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What made you realize you are a woman?

Started by Maga Girl, July 27, 2011, 04:40:06 AM

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AbraCadabra

Narela, one more thing.

There is the issue with GID-attacks. It is something so powerful (for some/all?) of us at some stage or another, that it freaked me out totally. And over and over again. I experience it as an incredibly deep sadness when it comes over me. The realization that I was not in a girl body and always wanted to be one. Play with girls, live, eat, sleep, just be a girl.

It was not really an issue (for me) up to the age of 6, when all things were sort of equal. But when at 8 or 9 I wanted to cut my penis off, have earrings and just BE a girl, the jig was up.

Socialization then (in that generation) FORCED you to be what your body happened to be. THERE WAS NO ARGUMENT AGAINST IT. Folks would have thought you mad, offer you electro-shock and other medicines to GET OVER this madness.

The point is that what ever we try as transsexuals IT DOES NOT GO AWAY. That deep sadness of being in the wrong body. It is an emotional killer if you have it. It's not some play-play Halloween thing. It is deadly serious and plenty TS folks for that reason end their lives.

So how to explain it? It just IS - and it effects your life badly until you can, and are ALLOWED to transition and find inner peace, TO BE WHO YOU ARE.

Axelle
Some say: "Free sex ruins everything..."
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LilKittyCatZoey

Haha First of all i dont think that i am transsexual  :D

I believe i am a girl simple as that. Was it My choice i am a transsexual nope because thats the term. Do i like the term? not really i prefer "so your a girl" and i can say yes  :D If someone only saw me as a transsexual i would most probably castrate and tell them well now your nothing   ;D ;D. I dont think anyone is a transsexual personally i think people who say they are transsexuals are still not completely convinced who they are( Dont fight me on this not worth it).

To sum it up to me transsexual is a stupid term people who couldnt see a girl as a girl and visa versa came up with out of fear of the unknown to exclude us from our true genders.
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Sunnynight

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Lisbeth

Quote from: Cindy James on July 27, 2011, 05:11:44 AM
I think most if not all will tell you they do not identify as transexual.
Please do not speak for me, Cindy.

I am a transsexual. There is no way to deny it. I fit all of the criteria of the medical definition. And I don't agree with people who say, "I'm a woman, not a trans-anything." I say you're wrong because you are trying to deny and erase the past. That way lies neurosis, like your life before came out. Get over it; you have to live with your past. Can't do that by hiding from it.

Quote from: Narela on July 27, 2011, 09:59:14 AM
I know ¬_¬

But, how you realized it ?? 

I know you all understand what i mean ...
You ask the same thing my son asked me when I came out to him (he was 12 at the time): "How do you know you want to be a girl, and aren't just a boy who likes girl things?"

I can't give you any better answer than I gave him. "I don't know how I know; I only know that I do."
"Anyone who attempts to play the 'real transsexual' card should be summarily dismissed, as they are merely engaging in name calling rather than serious debate."
--Julia Serano

http://juliaserano.blogspot.com/2011/09/transsexual-versus-transgender.html
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Ann Onymous

Quote from: Cindy James on July 27, 2011, 05:11:44 AM
I think most if not all will tell you they do not identify as transexual.

pre-operatively, it was a term that applied to me.  Now if the subject ever arises, I am simply a lesbian who previously had a transsexual medical condition that was surgically resolved many years ago...

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~RoadToTrista~

Quote from: Lisbeth on July 27, 2011, 01:36:54 PM
Please do not speak for me, Cindy.

I am a transsexual. There is no way to deny it. I fit all of the criteria of the medical definition. And I don't agree with people who say, "I'm a woman, not a trans-anything." I say you're wrong because you are trying to deny and erase the past. That way lies neurosis, like your life before came out. Get over it; you have to live with your past. Can't do that by hiding from it.

I agree.
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madirocks

Quote from: LilKittyCatZoey on July 27, 2011, 01:03:05 PM
To sum it up to me transsexual is a stupid term people who couldnt see a girl as a girl and visa versa came up with out of fear of the unknown to exclude us from our true genders.

I agree, but it is what it is, and we are who we are.

Unfortunately Narela, I wouldn't be able to say without giving an essay on my life story. But, I will say this, I didn't know that I'm transsexual until another recent GID attack. But, it was just one of many. I got fed up and did my research.

I am curious as to why you ask though. Self-doubt can be dangerous.

And Trista, I love you avatars. :)
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Silas

When I was little and learned my colors, I knew the sky was blue. Before I knew my colors, I knew it had a certain hue that it shared with other objects, even if I didn't know the hue's name. I didn't know HOW, or what made it blue, and no one I asked could ever tell me, but I knew for a fact it was blue. Now, I'm sure someone could give me a scientific reason. But I know I'm male the same way I knew the sky was blue. It was just a known fact, even if I couldn't explain it.

People know their gender, but they can't always explain it. This goes for cis and trans* folk alike.
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madirocks

Quote from: Valeriedances on July 27, 2011, 02:15:00 PM
It isnt a stupid word. . It is a word for describing a condition. Its a serious enough word that I had my genitals changed surgically. If you dont have that condition then you arent transsexual.

