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Social sexual creatures are we all…Or are we really?

Started by Anatta, July 29, 2011, 03:53:55 PM

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Do you feel a need to belong, a need to feel loved ?

I need my social and sexual needs met by also having an "intimate" long term relationship
9 (27.3%)
I need only my social needs met by also having a long term "platonic" relationship
4 (12.1%)
I already have my social needs met and have a "platonic" relationship with my life partner
1 (3%)
I already have my social needs met and have a "intimate/sexual" relationship with my life partner
10 (30.3%)
I'm socially content, having enough interaction in work, rest and play...
4 (12.1%)
I have "other" personal needs to be met-explain if you feel like it...
5 (15.2%)

Total Members Voted: 31

Anatta



Kia Ora,

  ::) I "choose" to live alone but I get all the social interaction and the love  I need when interacting at work, with friends and when  with my children and other family members...In other words, the way my life is now is one of contentment, I'm happy when in the company of others and just as happy alone with my thoughts...However if I were to have a relationship it would have to one of the platonic kind, I'm asexual bi romantic/affectionate...So it would be ones personality and not ones gender that attracts me...

::) The idea of this thread and poll, is to find out where those of us who have reached their journey's end - transitioned physically/hormonally[with or without genital surgery] -crossed the gender divide, or are still journeying across the divide, are at when it comes to having their social & sexual desires met...

I know for many trans-people who have completed the physical part of their journey, their spiritual and or emotional and social journeys are still works in progress...


Thank you in advance for your participation ...

::) Remember it's the message-not the messenger... ;)


"If you want to feel more fulfilment in your life-you should want more of what you "already" have and not more of what you don't have!" 
   

::) I hope you all find what you're looking for...

Happy Mindfulness :)

Metta Zenda :)
"The most essential method which includes all other methods is beholding the mind. The mind is the root from which all things grow. If you can understand the mind, everything else is included !"   :icon_yes:
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Sunnynight

Although I voted that I have my needs met and have an intimate/sexual life-partner, I want to be clear that my partner doesn't fill all my social needs, even though she is my best friend too. No one person can be your everything.
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Pica Pica

I get all the social stimulation I need, I have a close family and a varied group of interesting friends. To be honest I am frequently over-stimulated socially and need some time to rest. Especially during school times (where I work) during which I need more time alone after work.

I deal with intimate emotional things by talking to my sister and a few, very special friends. I would like to find a soulmate and enjoy those times, but I do not expect to 'create' one from the desire to create one.

I could do with someone sexually, and that area is something I am lacking fulfilment in, but 2 outta 3 aint bad.
'For the circle may be squared with rising and swelling.' Kit Smart
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kate durcal

Quote from: Zenda on July 29, 2011, 03:53:55 PM

Kia Ora,

  ::) I "choose" to live alone but I get all the social interaction and the love  I need when interacting at work, with friends and when  with my children and other family members...In other words, the way my life is now is one of contentment, I'm happy when in the company of others and just as happy alone with my thoughts...However if I were to have a relationship it would have to one of the platonic kind, I'm asexual bi romantic/affectionate...So it would be ones personality and not ones gender that attracts me...

::) The idea of this thread and poll, is to find out where those of us who have reached their journey's end - transitioned physically/hormonally[with or without genital surgery] -crossed the gender divide, or are still journeying across the divide, are at when it comes to having their social & sexual desires met...

I know for many trans-people who have completed the physical part of their journey, their spiritual and or emotional and social journeys are still works in progress...


Thank you in advance for your participation ...

::) Remember it's the message-not the messenger... ;)


If you want to feel more fulfilment in your life-you should want more of what you already have and not more of what you don't have!" 
   

::) I hope you all find what you're looking for...

Happy Mindfulness :)

Metta Zenda :)


If you want to feel more fulfilment in your life -you should persue more of what you do not have, and forget what you already have!"

If mankind would have follow Metta Zenda ill advice we will still be in a cave with no language, agriculture, or technology. Her philosophy only leads to a mindless state of disconnect with reality. Let me give you an example. The Tibetan lamas "saw" the incoming Chinese take over of Tibet, and what they did about? Send their chief to exile, and bend over and take it. 60 something years later, and no a F... chance Tibet will be free. In my personal life, I see this philosophy play with my Jewish ancestor in the 1930's and 1940's in Europe, very few of them did zilch, and went up in smoke.

I sbeg you, do not embrace this loosing philosophy, embrace you humanity, let your "thirst" or "greed" drive you to better places, to create, to transcend our animal nature.

