First Night out

[jessicas37]

Well I finally Got up the nerv and went out in public saturday night, it was local club with weekly drag shows. I figured this would be a good starting point for me and it was....

I walked in the door expecting everyone in the bar to just stop and point but the exact opposite happened(nothing). I stayed from 9:30pm to 3:am and througly enjoyed myself.

I tried not to drink to much , no alcohol just coke. But half way through the night nature called. I got to experience my first "Line for the bathroom" while in line i met some wonderful

women who were so respectful and helpful to me. At least 4 standing around me (in front/behind) were very helpful congradulating on my courage to come out. And helping me understand

what i did "wrong". I discovered that since i have an almond shapped face that a bob wig would deffinatly compliment me more then my current selection of straight long hair. I wore this

http://www.kohls.com/kohlsStore/womens_plus/dresses/PRD~753253/Chaps+Floral+Surplice+Dress++Womens+Plus.jsp dress, and was informed that jeans and good print blouse

would be more approiate.Especially with my size I am 5"7 246lbs but loosing quicker than i thought. My makeup was horrible and i thought it was pretty good, I was showed how to properly

put it on and even given some to take with me. I am just floating right now this has to be the second greatest day of my life(1st was holding in my arms the life i created).

thats all just  had to share.....

[AbraCadabra]

Well hon, we girls can be marvelous company.
It's so heart warming to hear this yet again, and to read your account.
Bravo, well done honey!

Axelle

[justmeinoz]

Absolutely brilliant way to start.  Sure beats a quick late night dash into the supermarket!   Sounds like you have made a few girlfriends too.
A local therapist here suggested looking at some of the better women's magazines (not the trash ones) such as Vanity Fair, Marie Claire and Vogue to get a feel for what works best for me.
Congratulations on a fantastic debut.

Karen.

[madirocks]

Absolutely brilliant way to start.  Sure beats a quick late night dash into the supermarket!   Sounds like you have made a few girlfriends too.
A local therapist here suggested looking at some of the better women's magazines (not the trash ones) such as Vanity Fair, Marie Claire and Vogue to get a feel for what works best for me.
Congratulations on a fantastic debut.

Karen.

Don't forget Harper's Bazaar! And, my personal favourite is Wallpaper* Magazine. http://www.wallpaper.com/

[caitlin_adams]

Absolutely brilliant way to start.  Sure beats a quick late night dash into the supermarket!   Sounds like you have made a few girlfriends too.
A local therapist here suggested looking at some of the better women's magazines (not the trash ones) such as Vanity Fair, Marie Claire and Vogue to get a feel for what works best for me.
Congratulations on a fantastic debut.

Karen.

Ohhhh, I started with a quick late night dash into the super market (ok, it was actually K-Mart). I feel like such a cliche

[jessicas37]

One thing i would like to mention for anyone whom might have some advise, I notice my greatest weakness is my voice. I am normally soft spoken and have been practing for quit some

time to get into the proper range, in a normal environment i am confident with my voice. But while in a bar or large area where i have to speak up to be heard "like when ordering a coke"

My voice drops real deep. i have since tried practing at home (2 finger method) and low volume is fine but as volume is raised pitch drastically drops.

[AmyxRobin]

I'm young and I haven't taken any steps to transition and I've never crossed dress but I have a voice that sounds like any other girl. I am not sure what other methods were but all I did was I sung my favorite songs till I'd grown into it, I've been complimented on how real it sounds so I thought maybe that could help ^^; (I can't hum though O.o)

[apple pie]

I myself find that the volume you can make with your voice is like a muscle—it is weak at the moment, but when you use it more, it will be stronger and you can speak more loudly in that pitch.

I remember just a year ago when I went to have dinner with a friend, I struggled to keep speaking over the background noise, even though like you I could already speak confidently when doing so softly. But when we had dinner again not long ago, I could talk to her non-stop for 3 hours over the noise without any problem. I think it's because I've kept using my voice the whole time in this one year of time, including talking a lot on Skype to online friends (whom I don't know in real life) and also going full time since half a year ago. So I think if you just keep using it (by that I mean just speaking normally, and not trying to practise speaking loudly—I never tried to practise speaking loudly at all, as it just strains my voice), it will get stronger by itself and you can speak a lot more loudly eventually!

And I don't really know what pitch you use to talk, but I find that my talking voice actually sounds more feminine in the low range, with a baseline pitch of about 160 Hz, so perhaps practising sounding more feminine in a lower range might be a good idea too.

[Francis Ann Burgett]

Going to local gay bars with drag shows is a GREAT PLACE to learn & enjoy being a woman. You can relax, you can meet other "women" ->-bleeped-<-s not like us but still they know how to dress nice.  You can practice speaking better more feminine & normal, soft & polite. Most of the men are gay but sometimes you might find a straight good looking man, let him buy you a drink & talk, it's OK. If you like him tell him your a 100% girl inside & only enjoy pleasing a real man. Be safe & careful protections wise.

I had grand times at those bars & met some real hunk type men.

Good luck girl friends,

Francis