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Resources for my mother?

Started by Kytri, November 15, 2013, 11:08:29 PM

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Kytri

I hope this is the right forum.

Anyway I recently came out to my parents over the phone. My mother's actually been super great, and we've been talking more than we ever did before. I haven't talked to my dad yet, but Mom says he's okay, but is worried to talk to me for fear he'll accidentally say something insensitive. They're both coming here for Thanksgiving, so we'll see how that goes. My mother's actually more versed than the average person in her local area on trans* issues, in that she has a read a book by a transgender person and sees us as humans worthy of rights and dignity and all that good stuff, but she knows very little beyond that. She is extremely eager to learn though.

Mom really wants to talk to other parents, preferably parents of someone like me (FTM, transitioning as an adult) but I'm not sure what to do. In my friend group I'm the only transgender person, so I can't put her in touch with anyone directly. Surprisingly, there is a PFLAG group the next town over from where my parents live but it seems to be inactive. I gave her the number for my local group here in Raleigh, but they haven't returned any of her calls.

Can anyone recommend another resource I could give her? My mother lives in a very rural area of southern Virginia, so rural that there is no high speed internet at her home and she doesn't want to look at anything at work because of her bigoted coworkers. So the best things for her would be something she can call on the phone. Books are also good, if she can get them at her local library, but she really wants to talk to someone.
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Cindy

There is a lot of info in the wiki here, you could print it off or email it too her.
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LordKAT

Google PFLAG, they are for families
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Gina Taylor

That is really so cool that your parents are so open-minded to your situation!  :) I really wish that mine weren't so closed minded. I've tried to give my mother a bunch of diffrent resources to read just to educate her on what I'm going through, but because she doesn't want to accept the fact that I'm a woman and not her son, she denies these things.  So when I tell her next year that I'm going full time, she'll have to accept it. ;D
Gina Marie Taylor  8)
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Kytri

Quote from: Cindy on November 16, 2013, 12:59:55 AM
There is a lot of info in the wiki here, you could print it off or email it too her.
Oh that is a good idea, thank you!

Quote from: LordKAT on November 16, 2013, 01:10:21 AM
Google PFLAG, they are for families
But, I did? I said in the first post that we already tried them and they are not returning my mother's calls.

Quote from: Gina Taylor on November 16, 2013, 03:25:57 AM
That is really so cool that your parents are so open-minded to your situation!  :) I really wish that mine weren't so closed minded. I've tried to give my mother a bunch of diffrent resources to read just to educate her on what I'm going through, but because she doesn't want to accept the fact that I'm a woman and not her son, she denies these things.  So when I tell her next year that I'm going full time, she'll have to accept it. ;D
It is! I was so worried about telling her and then she just accepted it as a part of me. She has asked a couple of "are you sure" type questions but she's always careful to say she wants me to do what's best for me. My Mom wins all the best Mom awards just for that.  I hope your mother will come around, I think she probably will.
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LordKAT

You said you gave the number of the local group, not that you looked up the information on their web site. There is a lot there also. Sorry about that.
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Valerie

You might try looking for a MeetUp group in her area.  Find out how far she's willing to reasonably travel to attend.  Once she makes the first couple of meetings, she'll have a few connections & won't necessarily have to attend the MeetUp in order to feel supported & have camaraderie. 
"When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too."                 
                                                             ~Paulo Coelho


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Kytri

Quote from: LordKAT on November 16, 2013, 08:55:48 AM
You said you gave the number of the local group, not that you looked up the information on their web site. There is a lot there also. Sorry about that.
Oh, okay. It sounded like you thought I'd never heard of them or something. I am familiar with their website.

Quote from: Valerie on November 16, 2013, 09:01:42 AM
You might try looking for a MeetUp group in her area.  Find out how far she's willing to reasonably travel to attend.  Once she makes the first couple of meetings, she'll have a few connections & won't necessarily have to attend the MeetUp in order to feel supported & have camaraderie. 
Oh that's not a bad idea. I haven't had much luck with MeetUps for myself, but it didn't occur to me to look for MeetUps for Mom. Thanks.
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