and they were really supportive and great which is something i was not expecting from any of them, and this really helped me come to terms with who i want to be
I told my wife one night a few weeks ago, which has come as a great shock to her, even tho she knows i been dressing for over 30yrs she was not expecting this and ever since i get odd questions and some fairly snide remarks about it all, but I was expecting this and having been married for 21 yrs decided that time in my life is for me now, maybe that's selfish but i need to be true to how i feel and what i want in my life. I hope she accepts this and stays but with marriage and transitioning we can not be sure on what will happen as i can only imagine it must be hard for her as it has been for me.
So i have set myself some goals for the year that actually mainly focus on me getting back to having the body i used to have and starting my hormone journey to becoming Kalandrina.
April 15th i saw my GP for standard routine bloods as i suffer from Hypertension probably from being overweight. The results came back to show slightly high cholesterol at which i was offered medication to reduce the value only 5.4 but over the limit. I was weighed at 108.5 KG...time for a change i decided
May 10th having been on my diet and doing as much exercise as i can i am 101.6 and feel great, no snacks, no chocs, reduced alcohol intake Aiming for end of May at around 95KG and a waist drop of 4 inches
June i plan to visit my GP for GiC referral, and also get her onside for my blood tests, and also hope to get off my hypertension meds and reduce my cholestrol and also register with GenderGP so i can sort things out privately. Aiming for 90KG
July start my hormones via private practise... hoping to loose more weight

Telling the rest of my family and my son will be hardest steps.

Goals and Milestones i will update as i move through this great change in life Ideally i want to get back to 70-75KG by Xmas

[Jessica]

Thank you Kalandrina for starting this journal.  It will be a source for you to revisit and see the changes that you experience.  Though everyone is different, it may also be a source for someone in your similar situation and gain insight to their needs.
I will be looking forward to your updates.

Hugs and smiles 🌸🌸🌸

[Kalandrina]

My first laser session is booked now for the 4th of July

Weight down to 100.5 so close to double figures 

[TonyaW]

Awesome.



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[Kalandrina]

Well today i am down to 97 KG, and able to get to 4miles on treadmill. Tried on some my skirts for summer but they now all too big In fact so are all my Jeans...belts needed. I dropped from 42inch waist to 38 now, so feeling amazing. Not been this size since i had a personal trainer 12 years ago. Ordered a new bicycle, had to get ladies one as its purple, and didn't like the male colour.
Had to put clothes buying on hold till i get to my preferred weight, but a clear-out of clothes is due soon.

Laser starts properly on 9th July and have first 3 sessions booked. cannot wait.

Therapy on 12th June and hopefully hit my target of 90KG by end of July, then i can start my HRT Made a promise to my best friend that i would hit 90KG before i would start HRT as an incentive to keep up the weight loss, and also to take part in a 5Km run before Xmas and a 10Km run early in the new year.

Saw my GP last week who has been amazing, she wont do a shared care plan but will refer me to GIC and also do my bloods when requested by Gender GP which is awesome news. Waiting on first set of blood to come back now see if i dropped my cholesterol enough and on the right path away from being close to diabetic.

Kally

[Lexxi]

Hi Kally,

That's fantastic girl!! Congrats!! All your hard work is going to pay off BIG TIME!!

I've been trying to lose a lot of weight too, but there's a huge problem for me. I have severe degenerative disc disease which hinders me from exercising. I'm only able to stand for about 3 or 4 minutes before the pain becomes unbearable. So what I've been doing is standing up and moving around as much as possible til my back is screaming at me, then sitting back down. Once my back eases up I rinse and repeat. I guess you'd call it like quick cardio or something. I told my doctor that I had planned to exercise like that before I started and he's fine with it. He just urged me to be cautious that I don't throw my back completely out, because then I'll be bedridden for over a week.

Oh and I've been watching what I eat. Most days I've been sticking to eating salads. But they're probably not considered normal salads by most people, because I'm the world's pickiest eater. My only ingredients are lettuce, extra sharp shredded cheddar cheese, a few of those tiny little tomatoes, and a little bit of thinly sliced sandwich chicken, with some fat free french dressing. Lettuce makes up about 80% of the salad. For me it's pretty filling which keeps me from snacking between meals.

