Because the last time I tried posting a comment on Monica's blog, for whatever reason it was not allowed, I ma placing this comment here in response to her lastest posting. It simply represents my point of view on a topic that is taking shape as a more 'slash and burn' tactic to clearing out the transgender/transsexual community.
To Monica:
Gawd! If there is one word I despise more and is over-generalized in it's application, it's the word "privilege". Monica, I have enjoyed your thoughts and writings many times. This post though I feel is stroked with a brush a bit too broad. Just as you despise those who hold ill for POC, I too despise any racist of any type. I know there are hardships out there that are disproportionately represented by POC, and especially for those who also happen to be TransPOC.
There is also no doubt that there is a small aging group of HBS people who think they are the only "True Transsexuals". That the rest of us ( believe it or not), especially "late transitioners" are anything BUT a transsexual -surgery or not!
I'm beginning to feel I am in my own little minority world. I'm white. I'm a woman. I have a transsexual history. I'm a late transitioner. I'm still married. I raised two children. I have a job. So, I get labeled with this "privilege" title? Right along with the rest of the nut cases you are really focused at in this post? Really?
I've had as many disagreements with them as I am about to have with you. They too want to use the "privilege" card. Except they throw it out as :"male privilege" in that I waited until I was safe and secure in my life and this is somehow my form of 'mid-life-crisis'. BULL ->-bleeped-<-!
They, nor you know anything about what I went through, throughout my life. the trials, the tribulations, and yes hardships I've endured to be who I am. It's wholly unfair to paint me and people like myself with such a broad brush as being somehow "privileged" because I'm white, or was thought to be male. I have a desire to help us all; transgender, transsexual, POC, white it doesn't matter. I have been involved in helping make things better for us. What drove me out (at least temporarily) was - among other things - the constant innuendo that I and other people like me come from some form of "privilege". That I'm supposed to somehow feel guilt ridden for being so.
I have two things to say about that. First, I am not "privileged"! Not now, not ever! Every damned thing I have, I worked my ass off for. That includes my transition. I have never utilized favoritism or cronyism to gain advantage. If anything, those type people have always shunned me, even before I transitioned. What I placed on the table as being sacrificial and ultimately walking away from that table intact, and losing next to nothing; is only one thing. A freaking miracle. Second, I have no guilt for being successful in my transition. I had way more than enough of that guilt before I did transition. I do not need to hang on to that negativity, nor do I deserve to have someone tell me that because I presumably come from a "privileged" state, I should feel guilty for it. I didn't, I'm not and I don't!
These people who consider themselves as "True Transsexuals", are a mirror image of what you're portraying here only at an opposing end of the scale. They are though one thing I wouldn't categorize you as, that is, they are flat out mean spirited. Somehow they have begun a - thus far - successful separatist debate that is taking hold to shred that umbrella moniker that represented a vast majority of transpeople. If we don't find a way to be respectful of each other and debate this issue with decorum standing above the fray that is them - we will lose. The 'straight normative' society that we sooo wish to have recognition of and equality to, will not have to say a thing to keep us from those goals. we all will have only our fingers to point at each other. I think we should expose these HBS people for what they are, but do so with clarity, dignity, and having respect for differing points of view.
Monica, keep on writing and keep on bringing good attention where it needs be. But, please consider carefully how and who gets a label that may be just as offensive and just as divisive as that of being called racist when you are not, just because you are white.