Pornography

[RebeccaFog]

I found this page. It's not obscene. It's a brief interview with someone who makes porn. I thought his point of view might contribute to the discussion.

http://www.salon.com/life/feature/2011/07/27/porn/index.html

[kate durcal]

He looks wasted, the life-style show in his face. Not impressed but digustated.

Kate D

[RebeccaFog]

No one should be impressed. It's meant to be informative.

[tekla]

Interesting article, and I know the bar all too well.

[RebeccaFog]

The woman who wrote the article has a weekly column at Salon.com. She described going to some kind of live sex show once and made it sound as ordinary as a day at the mall.

[tekla]

For many people it is.  SF is the most openly kinky place in the world.  Lots of events, a few of them very public, and one, an outdoor fair several blocks long.

[Cindy]

My original reason to bring this debate on was from an article that stated that hard core pornography ( called GNOS? for some reason) was destroying male desire for 'normal' sexual relationships with females. the males were too turned on by the images to respond in a 'normal' way to their female partners desire.

OK lots of holes here ( ). Sexual thoughts has been part of sexuality for ever. Trying not to sound too dumb 97% of male and 65% masturbate regularly.  There is a massive break down in age as expected ( I will not give refs but follow ups from Kinselly's flawed study). 

But masturbation does not lower male sex desire, It often increases it.  "I saw a women wearing sexy lingerie and had  wank, I come home and you are wearing the same" So I thought having a cold shower and a game of golf was needed; or " I just want to make passionate love to you"

But where the article was coming from was if my male partner prefers wanking to porn what do I do?

He sees me as the chick in the flick, He no longer makes love to me, he wanks in my vagina, I'm porn.


So how do we deal with this?

Ciny

[tekla]

Are you saying that he can't differentiate between movies and reality?  Or that its easy to dismiss people who really don't have much of a personality to begin with?

[Cindy]

Are you saying that he can't differentiate between movies and reality?  Or that its easy to dismiss people who really don't have much of a personality to begin with?

My original question  is obvious. And has been ignored, as usual.  Which is what  i expected.


Read my post,  apologies you may need to think. oh ->-bleeped-<- the t word

Entertaining  though


Cindy

[tekla]

Well in fairness the OP was rambling and confusing and often wrong.

To wit:I do think that Western society has got more violent and that one of the reasons is the depiction of violence in TV, movies etc.

There are two unsupported claims in that, first that Western society has become more violent, which is not born out by statistical evidence.  And that that the causes of that lay in media and not behavior.

[cynthialee]

Pretty sure society is allot less violent and safer than in previous centuries.

At least I don't have to worry about the next village over sending 1000 polearm weilding thugs to steal our harvests.

[tekla]

Less violent then even 20-30 years ago.

[Pica Pica]

My original reason to bring this debate on was from an article that stated that hard core pornography ( called GNOS? for some reason) was destroying male desire for 'normal' sexual relationships with females. the males were too turned on by the images to respond in a 'normal' way to their female partners desire.

There is some interesting stuff about this in the book 'Affluenza' by Oliver James.