I'm not sure who you're trying to fight with here. There's no need for it though really. We're all here for the same reason, which is why I think the title of the topic is a little strange to me.

Silas, that's beautifully put! That's precisely my thoughts on it. :) It's not really something we "think" we are... we just are.
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wendy

When people ask I tell them I am me.

I think people that transition can be close to who they are in their mind.  I have heard people say they "were" a transsexual and now they are a woman.  They do not deny their past.  They will tell me they lived as a man and now they feel more comfortable living as a woman.  They are no longer a transsexual but a woman.

For me it is simple.  In past I was me, in current I am me and in future I am me. 

I relate to people that claim title of subject.  I have meticulously tried to prove to myself that I am not; however why am I trying to prove I am not?  Why do I do things similar to people that I am not?  Why do I find comfort in doing things that have brought them comfort when I am not one of them!

Condition is not logical and I am very logical.  In conclusion I am me and in my mind I am normal but my body does not fit my mind and if I get a chance I will try to make mind and body agree but in end I am still me.

Your question is a Great Intellectual Dilemma or GID.
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Whitney

When I was six I'd make soap-potions in the tub to make my wee fall off. When we played dress-up I was always a female character. Halloween was an excuse to dress like a "real-girl". Growing up I was incapable of making lasting friendships with other boys, I was always the ninth-wheel. Girls, on the other hand, were easy to talk and hang out with. Oh, and since I've begun my transition I've had several very old friends tell me they've never seen me happier in the decade they've known me. My two cents.
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inna

The German term "Transsexualismus" was introduced by Hirschfeld in 1923. The neo-Latin term "psychopathia transexualis" and English "transexual" were introduced by D. O. Cauldwell in 1949, who subsequently also used the term "trans-sexual" in 1950. Cauldwell appears to be the first to use the term in direct reference to those who desired a change of physiological sex. So, we use term transsexual which was invented before deep understanding of intricacies and fluid dynamics of gender. This term has evolved and because of its sexual connotation has been largely replaced with more user friendly and all encompassing transgender which directly explains within its makeup the gender issue. Never the less, I for one consider my self transsexual, and describe my condition with the word which used to send chills down my spine only short while ago. I am no longer running away from the dreaded term but embrace it as mine. Transsexual woman would be right on the spot, giving note to end point of my transness through gender and secondary sexual characteristics. Enough about the term!

How do I know I am transgender? Well, Herry Benjamin has derived set of principles which illuminated tendency to be a transgender. Primitive as it were, it has been embraced by the psychological society at large to this day, although individual therapists use their own more detailed approach to determining the character.

I truly believe that if someone logs in to Susans Place, makes an effort to enroll and then ask the question, then it surely would be a proof of gender flux, or gender question on his or her mind. Also I believe that all the people who are here as members fit into this transgender community and as far as those who revert to manhood after transition, for the majority or all this return to life as it was is not the return to true self but being discontent with struggles and problems facing us after such transition. Some simply give up the struggle and revert to status quo. I once asked my therapist who is a PHD and with extensive knowledge in research, weather she has ever observed someone be cured so to speak to which she replied "there are those who choose to remain male to satisfy demands of life, family, career but out of all my patients over the span of 30 years not one hes ever been granted peace by remaining their former genetic gender"
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cynthialee

Oh I don't know. Maybe because when I had my testicles removed I couldn't wipe the grin off my face for three days inspite of the pain?
So it is said that if you know your enemies and know yourself, you can win a hundred battles without a single loss.
If you only know yourself, but not your opponent, you may win or may lose.
If you know neither yourself nor your enemy, you will always endanger yourself.
Sun Tsu 'The art of War'
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kate durcal

#33
I said I am a girl as soon as I could talk,
I want to be pregnant,
I want to breastfeed,
I want to be "pounded" (F... hard and long)
I want my breasts,
I want my vagina,
and I WANTED ALL OF THIS YESTERDAY !!!

What I am?

Kate D
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LilKittyCatZoey

Quote from: kate durcal on July 27, 2011, 04:35:39 PM
I said I am a girl as soon as I could talk,
I want to be pregnant,
I want to breastfeed,
I want to "pounded"
I want my breasts,
I want my vagina,
and I WANTED ALL OF THIS YESTERDAY !!!

What I am?

Kate D
Lovely answer Kate
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Francis Ann Burgett

Good for Kate.

Myself, not sure or whatever word someone chooses but just always a girl as early as I remember in my life. Though I was a girl til first grade them told I was to play with this other group/boys, I knew that was wrong. I'll never forget that the teacher told me I had such nice long eyelases & that I would make a beautiful little girl. She was sad that I was a boy & so was I. 
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Korlee

Quote from: kate durcal on July 27, 2011, 04:35:39 PM
I said I am a girl as soon as I could talk,
I want to be pregnant,
I want to breastfeed,
I want to "pounded"
I want my breasts,
I want my vagina,
and I WANTED ALL OF THIS YESTERDAY !!!

What I am?

Kate D

This is an answer.
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Nurse With Wound

Scaring away, my ghosts.
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~RoadToTrista~

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jamie nicole

I may be "labeled" as transsexual but I am 100% woman....its just that my path to womanhood was a little different than others
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