Crying during therapy?

[Anon]

Hi, I was just wondering how many of you guys and girls got a bit emotional with your therapists/psychiatrists?


Although I've heard crying is really commonplace in any sort of counselling setting, it still left me feeling pretty bad and humiliated. I don't like to cry in front of anyone, let alone a stranger who now knows more about me than my mother. The intro appointment was just background/childhood and family history, and weirdly enough it was really only talking about my childhood dog that set me off. Awkward.

Thanks for your responses.

[xAndrewx]

I didnt cry but I felt it important to mention that it was because by the time I saw my therapist I'd already known about my trans stuff for 4 years and had cried about it to my ex and my friends. Had that not been the case I probably would've.

[Anon]

You're a strong man Andrew; I've had an intention to transition for 4 years as well, but I'll tell myself it was the lack of an S/O that did it.

[Lee]

I cry really easily, and I think that happened at more sessions than not.  It was embarrassing, but meh, it didn't really hurt anything.  I think that for me it was a combo of nerves and fear about talking to a complete stranger about stuff I didn't feel confident verbalizing. 

[Joelene9]

  I did not.  I was too scared to at the time in the late '70s.  I didn't tell much to him either.  He refused my request for HRT and left the state due to a better offer.  I rode my bike home and blew a Hiroshima tantrum.  It was lucky the dog had died months earlier!
  Joelene

[wannalivethetruth]

short answer, no. i actually wanted and tried to cry, but, i guess it just wasnt that deep for me. More of an excitement with knowing that im that one step closer.

[Just Shelly]

huh, doesn't take much for me to cry.

I have seen 4 therapists over the last 6 years, only my last is specifically for GID but started for depression and still is to a point.

I have cried at all 4 of my therapist sessions and probably every time. Most of why I cry is because of my children (I could cry now) before GID sessions I cried because I was a failure for my children, now I cry for the same reason and for what I am about to put them through.

Shelly

[some ftm guy]

i have twice. they were in the beginning months of it. I've come close other times but not enough to bring up tears. actually i didn't actually cry tears the times she was aware either. it was weird.

[Tippe]

I went through 30 months of gatekeeper nightmare at the Danish National Hospital, where only 1 in 30 are allowed through. I shut down every thing - felt I had to present in a certain way, couldn't be myself for fear of rejection. I value honesty and self determination among my five most central values, but they took those away. It was a cruel and systematic attack on my integrity and my authenticity. A terrible psychological assault!

When I got my approval I knew I was not ready, because I never had an opportunity to discuss my worries and the stuff which is holding me back. I knew I had to see an independent counsellor. When I got there - finally able to speak freely after those years - I just broke down completely crying almost the whole first hour. Fortunately the person I see now is an excellent support, but even though it's been six months since I got the OK now I still cry, shake and sweat, when I think about what I went through at that clinic.

[JungianZoe]

I usually don't because I tend to be kind of solution-driven when I'm working with my therapist.  Probably comes from the fact that I'm trying to get into the field myself, have studied therapeutic practices for years now, and focus on saying what would benefit me the most while I'm in a session.

But yesterday, after nearly two months of near-crippling depression, and on a cloudy, rainy morning, I couldn't do anything but bawl my eyes out the whole time.  And you know what?  It wasn't bad!  I feel like I opened up to the real me, not the clinical me, and my therapist really got to see that for the first time.  As far as how she handled it, she was perfect and now I have a million new things to think about and research based on her recommendations.  One of the reasons I chose her as my therapist is because she's a gender therapist, but also deeply involved in spiritual studies, something in which I have a profound interest and wanted to explore in therapy.

[xxUltraModLadyxx]

  I did not.  I was too scared to at the time in the late '70s.  I didn't tell much to him either.  He refused my request for HRT and left the state due to a better offer.  I rode my bike home and blew a Hiroshima tantrum.  It was lucky the dog had died months earlier!
  Joelene

wow, how selfish and greedy is that.

[rachel_eliason]

I cry pretty easy. At first I didn't cry or get that emotional in therapy until my therapist pointed out that getting to those deep emotions
was what therapy was about in the first place. Now I tell myself before every session that "I'm fine" is not the correct answer. I need to be
brutally honest about how I am feeling, and I need to talk about the hard emotional issues, even if it makes me cry like a baby. that's what
I am paying the woman for.

[Brent123]

I actually get pretty emotional easily. Its not my favorite trait that I have but I deal with it.
That being said, I only cried once and that was when she asked why I was there. I felt embarrassed, sure, but I think a little bit of crying is expected.

[Layn]

i wish i did, since i should feel safe and let my emotions out, but instead the most emotion i show is laughter. and i'm pretty sure that's just my defense mechanism working overtime