Quote from: pluto on July 01, 2011, 08:59:21 AM
We are freezing her sperm but we need to see how Nevada responses to her being transgendered first before we bring a baby into the world.
That's understandable, but it likely is going to be tough realistically. For instance, we know that women make less than men do at the same type of work. This is despite laws that say that women and men are treated fairly when it comes to employment - reality and law don't always match (although the law does need to lead reality). People who have transitioned face a lot of prejudice, both overt and covert, intentional and unconscious.
I'd also ask if you have to live in Nevada - chances are your partner will make the most money in whatever area is most in need of her employment, so having some flexibility there would increase your options.
QuoteI was not 100% aboard doing this BUT did not know what type of future "financially" i would be bringing this child into. We have NO idea what to expect in this new journey. Is the society truly hard to live in being transgendered, is it hard to find a good job that will not discriminate. Nevada just passed a no discrimination act on transgendered in the work place and it will be effective in October. Am I being scared for no reason? I want to have a wonderful family and I am afraid if I can't with the spouse I truly do adore then I will really and truly be heartbroken!!!
There is very little financial security for most of us. Even people with great jobs get laid off and file bankruptcy, and arguments over money is still a huge reason for divorce for people who make $200,000+ a year. Even construction - as I'm sure you know - is not the money maker it used to be (and it's not a career path that treats 35 and 40 year olds well, as everyone is one injury away from unemployment, so you very well could be in this situation even if your partner stayed in construction - just at a different stage of your child's childhood).
Many people raise a child well with relatively low incomes (although trying to do it according the suburban middle-class way of living won't work on low income). And plenty of people with tons of money screw it up. It's a good thing to consider the needs of the child, and that is good that you are putting your child's needs in front of your own desires. At the same time however, there are plenty of families headed by a man and a women where the man either doesn't have the higher paying job and/or where the man can't work at a good paying job, so lots of people struggle with the same issues, even if the "cause" is different - and some of them find ways to make things work.
That said, nobody knows the future. When things are bad, it's hard to see any light. But that doesn't mean there isn't any light. Your partner might find a wonderful career.
