Coping strategies for being misgendered?

[Xren]

What are some ways to cope with being seen/treated as the incorrect gender in social situations?  If it happens a lot, and you can't just say "I'm a [this gender]" or do much else in the way of altering presentation, how do you keep it from ruining your day, or keep from feeling humiliated?

[Cindy]

Hi Bro
A well timed post
I'm MtF but I think the same rules apply, from my perspective.

I'm in Australia so the time frames are different. I went shopping  without my wig and make up on Thursday. Every shop assistant referred to me as female, I tried on and bought skirts, boots to die for, jewellery and got some waxing done. I went out for dinner that night, alone and was treated as any other woman in the restaurant was.
Next day I got my eye brows re shped ( I couldn't get it done when waxing as we ran out of time. The tech didn't blink, we can get them a lot thinner and curved this time if that is OK, OK you bet .

Went out again that night. Local Chinese, Miss and Mam'd all night, OK I was looking and FEELING %100.

Some time during that night my brain changed. I don't know how.




I accepted myself as the woman I am. This is what YOU need to do.

If someone makes a mistake I'll ignore them. If someone was being rude I'll ridicule them. If someone try's to humiliate me, I will make sure they will weep. I have no reason for any excuses.
I am Cindy James and I am proud to be so. I'm comfortable to be so. This is my life, no one has the authority to stop me being a normal, healthy woman.

Take control Xren. It is confidence. There is no reason in all of nature that you cannot be you. There is no reason why anyone can insult you. In the dark times if people are rude to you I want you to remember one thing.

What would Cindy do in this situation ?

She would stand up as the woman she is and let loose hell. Sort of like Pink would as well. Sort of like most of us do.

BTW guys get so confused so quickly in those situations they have no coping skills , they back off really quickly


Guys do the same, but you have to even more independent. Your gender doesn't matter you attitude does
Hugs

Cindy


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[Debra]

It's hard to say. It's just a hard thing to cope with. Over time, it gets easier.....it tends to move from painful to just slightly annoying. You start to care less about it, I think.

Once you get up the courage to say "NO, I'm a man" then that's a huge start but still and often at least people are polite about correcting themselves at that point.

I cope with things by crying, writing, talking about things with people, etc.