Ask Matt Monday: Gender Confusion – City, Suburbs, and Small Towns

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Ask Matt Monday: Gender Confusion – City, Suburbs, and Small Towns

July 4, 2011 by Matt Kailey

http://tranifesto.com/2011/07/04/ask-matt-monday-gender-confusion-%E2%80%93-city-suburbs-and-small-towns/

A reader writes: "I'm a gay trans guy in my mid twenties who just moved to a gay neighborhood in a large city. I'm originally from a relatively small town, where I was living a double life. I was "she" at home (living with family), but when I'd go out with friends I met through a local GSA I was "he" and constantly in fear when in public with them that a family friend would overhear them calling me by male pronouns and out me to my family (I've had many close calls).

"I moved to the city with the intention of being able to be myself without fear. I figured I would use this as my 'real life experience' so that when I came out to my family, I could prove to them that I'm sure about this and it's not a phase.

"I'm doing everything I can to be male full time here, but I seem to be the only one who thinks I'm a guy.