Hopefully the weight will start falling off soon. By the way I LOVE the way your weight sounds in kilos. When I first read your weight I thought holy <not allowed> you must be tiny at only 108 lbs. hahaha...then I reread it and saw that it was in kilos instead of pounds. The best sounding way to measure weight though has to be in stone. For example I only weight 19.6 stone.

Keep up the good work,

xoxo
Lexxi

P.S. I hope that last part gave you a little giggle this morning. 

[Erin40]

Kally- amazing progress. And as above a great log of the achievement made. Exciting to have booked in the laser treatment. You are brace too in telling some close friends well done. Hopefully with time your wife will see you are in a better place and you can be really close mates .

Erin x

Fab name too

[Kalandrina]

Had an email this morning that i am all good to go and that my blood work was fine and my therapy meeting confirmed what i knew. Just a few bits of paperwork to do and sort out medications.

[Kalandrina]

Yay, all approved and just waiting on my prescription for my medication to be sent over
Now all i need to do is get under 90KG and the real journey can begin, and i am so excited 

[DawnOday]

Kalandrina... Losing weight is one of the biggest factors in making me feel good about myself. Going from 135kg to 95kg. Just being able to wear non polyester natural fiber clothes is a plus. My wife shops at Lane Bryant and I hate her clothes. i shop at Venus. Being in the closet does so much to shut down our lives. We tend to withdraw, become bitter, depressed, our self worth is questioned. I could not operate under those circumstances any longer. I knew I could no longer cover up without doing more harm than good to our relationship. I lost my first wife because I cross dressed. Jo, my second has known for the 35 years we have been married. But I didn't pursue transition until just over three years ago due to heart problems which ironically indicate my exposure to massive female hormones while in the womb. I hope everything turns out as you imagined it. It is tuff to know you are risking a relationship you have spent so long working to establish. I can tell you, living the rest of my life as the person I always knew was hidden inside. is the best thing I have ever done for myself. There are no regrets. All the best.

[Kalandrina]

My wife has always know i cross dress, but she is of the opinion it has to stay behind closed doors. So we see how it goes since i told her that will not be happening.
Weight seems to be the hardest struggle, cause at 23 i was 10st and 28 waist and 36 chest. Fast forward to 51 and i hit over 42 waist 17st and 42 chest. Now pushing to get back down to a size i know i can be but its hard work.

[DawnOday]

My wife is kind of different. She does not mind me dressing if I leave the house. But does not want me to dress at home. Same with the kids. They all tell me to do what you got to do. We want you to feel better. You'll always be Dad to us. The irony is that we are not necessarily cross dressers. We are transgender females. I do not dress for sexual satisfaction I do it because it has always felt right. We just didn't know trangender existed until the 90's. I had a friend of mine refer to us as <not allowed>'s the other day and I went off on her. I didn't like being termed a cross dresser or transvestite either.

[Kalandrina]

Well its been over a year since i started this journey and still loving it My wife is still not a 100% on board but she hasnt left YET, but we shall see in time. Spend most my time in leggings or skiinny jeans now i am slim enough and a hoodie or jumper. She doesn't have issues with that or my toenails painted or anything that doesnt give game away. Still baby steps for here and not pushing it
Tho she is happy with me having some hair implants to fill my crown and fix my hairline so thats all good

[Northern Star Girl]

@Kalandrina:
Like you stated, baby steps....  many times it is usually easier for others to accept the "new" you... and especially your wife to not see big all-encompassing changes all at once.
So far it seems that you are making good slow and steady progress.   I am very, very happy for you.

Thank you for updating your "journey" thread.
I will be eagerly looking for your next updates and other posts around the forums.

HUGS and best wishes,
Danielle

Well its been over a year since i started this journey and still loving it My wife is still not a 100% on board but she hasnt left YET, but we shall see in time. Spend most my time in leggings or skiinny jeans now i am slim enough and a hoodie or jumper. She doesn't have issues with that or my toenails painted or anything that doesnt give game away. Still baby steps for here and not pushing it
Tho she is happy with me having some hair implants to fill my crown and fix my hairline so thats all good

[pamelatransuk]

Hello again Kally

Glad to see things are progressing albeit slowly but surely.

Wishing you further success and happiness.

