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Ready or not, the full time date is set!

Started by LifeInNeon, August 22, 2011, 10:43:15 PM

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LifeInNeon

Update! I'm accidentally full time!

My birthday is September 2nd, so Sept 1st is the last day I will answer to my boy name outside of official legal capacities until my name change.

I had picked this date at the very beginning. I figured I was giving myself enough time that way to get on hormones and get a good few months of them in before going FT. I got very lucky with both family support and cooperative doctors, and so I will be just a few days shy of three months on HRT when I go full time. :-)

But more importantly, I wanted to reach my crucial 1 year in role by the time I was 30. I don't make a big deal of surgery; I don't discuss it often and I have yet to be the first person to mention it in conversation. I downplay it a lot and I try not to focus on it because financially it is impossible today. However, I am in a rush to qualify because no matter what else, I don't ever want a delay in going full time to be the reason I have to wait.

I'm not ready for full time. I don't pass except to very casual glances and willing supporters. My voice is only 3/4 there which means it sounds like I'm trying too hard, still. But I'm going back to school, so the first day of classes is a great time to go FT. I don't want anyone in my classes to know my old name. Not because I'm stealth, but because I don't ever want them associating me with that name. I'm fine with them knowing I'm trans; I just don't ever want anyone thinking my name is something optional.

So, ready or not, starting in September I will be Autumn to everyone. :)
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Janet_Girl

Welcome to the Dark Side.   >:-) >:-) >:-) >:-)


We have cookies.   ;D


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Constance

Congratulations, Autumn! This is great news.

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Colleen Ireland

Way to go, Autumn!  Lovely name, too.  Hey Janet, how come I never got my cookies??  :laugh:

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LifeInNeon

I accidentally went full time yesterday. I was meeting with the LGBTQ coordinator for my school, and it was my first time out in public under my new name and fully presenting. There was nothing that really made me nervous or uncomfortable. It's not like anyone looked at me like some kind of alien or anything. Everyone who had occasion to use pronouns over the course of the day even got my gender right. So, marking it in the win column there.

So how did this accidentally become full time? Well, I had always planned on September 1st as being the day. It was the day before my birthday and I wanted to reach that critical one year mark before my 30th birthday. But once I got home something just clicked and I said, "I'm done with that life."

From now on, I'm Autumn. Always and everywhere. By the end of October it'll be legal, too.
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caitlin_adams

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Colleen Ireland

Quote from: LifeInNeon on August 26, 2011, 06:35:06 PMBut once I got home something just clicked and I said, "I'm done with that life."

From now on, I'm Autumn. Always and everywhere. By the end of October it'll be legal, too.

High fives, girl!  Congratulations, and Happy (re-)Birthday!  I'll be baking cookies tomorrow...  :laugh:

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