Kate D

Note that I am expressing my thoughts, and I am not postig the views or viedos of anybody



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Anatta

Quote from: kate durcal on July 29, 2011, 08:55:31 PM


Note that I am expressing my thoughts, and I am not postig the views or viedos of anybody


Kia Ora,

::) I guess you're gonna make about as much sense as your medication allows you to Kate...I suppose it's to be expected, so as usual I've made allowances for it... ;)

::) I can see that you're well rested and all fired up raring to go...Well here's your shovel Kate start digging...You're on your own this time, no more help from me... ;) ;D

Metta Zenda :)
"The most essential method which includes all other methods is beholding the mind. The mind is the root from which all things grow. If you can understand the mind, everything else is included !"   :icon_yes:
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Lisbeth

Quote from: Sunnynight on July 29, 2011, 06:05:12 PM
Although I voted that I have my needs met and have an intimate/sexual life-partner, I want to be clear that my partner doesn't fill all my social needs, even though she is my best friend too. No one person can be your everything.
Hear hear!
"Anyone who attempts to play the 'real transsexual' card should be summarily dismissed, as they are merely engaging in name calling rather than serious debate."
--Julia Serano

http://juliaserano.blogspot.com/2011/09/transsexual-versus-transgender.html
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Maga Girl

Based in my transtation I have chosen

I have "other" personal needs to be met-explain if you feel like it...

I only have social and sexual needs XD


I don't want a partner XD , i don't believe in love, i think is a mental state that disappears with time
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Kelly J. P.


At this time, I feel like I have no social needs. I'm not sure I understand friendship, or love. I also have no sexual needs... that's more straightforward.
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MeghanAndrews

I voted for the first one, but I don't know if I did it right. I currently have a content social life with my friends and my family. I don't have any wants in that department. I do eventually, post surgery, want to be in an intimate relationship with a wonderful partner. This guy will kind of be that piece that makes my life a little more complete. Ive been married twice to my best friends and I know what it is to have that, but this time it will be different. And I can wait a long time for a relationship if I have to, I'm not one of those people that seem to have always have to be in a relationship or life is hollow :)
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RhinoP

Honestly, my life's ambition is to become a filmmaker, always traveling and shooting at different locations, seeing my screenplays come to life, and making honest, large sums of money in the process. I have a $30,000+ bill out of pocket to pay if I want to truly transition to the point that would be acceptable for me (multiple surgeries, hormones, outfits, ect ect) and filmmaking is really the only career that pays in a huge lump sum for immediate talent, instead of working the regular $8-an-hour paychecks. It's just like inventing a product, the sales and income methods are exactly the same; you make a lot of money in a very short time for bothering to do something outside the 'norm'.

And the reason why many people would not like to do that type of career (no matter how much they want to complain that these inventers, filmmakers, actors, ect etc are making more them) is that it indeed requires non-stop traveling; you cannot see family, friends, and it's usually not wise to even own a car or a house. It suits me perfectly; I have no friends, no family, no house, no car, ect ect and I want to busy myself into my career 100%. However, sexually, the most I need is hopefully a young hispanic male escort; and the most I'd do with this escort is probably flirt and touch, my sexual desires aren't really at all nasty. I have absolutely no innate desire to be with someone in a relationship!
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kate durcal

Quote from: RhinoP on July 31, 2011, 01:29:42 PM
Honestly, my life's ambition is to become a filmmaker,
, the most I need is hopefully a young hispanic male escort;

What kind of credential or education is requiered to be a film maker?

You can hire Narela

Kate D
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kate durcal

Quote from: Zenda on July 29, 2011, 10:43:59 PM

I guess you're gonna make about as much sense as your medication allows you to Kate...I suppose it's to be expected, so as usual I've made allowances for it
Zenda

Resorting to innuendos? Lost your mindfulness? What Buddha would say?

Kate D
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tekla

always traveling and shooting at different locations  Not if there is anyway in hell they can prevent it.  Other than 'Starring Lindsey Lohan' I don't know of any other words they hate more in the industry than 'on location'.  It's not LA, it's not Hollywood, the costs double and then double again on location.  The first thing they think in Hollywood when looking at a script is: 'Isnt' there anywhere in LA we can make look like this?' 

you make a lot of money in a very short time for bothering to do something outside the 'norm'.  Again, not likely.  You make a lot of money doing one of the five movies Hollywood always does, and doing it in such a way that people are not immediately reminded that they are watching one of those same five movies.  And then only after a lot of years an a lot of success in getting people to watch what you are making.

And the people - directors and producers - who really do that stuff are about the most social people in the world.  It's all about who you know, and how you know them.
FIGHT APATHY!, or don't...
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Maga Girl

Quote from: kate durcal on July 31, 2011, 02:03:34 PM
What kind of credential or education is requiered to be a film maker?