Hugs

Pamela xx

[Kalandrina]

Well its been 3yrs since i started this amazing journey and it still ceases to amaze me. Loving everything that happened with life, though the last 18 months have been a mental struggle with house finances, mainly to do with sorting out old house so we didn't have to sell. So my wife is still my wife and we are still married, She of course has her moments, and i can  give her those as i have mine We didn't want to sell our old house by sea and started running it as a holiday home, this caused a few financial mortgage issues which ok was hard, but its been busy so it kept us in good wine
Still cannot budge the weight from 84/85 KG, maybe that's cause i keep falling off the good food wagon and hitting the crisps, but hell i cycle 40k a day, i am forgiven.

So i change job next month which is why i thought i should update this thread, as it was my story. My son doesn't know yet, but he does ask questions about my chest...soon as he finishes Uni

So life has been good and its only getting better

[Northern Star Girl]

@Kalandrina
Dear Kally:
I was wondering how you are doing and how you are progressing in your journey as you head for your goals....

Thank you for posing again after your last update many, many months ago in 2020

     Ughhh... financial issues with your home
     Good news...  not having to sell
     Good news...  your wife is still your wife and you are still married
     Losing weight... just about all of us struggle with that
     Changing jobs...  hopefully to a much better job ...  More Pay?
     Interesting... your son still doesn't know, but your chest generates his questioning

Again, thank you for keeping me and the rest of your followers up to date with your life
endeavors... both good news and bad news.

I will be looking for your next update soon, hopefully sooner than months from now !!!
HUGS,
Danielle

             

[Kalandrina]

Well its taken me nearly 2 years to write an update

But i am actually loving life at the moment. I have those strange times where dress is very so so, due to Uni holidays , but generally its fine, only summer seems to drag on

Just bought a swimspa now all the finances sorted....need to get back into swimming. Generally means that i could fulfil my goal and do a Triathlon before i hit 60

Changing jobs wasn't for the pay, its only a very small increase. More to do with they want me The opportunities that it will open up at work and the people i have spoken too from the company ooze fun. Where i am now i have to fight to battle red tape to type my name ....its called IT and Banking....never again the chains are snapped and i am leaving the banking world. I am still buzzing about starting....nearly as much as my new boss seems to be about me starting as he phones me every week to check not changed my mind

Weight is down to snacking more than i cycle

[Northern Star Girl]

@Kalandrina
Dear Kalandrina:
It was your special day YESTERDAY November 8th.......

I am wishing YOU a very, very
    H A P P Y   B I R T H D A Y
                                          
    ?  What were your plans for your Special Day ?
With friends? family? CAKE and Candles? 

HUGS and best wishes,
Danielle
           

[Kalandrina]

Maybe an XMas update is due, as i really should keep adding more and more to this.

Still stuck on weight loss, but as its been a crazy few months of partys at work, and with friends i tend to get 4 days before a few drinks...not easy to drop the weight, but its stationary at 85KG mark. Think i might try this ultrasound fat loss, non-surgical lipo See if that helps.

Swimming in morning 30 mins now, and then after work i am down to 20K cycle as Physio has told me i need to build up my muscle in the left leg as its in constant pain. Then another 25 mins swim The hardest part atm is the walk in -8 to end of garden in a swimsuit.....least pool is at 31

New job has gone really well and my boss and my colleagues are totally accepting of me, and all know about Kally. She even managed a guest appearance at the Xmas party, which was the first works do i have ever been to as me Far too much drink and hugs..

Senn that Aviva health insurance is offering something very new next year and will be the first private medical insurance company in the uk to offer this.
https://connect.avivab2b.co.uk/health/articles/news/New-benefits-to-help-your-clients-support-transgender-employees/
This is quite groundbreaking for the UK. And as luck would have it....my new job comes with Aviva cover Maybe everything is falling into place.

January will see me head to Turkey at last to get my hair done, with a drop and shape of my hairline, and filling my crown. They say 4000-5000 grafts are not an issue, and no need to do a full head shave

March i actually celebrate my 25th Wedding anniversary with a few days in Marbella, my brother in law just bought and apartment their, and killing 2 birds have an appointment with FacialTeam How on earth did i get to 25yrs, no clue as only 4 yrs ago i received divorce papers from my wife after i told her. Well its still touch and go and no idea what will transpire over the next 2 years. She still won't let me tell my son until he finishes UNI...sometimes feel he be an eternal student LOL.

Had an eyelash lift a couple weeks ago, amazing results, so my wife went and she had no lift at all, was well jealous

Merry Xmas and Happy new Year to all