Overcome the sexual urges

[natalies]

HI Ladies,

Well, finally I have come to an understanding with myself and I know what I am, and I cannot hide it. I have accepted that I am a woman with a male appearance. I want to embrace the woman inside me and so far it's been a great experience. I have started to dress in a small way  in public, at work and changed my apperance a little - its really calmed me down. Even though i look male from appearence, the thought of knowing what I am wearing and who I really am continues to keep me relaxed.

But, as I look out and see other girls I get a sense of desperation that I want to physically change myself and be accepted as a woman and my sexual tendencies for men have started to rise. But, I want to control these sexual tendencies as being a woman (i have to be careful who i meet).

I have not started HRT yet, but can any of you reoommend what I can do to reduce my sexual urges?

Thanks. Love all
Natalie.

[JadeS]

I recommend HRT, sexual urges seem to be pretty much testosterone going around in your brain

[Padma]

To be honest, I think the first step is to welcome these feelings as a part of your natural self. For one thing, it's very hard to walk away from something while you're busy running away from it - but in general, being more accepting of your feelings will make you more content, and therefore less unbearably horny (in my experience, anyway). Don't fight yourself and you'll be happier.

...and agreed, HRT seems to calm things down too, but even before that you can be less at odds with yourself.

[natalies]

A question -if i take birth control pills, how does that effect my body and are they harmful? Because, they seem to reduce sex interest.

[JessicaR]

Natalie,
 
    You overcome "sexual urges" by exercising self control.... just like everyone else does. If you're suggesting that your "sexual tendencies towards men" are directly related to your
recent revelations about your gender identity, I'm going to say it again, loud and clear: You need to see a therapist who knows about this stuff!!  After reading your other posts, I 
really think that you're headed for disaster. Birth control pills would probably be harmless to take; no, they will not reduce testosterone enough to effect your libido or anything else
for that matter.
   Posting here isn't a substitute for therapy concerning your gender. Susans is a great place to meet others of like mind and ask for advice but, if you're being straightforward in your
posts, you need help! You can't do this by yourself. You could wind up alienating your entire family and ruining your life before ever getting diagnosed. Wearing womens underwear
is not appropriate medical treatment for what you're describing... neither is popping birth control pills!

   Stop looking for validation! If you're transsexual, you're transsexual... telling us all about it is fine but having people respond to your posts, saying the same things over and over
again isn't going to make you "more transsexual." You need to help yourself!!! Maybe telling us where you are and asking if we can help you find a gender therapist (they even
have ones online) might be better than talking about your sexual urges and penchant for masturbation.

    Sorry.... someone had to say it.


   

[azSam]

I concur with natalie JessicaR completely.

[Sera]

Mmm, based on what I am always reading here, Jessica is correct.  Much like a protein bar is NOT a dietary suplemant for an entire meal! It just is not! Tips and tricks will not get you through this, you need support, and you need to find the path.  You can not just rely on yourself and the advice of others over an online community.  And as was said as well, you can attempt to practice self control.  I often find myself gazing at the face and bodies of woman in an envious way.  I find it very effective to remind myself that I am my own kind of person, that nobody should every aspire to be somebody else.  If you feel you should not envy others, remind yourself with a voice in your mind of that.  This keeps me from looking at others in this way.


Plus, as a male in outward appearance to others, looking at others in this way just makes you look like males who in a rage of testosterone stare at women objectively with great amounts of lust and other animal thoughts.  Convince yourself that this is not you, and that this is not who you want to be to others!  I also find it helpful to acknowledge the presence of a beautiful woman, and then instead of admiring them, look around at all the guys with rubber necks, and laugh distasteful to yourself.

[cynthialee]

TY Jessica, you nailed it on the head.

Original poster, you need to get into see a therapist. We can not help you unless you help yourself.