Confused

[Dominatrix ♥]

Sometimes i feel like im a freak? like am not normal like other people
that am entering an unknow world i dont know transitioning is what i want because i just know it.
but sometimes it feels like ''Wait dont do it its not normal''
life is so hard. 

[Sephirah]

Honey, 'normal' is a word invented purely to tell other people that they're not.

Forget about what feels 'normal', and go with what feels 'right'.

*hug*

[April Dawne]

First off, having these feelings doesn't make you a freak. It makes you an introspective human being trying to get to know yourself.

My advice would be to find a therapist, preferably one with experience or a special interest in gender issues, and talk to him/her IN DEPTH about your life and your feelings. Don't hold back. Tell them what you are thinking, feeling, what you want need and fear.

None of us here can say "yes you are trans, here's what to do." But we can offer support, compassion, and understanding.

I hope you stick around, and get a chance to figure out exactly what it is you want to do in life. ^.^

[Dominatrix ♥]

Honey, 'normal' is a word invented purely to tell other people that they're not.

Forget about what feels 'normal', and go with what feels 'right'.

*hug*

Thanks You made my day [:

[Dominatrix ♥]

First off, having these feelings doesn't make you a freak. It makes you an introspective human being trying to get to know yourself.

My advice would be to find a therapist, preferably one with experience or a special interest in gender issues, and talk to him/her IN DEPTH about your life and your feelings. Don't hold back. Tell them what you are thinking, feeling, what you want need and fear.

None of us here can say "yes you are trans, here's what to do." But we can offer support, compassion, and understanding.

I hope you stick around, and get a chance to figure out exactly what it is you want to do in life. ^.^

Thank You!!

[silverarrow]

You aren't a freak first of all. You should be proud of who you are.

Also, if you're constantly arguing with youself if you're wrong or not you'll never be happy. Be yourself without regrets and doubts. Live how you want to, you deserve to be happy

sorry if I'm not much help

[Dominatrix ♥]

Yes you are. !
xoxo

[annette]

Hi Nikki

Your post maked me thinking about what's normal.
I have seen a lot of people who looked normal at the outside but most people do things on a sneaky way and pretends to be normal.
Like beating their wife or children, addicted to gambling and making a lot of debts or addicted to religion and telling other people hoe they should live.
Nobody doubts about those people but is it normal?
Nature sometimes makes cruell jokes with people and we have to deal with it.
I think your opinion of normal is that you will act what others do expect from you.

I don't think that's normal because than you're living the life what others wants.
Normal is.. that you lifve your life in a way you can be happy and when you don't harm others with it, you're quite normal to me.
The fact that you think of what's normal makes you very normal.

Listen sweetheart, you're worth to have a happy life, so go for it despite what others will think about it.

I hope this gives you some courage to do what you have to do.

a big hug
Annette

[Dominatrix ♥]

Hi Nikki

Your post maked me thinking about what's normal.
I have seen a lot of people who looked normal at the outside but most people do things on a sneaky way and pretends to be normal.
Like beating their wife or children, addicted to gambling and making a lot of debts or addicted to religion and telling other people hoe they should live.
Nobody doubts about those people but is it normal?
Nature sometimes makes cruell jokes with people and we have to deal with it.
I think your opinion of normal is that you will act what others do expect from you.

I don't think that's normal because than you're living the life what others wants.
Normal is.. that you lifve your life in a way you can be happy and when you don't harm others with it, you're quite normal to me.
The fact that you think of what's normal makes you very normal.

Listen sweetheart, you're worth to have a happy life, so go for it despite what others will think about it.

I hope this gives you some courage to do what you have to do.

a big hug
Annette

When u said that im normal for you it brought a big smile to my face. thank you so much your a very kind full person i will add you to my buddies list if thats ok with you thank you so much.
xooxo !

[justmeinoz]

I gave up asking, "what's normal?" a while ago. I concluded that as we are all unique, normal is a null concept anyway.

  Besides we are all made out of star stuff, as Hawking said, so we are all amazing and beautiful and shining, even if others don't see it.  Their loss poor things. 

I have learnt so much about myself during this journey that sometimes it feels like I am seeing colours and hearing sounds that the "normal" will never know. True, I would rather have not needed to start the trip, but there is good as well as pain.

Karen.

[harisu4444]

you're not a freak, you're just going through the phase of getting to know yourself better as you transition 

cheer up!

anyway im new here, just want to say hi to everyone 

[BillieTex]

Normal? Freeky? I have spent my life feeling like both, neither and somewhere in between. In time acceptance of who you are to yourself is what matters. How the world looks at us is mostly a mirror of how we look at ourselves. When we learn to like our own self, it shows and can be reflected back. Not by all, but the ones closest to us, and that is what counts.
Billi

[JulieC.]

Probably everyone who thinks they know me, would say that I am completely normal.  And if they really knew me, as only a few people, do they might say I'm a freak.  It's an ambiguous term at best.  In the end I feel completely normal.  And you should too. 

"Normal is not something to aspire to, it's something to get away from" Jodie Foster.  I don't think I want to base my life on the philosophical teachings of Jodie Foster but I've always liked this quote.

[Kendall]

Normal is highly overrated.

Being yourself is beyond precious.

Good luck being fully alive!

(Now if I can just follow my own advice - what gets in my way is fear of what others think - I am learning as Janet Lynn suggests to be afraid of living a lie anymore - of hiding from living because of fear of what others think - that would be like dying in order to be normal and please others. I am trying to choose life even though it is scary and not conventional (another word for normal).)

All progress is due to "abnormal" ideas and behaviors!

To life!

Kendall

[April Dawne]

Normal is a very subjective word. If you ask 100 people what the term "normal world" means to them, you will likely get 100 completely different responses. Same goes when you add the word normal to just about anything, I suppose. Everyone has their own idea of what that word means to them, and my idea of normal is not your idea of normal.

I wonder if the way the world was, is, and will be is what is "normal"... perhaps the universe could not have unfolded any other way. We are who we are, and we make the best of it while we are alive.