You can hire Narela

Kate D

Yes, i no have friends, etc...  , and i'm VERY open minded to do all things in sex

My favorite phrase is ''No money no honey'' XD So...
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RhinoP

There's absolutely no education requirements to being a filmmaker; some of the most famous names, like Tyler Perry, never went to college - Perry specifically never graduated high school. Shooting a film is also much different in today's time than it was in the 80's; more films are shot on location than not, and in today's time, the process is much more natural and from the ground up. The majority of the films you see in theaters, or more specifically indie theaters (where the films still make extraordinary amounts of money), are simply created by talented people who can dedicate their lives to the process, and when the film is finished, it's then sold (almost like a homework project) to a film distributer who wants to make money off it it; Lionsgate is famous for simply buying films and not funding/controlling them.

Basically, most laymen get a distribution company and a producer confused. A producer is a person who literally has stock piles of cash, and invest in a film project in order to get even more money out of it; they also have some levels of control over the film (aka the "Hollywood", though producers are usually specific friendly people and not companies). However, the "Hollywood" that most people think of simply does not exist. There's no "big film company in the sky" that all films are churned out of. The filmmaking process is made up of literally millions of creative teams across the country that film films in every state, every location, and every place they want to. Filmmaking is simply no longer done in a "Hollywood studio", nor are all films controlled by the big name companies like Warner or Fox. A big-name film may make $8 Million in revenue, but even the most underground unprofessional indie horror films that you can find at the dust bin of Blockbuster Video still do make lots of money for simply "being made"; you can find the most low-budget, goofy film in the world, and chances are it made at least $20,000 for the people behind it.

Specifically if you write and shoot films that are naturally geared for an indie distribution, or belong to "cheaply done" genres like that of Blair Witch or Paranormal Activity, the process is almost just like a bunch of college students filming a project for their teacher. There are complex factors to work out (insurance for your actors, funding the cameras and equipment, getting proper location liscences), but other than that, for most films, the act of filming it itself is relatively easy. It's much easier than say, being a doctor or a lawyer, and it's just because the process isn't well advertised (many filmmakers love being secretive), most people don't consider a career in that field. It also indeed requires traveling, press conferences, interviews, promotion, ect ect and while people behind the filmmaking process do have families and friends, it's not a "stable" lifestyle in terms of having a schedule. Just like the army, a filmmaking dad may have to be away from his wife and kids for months at a time. It's not a lifestyle that you can still attend a weekly book reading meeting every Wensday or the same church every Sunday.

Well, it may not be as unstable for the actors and filmmakers who can afford private jets and such, but...lol.
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Anatta

Quote from: kate durcal on July 31, 2011, 02:11:59 PM
Resorting to innuendos? Lost your mindfulness? What Buddha would say?

Kate D


Kia Ora Kate,

::) By trying to defuse the volatile situation [that you often choose to create], with light humour... I'm attempting to be "mindful" of your somewhat irrational, volatile mental state...

::) I'm sure the Buddha would approve of such mindfulness...

Metta Zenda :)
"The most essential method which includes all other methods is beholding the mind. The mind is the root from which all things grow. If you can understand the mind, everything else is included !"   :icon_yes:
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tekla

A big-name film may make $8 Million in revenue
made at least $20,000 for the people behind it.

You are not being realistic.

I've had an IATSE union card for a long time now, I don't do much in terms of movies, but I have done some majors, and I know a lot of people who do that side, and I don't think your close to being right.  It's not some mom and pop deal all over the nation.  It's pretty well set down in LA and NYC, and it's not a secret, there are major college programs that feed people to the industry.  And by far, most of the people in the industry get up in the morning in Los Angeles, and go to be at night in Los Angeles, and really, really never, ever want to go much of anyplace else except for exotic vacations.
FIGHT APATHY!, or don't...
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Pica Pica

Quote from: RhinoP on July 31, 2011, 01:29:42 PM
I have no friends, no family, no house, no car, ect ect and I want to busy myself into my career 100%.

That might be the most depressing sentence I have read in a long time. I hope things rectify themselves.
'For the circle may be squared with rising and swelling.' Kit Smart
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kate durcal

Quote from: Zenda on July 31, 2011, 04:59:32 PM

Kia Ora Kate,

::) By trying to defuse the volatile situation [that you often choose to create], with light humour... I'm attempting to be "mindful" of your somewhat irrational, volatile mental state...

::) I'm sure the Buddha would approve of such mindfulness...

Metta Zenda :)

Humor my ass, what a crock of ->-bleeped-<-, stick to you guns girl. Your phylosophy is the anti thesis of mine. You are trying to sell your belives, and I mine. Nothing more nothing less.

Kate D
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tekla

Boy, were can I sign up for that kind of calm, peace, and contentment?  That kind of understanding, compassion and mercy?   I'm going to find out as soon as I rotate my tires tomorrow.
FIGHT APATHY!, or don't...
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