Topic: Does it really get better just wondering

[MunaFan86]

as in emotional and being lonely does someone eventually find someone?

[Make97]

The way I see it, you don't just meet people, you have to search for them a little. I was lonely, most of my adult life, but now married to most loving man. All because I made an effort to get to know him. I still don't have that much friends but quality is more important than number of friends me thinks. Hugs for you, I really hope it gets easier for you!

[SarahEL]

There is an old adage,   Don't ask for friendships, be friendly and they will appear....

 I believe it works in ALL relationships.. It did for me!

[Sophiaprincess2019]

as in emotional and being lonely does someone eventually find someone?

I think this question really depends on whether or not you are ready to meet someone. Generally people tend to shy away from those who appear broken or in distress. When I'm actively "looking" or open to the idea of dating, I seek  men who are over their ex, have their stuff (life) together and willing to out forth the effort to develop a relationship. I'm pretty in tune with detecting if someone has issues with their confidence and I don't feel it's my place to rescue or help those who need to be consoled since I'm not a professional therapist, nor do I seek to be one in my romantic relationships. I want a man who is my equal, my partner in life, my friend, lover, but mine overall.

You'll find someone when you're ready; like anything, it's going to take time!


Sophia

[Northern Star Girl]

There is an old adage,   Don't ask for friendships, be friendly and they will appear....

 I believe it works in ALL relationships.. It did for me!

@SarahEL
Dear Sarah:
Yes indeed:   
"If you want friends, be friendly,  Be the first to say hello and to greet, and even start a casual conversation."

"If you go out looking for friends, you are going to find they are very scarce.  If you go out to be a friend, you'll find them everywhere." (This is found on my good forum's friend profile, @Jessica)
HUGS,
Danielle

[ChrissyRyan]

@SarahEL
Dear Sarah:
Yes indeed:   
"If you want friends, be friendly,  Be the first to say hello and to greet, and even start a casual conversation."

"If you go out looking for friends, you are going to find they are very scarce.  If you go out to be a friend, you'll find them everywhere." (This is found on my good forum's friend profile, @Jessica)
HUGS,
Danielle

Sometimes friends seem to come out of nowhere.  You just never know.  Often they come about from being introduced or when you mingle at a gathering.  They may not become a real friend right away.  Close friends are rare for most people.

It not important to have lots of friends but it is very nice to have at least one very close friend. 

Chrissy

[Pammie]

Sometimes friends seem to come out of nowhere.  You just never know.  Often they come about from being introduced or when you mingle at a gathering.  They may not become a real friend right away.  Close friends are rare for most people.

It not important to have lots of friends but it is very nice to have at least one very close friend. 

Chrissy

For me one key is to be out there, create opportunities to make friends and be friendly to people. Of course good friends only come from a compatibility that is sensed rather than expressed.


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[ChrissyRyan]

For me one key is to be out there, create opportunities to make friends and be friendly to people. Of course good friends only come from a compatibility that is sensed rather than expressed.


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We should all be friendly.  When I think of friends and friendship, I do think of serendipity.  It can just happen and it may become a very mutually beneficial relationship.

Never give up.

Chrissy

[Nikita]

"It" doesn't get better. 

You get better.

Or you don't change and so nothing changes, for better or worse.

[big kim]

It hasn't got better for me. Been single since 2005

[OzChick]

Hi

I think Nikita makes a good point. After I transitioned publicly and hormonally I went through a period of adjustment presenting as a woman. I had to learn a lot of new ways of doing things or, saying it another way, I had to unlearn many of the things that I did when I presented as a man. In a way, I reinvented myself as the woman I always was. I also had to let the disphoria fade so that it wasn't so important in my life. Once I had done that I was a more balanced and confident person and because of that it has been easier to interact with others. I've certainly noticed that other people interact better with me. I'm slowly meeting people now and getting friendly. So, like Nikita said in her post above, 'it' doesn't get better until 'you' get better. It got better for me when I got better. I think self improvement might be the key. It was for me anyway.

regards

OzChick

[Emileeeee]

I don't know about the relationship front. I've had guys approach me and I have hooked up with a couple, but there are so many that just want to fulfill a fetish that it's put me on edge about all of them. I've probably passed up on some good ones because of that.

As far as friends go, they just kind of found me. I joined groups for things I enjoy doing and extroverts adopted me. Over time, we became close friends.

[Maid Marion]

I meet a lot more people randomly with my female presentation.

I just got a complaint from a GG that my Facebook profile was ancient.
I recall that ages ago she was only  interested in really tall guys.
Height still plays an unreasonably big factor in starting relationships.
As in they won't actually look at you  if your height is outside some totally arbitrary standard.
Before  I was on the outside.

If height is an issue you may need to explore venues in which being brushed off at first isn't the end of the story.

Marion