davina61 have you got into your grove yet?
I remember after my SRS, it felt wonderful to be able to wear any style of female clothing, without worrying about bumps down there. I felt so liberating the first time I wore a bikini to the beach, without a shorts over the bottom.
Dilating is pain in the beginning, i remember for the first month or 2 it was 3 times a day, which went to twice a day, then eventually once a day. Now it seldom, as since I am sexually active, my man does it for me
I was able to take 2 months off work (helps when you work for yourself), so once I was on twice day I could dilate in the morning and in the evening.