I'm full time

[MarinaM]

As of today. I dress like an athletic girl and stuff, and I get read a lot, but it is what it is. I slid into it (people started questioning my gender genuinely about two weeks ago), and I'm sure it will get easier as I go along.

So, I'm a little curious as to what your definition of full time is. I had to figure some stuff out before I could decide I actually was (though some people swore I already was). I simply abandoned my male shirts, put on some flower framed glasses, styled my hair, and started covering my beard shadow more aggressively in every day mode. All of those are things I wanted and liked to do anyway. Kind of a weird non-event that happened 5 months early, really.

[AbraCadabra]

Full time RLE (Real Live Experience) is to live full time 24/7 as a female.

OK, spare the menstruation and such... and practice to wee sitting down in lieu of future "developments" i.e. SRS?

Axelle
PS: Nail varnish is optional, makeup very much less so, as being considered a "female cultural and social requirement" uhm.

[justmeinoz]

Firstly congratulations for being confident enough to take the plunge.

For me it was when I changed my name to Karen, which meant there was no going back.
Otherwise, when you  only wear women's clothes in public because you have thrown all your men's clothes out I guess.
Or maybe when you have changed the name on your credit card??

Karen.

[VannaSiamese]

To me full time was when I started using the women's bathroom.  I had been living as a girl for around a year before then, but always avoided the restroom... but once I started using the girls bathroom then I considered myself full time. 
Congrats btw =)

[AbraCadabra]

Woopsy, 1 year full time and not using a restroom? I'd have split my bladder!

I mean how to go to the gents toilet in girl-mode?!

Went full time and go to the Ladies. Period. --- Had a hand written note from my psychiatrist that said I'm required to be in female cloths for evaluation.
NEVER, EVER had to use it --- oh, right, once when changing my ADSL line from ex-gf to myself to avoid funny questions.

Today, I think not even that was really needed - but in the beginning, what do we know, hey? :-)

Axelle

[VannaSiamese]

Woopsy, 1 year full time and not using a restroom? I'd have split my bladder!

I mean how to go to the gents toilet in girl-mode?!

Went full time and go to the Ladies. Period. --- Had a hand written note from my psychiatrist that said I'm required to be in female cloths for evaluation.
NEVER, EVER had to use it --- oh, right, once when changing my ADSL line from ex-gf to myself to avoid funny questions.

Today, I think not even that was really needed - but in the beginning, what do we know, hey? :-)

Axelle

=)  I was going as a girl but sorta androgynous, so at the time I didn't mind using the men's restroom.  I eventually caused too much commotion and had to start going to the women's bathroom.  This all happened a couple years ago, but that's when I considered myself to be full time.

[AbraCadabra]

Heehee, * caused too much commotion * eh?

Not surprised hearing that. I'd get a freak on having to go to the gents either which way :-)

[JennX]

Cool. Welcome.

This pic says it all:



As for the RLE definition... I say it varies based on the person and their situation. It's different for everyone and is very fluid and always changing. But I'd say dressing, presenting, and living 24/7 as a member of the opposite gender is about as specific as I can define it.

[Stephe]

If you have no guy clothes in your house, I'd say that's one good marker of starting full time. I really found that the legal name change was where I felt it most even though I was living full time for 9 months before that happened..

[cynthialee]

To me full time is when you nolonger have anyone who you will tell the boy lie to ever again.

[Janet_Girl]

For me, full time was presenting in your preferred gender, regardless of what you may be doing.  i.e.  If you have an appointment as "Jim", you go as "Jane".

I was also full time, when I legally changed my name.  With the clothes I still have a couple of tee shirts that were male, so that does not work for me.

Love those tees.

[MarinaM]

The clothes part of the definition didn't work for me either, as every time I have tried to use a men's restroom in the past couple weeks I've been given the evil eye. Doesn't matter what I wear. My relatives don't recognize me if they haven't seen me in a while, and the bathroom is just a mess of an issue I'd rather avoid in public altogether.

There are some permanent changes I have to make (with laser, name change, etc...), but I've not told anyone my boy name, nor have I dressed exclusively "male" for weeks. My therapist has affirmed that I don't even have to change my boy name because it's becoming a common girl's name, but I still will, eventually.

So, what propelled me wass finally letting go of my quirky personal safety nets and being out at work. It's not scary at all, really.

Edit: Thanks everybody

[MarinaM]

When I was considering Suporn a factor was a law change in Thailand that defines fulltime as legal documentation. Written letters from therapists were not enough. So if SRS is ever a consideration for you, keep that in mind when trying to determine your fulltime date.

But if your name is already neutral, I wonder how they determine fulltime then? Any Thailand girls and boys know?

Well, a name change is in the plans, and I will likely have it changed at least a year before I can realistically consider surgery, so I don't think it will be a big problem. I'm overlooking the process right now.