Where'd you meet your partner?

[Janet_Girl]

Hehe.  She is in Cornwall.  Soon to be my new home.

[JungianZoe]

Still looking... I have no clue how to meet people though, but I've been single for 3.5 years and am sick of it.  All my friends are with someone and keep going on double dates with people and I'm feeling more and more left out.

Past relationships were all chance encounters, but it's been six years since I've had anything resembling that.

I keep having this fear that my years of social ineptitude will result in me never learning about this part of life and being alone forever.  I also recently came out of the closet that I've been into guys my entire life, but dated girls to make the feelings go away.  Now I have no clue what I'm doing and not sure any straight guy will ever accept me until surgery, which is years away at my current income potential.  Even then, who knows...

[Jennie]

I met my "significant only" , I like significant only better than other because other implies there is more than one and for me there is only my one and only "SO"
Anyway we were friend since high school.
I think School and church is good places to meet people, aloha.

Jennie

[caitlin_adams]

I think what Cait was saying was that she was afraid transition would leave too many uneasy first date answers for her to be able to start a family AFTER transition, rather then start a family and THEN transition.

Exactly.

I'm not proposing to have a family and then transition, not at all. I am concerned that transition in my mid twenties leaves me with too much baggage to start a family. Frankly I'm resigning myself to the idea that for me transition means forfeiting the expectation of finding a life partner and the expectation that to have kids I will need to find an egg donor and gestational carrier and enter into a surrogacy arrangement, neither cheap nor easy.

[JessicaH]

that right there is probly the biggest thing that scares me about transition

That scares you about transition? If that scares you consider starting that family and entertwining your life with someone, only to have the GID finally put enough pressure on you that you have to transition after you have the house, cars, kids, inlaws, etc.  If you think your family will give you a hard time now, wait til you have a heartbroken spouse and confused kids in the mix.

If you have GID enough in your late teens or early twenties and you are even considering transitioning, get some serious therapy and figure out NOW if you are a man or woman. If you are truely transsexual, the GID will only get worse and you will end up suicidal or miserable or transitioning at a later age causing a lot of trauma to those around you.

[AbraCadabra]

RIGHT! Jessica you put those words out there for me. Thank you!

I think the OP is badly confused in her way of presenting her case.

It is all forgivable IF YOU DO NOT KNOW (what do you pretend you don't know, eh?)... but as you say to start a family and THEN get moving, oh my.
I feel sick to my stomach.
You are there right now Jessica, I been there. Just too much pain all around...

'nough said,
Axelle

[caitlin_adams]

The complications arising from beginning transition after having started a family must be incredibly difficult. I can't imagine what it would be like having to explain it to your children or going through a divorce, especially if children are involved. It must really hurt.

Several months ago my partner left me. We'd been together six years and it was incredibly difficult, she was attracted to one of her co-workers. I'm lucky we didn't have kids.

That said, I'm still scared that transition will prevent me from starting a family, but as stated above I'm investing all my hope in surrogacy.

[Starriver19]

I met my wife in a local gay bar 8yers ago. She and I are trying to have a kid befor the hrt turns me starile. My wife is very supportive of my choese to change my gender. Her mother even told me should i lose everything that she would be happy to have her new daughter live with her i was so happy.

[Amazon D]

I have 2 ex's and two kids but i never really had a LTR. In my present condition i doubt i will ever find someone who wants someone like me. However, the door is always open. Oh i may soon be building my addition to my house which means a bathroom laundryroom and composting toilet. yeaaa

[wendy]

Exactly.

I'm not proposing to have a family and then transition, not at all. I am concerned that transition in my mid twenties leaves me with too much baggage to start a family. Frankly I'm resigning myself to the idea that for me transition means forfeiting the expectation of finding a life partner and the expectation that to have kids I will need to find an egg donor and gestational carrier and enter into a surrogacy arrangement, neither cheap nor easy.

Adopting children is a fantastic gift to person that is adopted.  A child is abandoned and someone else takes them into their home and loves them.  That is very generous.

Divorced men with children can marry a MTF and there is instant family.

..........................
Actually I would not know how to date.  I guess men still ask women out on dates.  Earlier part of last century I did asking.  Maybe I could buy some blue pills for an old geezer and tell him here take this blue pill and if you mix them up you will grow breasts.  To which he might reply, "What did you say Sir?"

Going out with MTF's has been fun.  They do not consider me a male and they like males so that that connection will not happen but we have fun.  I have one MTF with absolutely great hair for an older person.  We are like "Odd Couple or maybe Old Couple" when we go into building supply stores.  We are a hoot!

It is awkward and uncomfortable for me.  I would never expect to find a great friend as I had.  She remains a best friend but really does not want to be romantic with another girl.  I can understand that.  She would have preferred for me to have had cancer, lost my legs, or have died.  I hope she didn't really mean that. 

I probably need to find "Super Geek"!  ...and we can be in Geek Heaven for rest of our lives.

Hmm sounds like a best seller, "Dating Guide for MTF." 

[JulyaOrina]

I joined a new site, that has got to be the best I've ever found!  It matches people by relationship match percent, friendship percent, and enemy percent.  It is inclusive of all sexuality's(though not all genders  m/f are the only options).  And there are people on there honestly looking for personal connection above all else !  And, the icing on the cake...  ...It's FREE!  ok cupid dot com 

PS
   My wife is on there too, and we're a, match 99%, friend 85%, and enemy 4%!  That is the highest I've ever heard of!

[AbraCadabra]

Oh, oh,
there is a load of cupit.com scam info out there... just to put one link of so many:

http://www.shamscam.com/cupidcom-scam-a2497.html

To good to be true? Yeah like most always.

Axellle

[JulyaOrina]

Not cupid.com, but okcupid.com.  It is completely free, and not many ads...  The fact of the matter is that you can google, "any dating site + scam", and get results.  Typically, it will be because of users and not the site it's self.  This site does not hound me for money (nor really have many features that aren't free), I can contact people without paying anything, it is left to me to filter who I contact, and what information I give to them (but, that goes for the real world as well...).  I have found it a very comfortable site, but to each their own.

[AbraCadabra]

OK...!!

kind a close to some problem site though.

Thanks,
Axelle