Hello

[qUiRkY qUeEn]

I am new to this site and new to these types of discussions. I am married to my husband and yesterday was my 6 year anniversary. He told me 4 years ago he wanted to be a girl & I began to get scared, insecure, very very hurt, & confused. Throughout our relationship he had acted manly and I never knew this deep truth within him ever existed. We just started counseling with a "MTF" counselor and she seems really nice, she is also a marriage counselor. I will do what ever it takes to support my husband in whatever decision he makes whether its cross-dressing, putting makeup on, the full transition. BUT I am scared of what we are going to be facing. I truly LOVE HIM and his personality, that to me is undeniable, but to feel the pain he has to go through just kills me inside. We have been together for a total of 9 years and he has helped me grow into a very strong and wonderful woman!! He was super strong, now he is super confused. I am doing what I can to support him & oh did I mention I am 8 weeks pregnant!!!  Which I am truly happy for. If the society wasn't so hateful of transition I wouldn't feel so terrified.. I feel I could still be attracted to him if he decides to transition in all the positive ways. I hope this all make sense I just wanted to get this off my chest. Thank you for your time...

[Janet_Girl]

Hi Pluto,

Welcome to our little family. Over 7000 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.

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It can be hard when a spouse reveals these deep hidden feelings.   But you both are seeing a therapist, which is a very good thing.  And depending on where you live, it may or may not be a bad thing to continue with transition.  In some places, transition is just another thing people do.

And congratulations on the baby.

Hugs and Love,
Janet

[qUiRkY qUeEn]

Thank you Janet.

Have a wonderful evening.

[Padma]

Hi and welcome, pluto - change (and self-acceptance is a special kind of change) is a very confusing time, there's a lot of fear involved in it. I'm not surprised this is a complicated time for both of you, and I hope you weather it together, since it's change for you as well. Has your husband considered visiting here too (if he isn't already)? - lots of support and info for both of you, a bunch of lovely and diverse people.

[Devlyn]

Hi Pluto, it's nice to meet you! You are going through a difficult time, it's good you're reaching out for help. You'll find lots of support on this site. Best wishes, hugs, Tracey

[sowisa]

Hi Pluto and welcome. I have been meaning to respond to your post for days but I don't get on here as often as I would like due to chasing around four spirited kiddos. I am also a supportive spouse of a MTF. She is on here as well. Her name is JuliaOrina. I feel you on blaming society as a basis of most my fears during this transition. We are changing that though by raising kids that will be open minded and embracing. Congrats on the new baby! Feel free lean on me, and all of us here, for support and understanding:)

[sowisa]

Just realized I mispelled my partners name in my above post (we recently changed the spelling). She is JulyaOrina.