Quote from: Kay on July 15, 2011, 10:25:16 PM
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I guess I find it odd for someone to make this all about society, and about hinging your self worth completely on the opinions of others. (sorry, couldn't resist the turnabout 
) And while that's how you presented it, I have my doubts that you meant it completely in that way. If your body didn't bother you, then why bother changing it? 
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I do admit that living socially as who I am is important. It's definitely part of it...but it's not 100% of it for me.
If it were, I'd just work to become a really convicing cross-dresser and forget HRT, electrolisys, surgery, etc...all of the costly, risky, and painful parts of this.
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I'm not doing this for others...or even for their acceptance. I'm with Birgitta (BTW love the puppet, Birgitta 
). But it's not primarily about self worth, it's about congruence. It's about not having to completely ignore your whole body to survive, much less attempt to live. About being able to look at yourself and feel connected to your own skin rather than crawling in it. If that sort of internal pain and dissonance isn't something you've experienced, then consider yourself lucky...it's not fun. Being a "woman physically" isn't *all* about what's in the pants...but those parts are as much a part of the dissonance as all of the rest. And as Birgitta noted, that dissonance can result in a fair amount of mental suffering, which if not alleviated only grows worse...leading to some pretty extreme ends for some.
Hi Kay!
I agree with you. I have not had surgery though yet and still have doubts...
the fact is I will have a post op TS body... not a female body... and im not sure if I will become more happy/unhappy then I am now. I never saw SRS as a solution of my genderdysforia. Im trapped in this body. Wether its pre op or post op. Im not sure either way, and whats best. Fact is that I just would have wanted to be a real woman. I dont like being a TS.l
Im glad im on hormones though!!! It improved my life drastically. So perhaps SRS will too. Yet i think its a brute surgery and I want it done right and dont trust the surgeons I have acces too. Btw every surgery creates riscs.
As for dating men, its even an advantage for tgirls to be pre op. Its not like men only want you post op. And that you will then have the life of a normal woman. You will always be a TS. And the more passable one is, the more you will experience life as a woman. Im passable but not stealth by far. So i have to be deadly realistic about myself and my situation.
Love
Birgitta
