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I can’t tame my wavy, frizzy hair...
« on: October 09, 2020, 03:04:21 pm »
So I have fine, wavy hair, and unfortunately fine, wavy hair has a strong tendency to frizz up as it dries and get poufy. I’ve tried all sorts of moistening, oils and serums. I avoid hair dryers. But so far no discoveries for how to tame my hair besides putting it in an updo or ponytail. Smoothing products generally don’t work for me because they leave my hair very greasy, which is typical for people who have fine, thin hair.

I’d love to hear your method for how you tame you frizzy hair.

Also, I’m envious of all of you who have straight, smooth locks.

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Re: I can’t tame my wavy, frizzy hair...
« Reply #1 on: October 09, 2020, 04:03:54 pm »
Haha - same name - same hair!!  My daughter has beautiful straight hair and I am so jealous of her.. Yet she wants curly hair like mine (more wavy as you say)...
I have tried everything.. Even an hour with straighteners, the best sprays - and within 20 mins it springs back into a frizzy mess. I have just about given up now and just go with it...
If you want it to look natural, then I have never found anything that works..Looks like it is the ponytail for us unless someone else knows better!...

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Re: I can’t tame my wavy, frizzy hair...
« Reply #2 on: October 09, 2020, 04:56:18 pm »
Haha - same name - same hair!!  My daughter has beautiful straight hair and I am so jealous of her.. Yet she wants curly hair like mine (more wavy as you say)...
I have tried everything.. Even an hour with straighteners, the best sprays - and within 20 mins it springs back into a frizzy mess. I have just about given up now and just go with it...
If you want it to look natural, then I have never found anything that works..Looks like it is the ponytail for us unless someone else knows better!...

:) - yeah, that all sounds like me, too.

I knew this post was likely going to result in nothing but sharing of misery, but I hold out hope that someone has found the magic elixir even though from everything I've read and Youtube'd, there is no such cure.

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Re: I can’t tame my wavy, frizzy hair...
« Reply #3 on: October 14, 2020, 10:53:46 am »
Your type of frizz problem is quite a topic of conversation around the Internet these days. The consensus seems to be to eliminate certain additives to shampoos like sulfates, silicones and alcohols.  Some people are also using this approach to discover how their hair would look with it's natural curl, after years of brushing and such. For me, shampooing less often seems to help. Check around for things like "The Curly Girl Method", for instance (https://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/no-poo/the-curly-girl-method-for-coily-hair). This YouTuber seems to have had some luck with it:


Also, I loved this video and the follow ups:
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Re: I can’t tame my wavy, frizzy hair...
« Reply #4 on: October 14, 2020, 11:36:19 am »
That's really interesting Lyric, thanks for sharing - I have tried that 'stay in' stuff before, without any success, but not with all the other things too.. I will give it a go.... but, I really would like just straight hair!!

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Re: I can’t tame my wavy, frizzy hair...
« Reply #5 on: October 14, 2020, 05:11:08 pm »
I'll give you my routine which has transformed my hair from seriously frizzy.

1 Wash every two days in a caffeine shampoo(I use plantair 39)
2 Condition with John Frieda Hydrate and recharge
3 Rinse and rub through 6 shots of John Frieda FrizEase
4 Dry with Babyliss hot air brush. Note it's important to use a bristle brush
5 Apply a few drops of argan oil through the hair.

Never ever use a flat iron even on a low setting with "protector" they destroy your hair.

I find that dyes can actually help.

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Re: I can’t tame my wavy, frizzy hair...
« Reply #6 on: October 14, 2020, 07:08:34 pm »
I'll give you my routine which has transformed my hair from seriously frizzy.

1 Wash every two days in a caffeine shampoo(I use plantair 39)
2 Condition with John Frieda Hydrate and recharge
3 Rinse and rub through 6 shots of John Frieda FrizEase
4 Dry with Babyliss hot air brush. Note it's important to use a bristle brush
5 Apply a few drops of argan oil through the hair.

Never ever use a flat iron even on a low setting with "protector" they destroy your hair.

I find that dyes can actually help.

Good advice - that all makes sense...I've heard good things about the John Freida products. I will try them...

Sarah
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48 years young.
Known that I am trans since...forever.
First therapy session / decided to transition / hair removal: October 2018
HRT: January 2019 (journal https://www.susans.org/forums/index.phpVF/topic,244009.0.html)
VFS: September 2019; three-month report here
Full-time: April 2020
FFS: August 2020
SRS: January 2021

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