Sexual orientation

[ajborelli]

i was just wondering what are some of you guys sexual orientation?

i am pansexual for the most part, i lean more towards cis girls and other ftm but i would never rule out an mtf or cis males

[Yakshini]

I am pansexual, but my preference changes constantly. The pattern I have found is that it is easier for me to be attracted to women but I grow more attached to male partners.

[skakid]

I like girls... a lot.

[Dominick_81]

I'm straight. I only like women.

[Ratchet]

I am straight. I don't really understand all these separate sexualities. haha

[Lee]

No preference.  I love everyone 

[Aussie Jay]

I like to think of myself as liberal and I like the concept of pansexuality, but honestly I don't want someone manly or a penis that isn't mine. So that rules out pre op MTF (even though I know they are women!), other FTM or cis males. I would consider branching out to bi girls but honestly I would constantly wonder if she was in any way attracted to the residual (unfortunate) "female" parts of me. A post op MTF could be a possibility I've never really thought of it til this second...

But honestly I'd like to think if the right person came along I wouldn't care what shell they were in, but I have only ever dated straight girls and will probably continue to do so.

[malinkibear]

I like women.

[MaxAloysius]

GAY! Flamin'ly so.  People have been known to walk into my room and spontaniously combust. 

Seriously though, I love me some man.

[Nathan.]

I'm pansexual but have a preference for men.

[Taka]

i like people. some times looks is what attracts me, other times the personality. when i learned what pansexuality was, i realized i've been that for as long as i can remember. i've never been able to understand why one should have to treat the sexes/genders differently when it comes to sexual or romantic attraction

[Robert Scott]

I consider myself genderqueer -- I only like women.   I don't want to be seen as a hetro male -- I have spent too many years in the lesbian cultural and it's where I feel comfortable so I don't want to be called straight.

[Silas]

I'm a gay pansexual. Normally I say gay-leaning, but I very much like being gay.
I pretty much just prefer those of more masculine gender/gender expression, although sex is never really an issue -- female, male, intersex, sexqueer, I don't care very much. I just kind of prefer the last three. XD

I'm a little irked at the thought of being straight. Even bisexual feels inaccurate to me. So I think in a relationship with a lady, I'd still consider myself gay -- the closest I'd be willing to get to straight would be male lesbian. That term fills me with a really weird sort of glee. XD

[Adio]

Took me a while to figure it out, had my suspicions...I'm definitely gay.  Men only.  It makes me a little upset with myself, but I don't know if I could date a pre-op/pre-T trans man.  Perhaps pre-op/on T would be okay.  I'm dating a cismale right now and I'm very happy.

[bojangles]

Only attracted to the female species.


Rob's comment was interesting. I feel the opposite. Had some good times in the L community, but it was also a source of pain that I didn't understand until realizing I was in the wrong room.

[MasonM]

I tend to refer to myself as 'Try-sexual: Because I'll try anybody once'.

[Robert Scott]

Rob's comment was interesting. I feel the opposite. Had some good times in the L community, but it was also a source of pain that I didn't understand until realizing I was in the wrong room.

It's not that I ever felt like I was a full member of the group ... but it's the place that let me be myself - be more masculine - challenge gender norms - think freely -- so it's where I feel comfortable. 

[AbraCadabra]

Now what a melange it all is, hey :-)

Pre-transition I was hetero and would swear that by my grandmother's grave!
(Though plenty folks would have bet I'm a "queen" in the closet pumping iron, hee-hee)

Funny thing happened during about 4 - 6 month into RLE and HRT: I NOTICED MEN to be sexy! Hey hello!
Sexy, wide shoulders narrow waist good looks, athletic muscles, etc. yummy
Yet, I look at girls and like that version *very* much too - include some REALLY attractive MtFs here.

Have no idea where this is all going to end. If asked I say male appears mostly sexy and strong to me, girls as sweet, fluffy and huggable, and ever so nice to be with most of the time and share my secrets. And MtF with the ultimate insight into our dilemma plus some sexy left-overs of the male base-model (post-op by preference?) tuned finely to some athletic kind of girl or even girlie. Some MtFs have a *very* powerful attraction to me I find. Gosh, one could just *eat* them. (oh, oh, Silince of the Lambs?)

Now you go figure!
Luv,
Axelle

[ajborelli]

i like people. some times looks is what attracts me, other times the personality. when i learned what pansexuality was, i realized i've been that for as long as i can remember. i've never been able to understand why one should have to treat the sexes/genders differently when it comes to sexual or romantic attraction

i agree, but my only problem with everything is personally i find penis to be gross.

[dalebert]

I am strictly gay, attracted to maleness, though my tastes have broadened out a lot over the years with respect to the spectrum of maleness I'm attracted to.  Over time, I've tended to be more focused on fair-featured and not hyper-masculine guys which is probably why I'm often finding myself attracted to certain FTMs (conceding of course that some are way more masculine than I!).  I'm still attracted to more stereotypically masculine guys-- tall, broad-shouldered, athletes, body-builders, really deep voices and thick scratchy facial hair, etc., but I don't make much effort to date them for some reason.  I think maybe such a person sends me to an overly submissive mental state that I used to actually like but that I'm no longer quite as comfortable with as I once was.

I think I actually have a psychological block against dating women that goes beyond the physical.  There's considerable discomfort with the idea, like it's wrong to sexualize women on some subconscious level.  I have been briefly attracted to a boyish woman before only for it to fizzle when I realize she's not male.  I think back now to those occasions and wonder if they could have been FTMs.  In the same situation today, I would not have the same reaction.  That psychological block doesn't appear to be there for FTMs.  I think it has helped to hear the stories of a lot of FTMs and get the sense that they are in fact male and really always have been.

I'm jealous of pansexuals and bisexuals.  I would love to have such a broad dating pool!