Revealing your trans status online?

[NightWalker]

When is the right time...if ever...to do that? I have been making good friends online for awhile and most of them think I am a biological guy. They do not know I am FTM. I don't know when I should tell them? They are really good friends.

I need advice...I kept it from one girl for awhile and she got mad when I told her because I waited so long. I don't want to make that same mistake again. My only fear is that they wont see me as a guy anymore if I tell them.

What should I do?

[supremecatoverlord]

If these are friends that you never plan on sleeping with, do they really need to know your medical history?
That's just my view on this issue.

[wheat thins are delicious]

If these are friends that you never plan on sleeping with, do they really need to know your medical history?
That's just my view on this issue.

That's my view too. 

[King Malachite]

I say tell them whenever you want.  I used to hide it but I found it was so much easier just to tell them.  I mean it's not like they are going to hunt you down and protest it right?  If they have something against it then you can just put them on ignore or delete them.  All of my friends online know and they don't have a problem.  In fact I make it more of an issue than them.  One cismale friend of mine gave me the compliment "you're a better man than me" so I say just speak to them about  it when you feel you need to and if you don't want to disclose then there's no shame in that.

[Stephe]

I say tell them whenever you want.  I used to hide it but I found it was so much easier just to tell them.  I mean it's not like they are going to hunt you down and protest it right?  If they have something against it then you can just put them on ignore or delete them.  All of my friends online know and they don't have a problem.  In fact I make it more of an issue than them.  One cismale friend of mine gave me the compliment "you're a better man than me" so I say just speak to them about  it when you feel you need to and if you don't want to disclose then there's no shame in that.

What he said ^ The ONLY people who have ever gotten upset was guys who flirted with me and then found out. Just like real life people don't like "discovery" and looks like the OP already ran into this. I would be pretty ticked if someone I felt close to online didn't disclose something this core to their being. Like it means to me they assumed I am a narrow minded bigot who would think less of them etc.

[Morgan.]

Just to echo a little of what Jason said, I think unless they really need to know, it's up to you. I mean, if it's someone you'd like to potentially form a relationship with, I guess that would be different. But if they're just friends, it shouldn't matter to them what your biological gender is (in a perfect world..) perhaps you could get a better idea of a possible reaction by bringing up LGBT or more specifically, transcommunity related issues or questions and observe what they say. When speaking to people online while I was still questioning my gender identity, I found it to be quite helpful to get an idea of who it wouldn't be alright with and who wouldn't really care.