Living with parents. Should I come out before or after starting HRT? o.o

[Donnie]

So, I'm planning on starting T in a few months, August-ish. I'm also currently living with my parents(again, ugh). I have sort-of come out to my Mum and sister. Just touching on the subject that I am not satisfied as a female, and going a bit more in depth with my Mum when she questioned me on it once.  I'm really not looking forward to sitting them all down and "coming out" to them.

I was thinking maybe I don't have to at all? Just, start "T" and maybe they wont notice? (lol) Or at least, they would know I am serious, if they see I am already going ahead with it. Is this a wise idea? Or am I just letting my fear get the best of me?

[Cindy]

As long as you are over eighteen you have the legal right to follow you own wishes as long as they are not illegal.

You seen a therapist etc?

Cindy

[Donnie]

As long as you are over eighteen you have the legal right to follow you own wishes as long as they are not illegal.

You seen a therapist etc?

Cindy

Thanks, that is my view as well. But I'm trying to make sure its not just the rebel in me trying to butt heads with my parents again, lol.

Meh, I wish. I can hardly afford "T" as it is, let alone all the therapist and doctor visits.

[Cindy]

Really worth while talking to a therapist.

I suppose you are in the USA and the rules are different but in Australia we cannot get hormones without a Drs script. And please dosing on T without being monitored is not healthy. You run great risks.

Cindy

[Donnie]

Really worth while talking to a therapist.

I suppose you are in the USA and the rules are different but in Australia we cannot get hormones without a Drs script. And please dosing on T without being monitored is not healthy. You run great risks.

Cindy

Oh no, I plan on monitoring. I will be getting regular blood work and such(especially at the beginning). Been doing loads of research and am very prepared for any side effect I may have. I generally don't care about my health(we teenagers are indestructible you know), but this is one thing that I am dedicated to making sure goes perfectly. 

[harisu4444]

So, I'm planning on starting T in a few months, August-ish. I'm also currently living with my parents(again, ugh). I have sort-of come out to my Mum and sister. Just touching on the subject that I am not satisfied as a female, and going a bit more in depth with my Mum when she questioned me on it once.  I'm really not looking forward to sitting them all down and "coming out" to them.

I was thinking maybe I don't have to at all? Just, start "T" and maybe they wont notice? (lol) Or at least, they would know I am serious, if they see I am already going ahead with it. Is this a wise idea? Or am I just letting my fear get the best of me?

hey! have you seen a doctor abt it and spoken to your therapist? i suppose you are pretty much on your own. but since you've sort of come out to your mom and sis, i guess it's important you talk to your family about it before you start on hormones. i'd pretty much do this if i were you though, but talking to your therapist and getting to understand your situation better is a wiser choice before you decide on the next step. cheers!

[piers816]

I think it would be a better idea to tell them before you start HRT. Have you ever talked to a gender therapist about being trans? Because if you haven't it's going to be pretty hard to get hormones. Doctors can't just hand them out to anyone. I also think you'd have an easier time being accepted if you tell them before getting HRT. I just feel like, if you start taking T before telling them, it'll be kind of a rebellious teenager move - "This is what I'm doing, deal with it," with no room for discussion.