"I hate to ask II"

[BillieTex]

Ok a first fo me, I have been working part time at a place with a lot of regulars for 5 months, and a lady walked up with the I hate to ask.... she and her friends were split 50 50, i admitted i was not a gal (wasn't even trying to be)  and she said "I thought so" I told her it happens from time to time and don't sweat it.... 50% and wearing a cami with a shelf bra under my t shirt to keep 'em in check, mayby next week no cami and let my hair loose he he he I was not embarassed, and quite happy tonight, gonna be a good night's sleep Yeaaaa!!!!! Sorry I know many of you are long past this point but let my have this moment...

[Princess of Hearts]

Seems rather rude to ask outright.  It is late here so perhaps I have read your post wrong?    Would you go up to a person and say 'err...I hate to ask but are you a homosexual?'   I am glad that you aren't embarrassed and are happy within yourself, self acceptance comes before everything else. 

P.S. I see that you are a staff member that might explain it.   

[BillieTex]

Of corse it's rude to ask!!!! that goes without saying!!! I try very hard to ignore rude and look to the positive - seems most of my life has been filled with negitives and dissappointments so I'm at a point I gotta try. Oh, and - staff? I'm happy ot have a job(s) he he

[Kimberley]

Yes it was rude to ask but I see a positive to this. If she had to ask then she wasn't sure which means that you are passable. If you were not passable then she would not have asked.

[tekla]

Seems rather rude to ask outright.

It's the USA, we're pretty much the rudest people on earth.  It's simultaneously our best and worst national trait.

[Hikari]

Some people have a bit more tact at least. Yesterday when I was in arby's dressed in male clothes (though, Tripp pants are kinda gender neutral, and so are t-shirts. I did also have a bit of eyeliner on, but hey I was wearing all black) and this woman who was walking by our table on her way to the bathroom stops in her tracks, waits a second, and then her expression changes a bit, as if she figured something out and tells me "oh, that is some nice hair you have there". I say thanks and even though I know that she was trying to figure out my gender, she complimented me in the end, rather than insulting me.

I am kinda used to being stared and and such, so it isn't too big of a deal, but it is nice when people have some tact.

[BillieTex]

there we go trying to make a negitive into a positive

[GinaDouglas]

I never had a customer at work ask me, but a few have asked my co-workers.

But what I think is rude is when a complete stranger comes running after me and asks if they can take a picture of me and them.  I do it, but geez.

[Dana_H]

Wow!  That IS rude.  I would never go up and ask a total stranger for a picture!  Well, I do it at the science-fiction conventions with cosplayers, but that's completely different.     (I am SOOOO looking forward to GalaxyFest this coming February!)

[JulieC.]

It's rude but I would take a positive out of that too.  Half of her friends vote I was female.  And in the end they had to ask to be sure.  For me that would be.....Yeahhhhh! 

[eshaver]

I dunno, some des folks ain't got no decent upbringin............. ellen 

[Keaira]

My best friend, who works in a different area of the factory I work at told me last night she has had 4 people ask if I have had SRS yet. She tells them she knows about as much about my junk as she knows about theirs. 1. you'd think that with a rumor mill as fast as ours would have that answered/ twisted by now 2. why the fascination? 3. Maybe I some secret admirers? 4. I still dont look very feminine.

[noeleena]

Hi.

Rude not at all . for me i wellcome people coming up to me & asking . tho i preempted that because of being in the media  on T V  & interviews for Papers as well. & being well known.  those that dont know me will look at me & wonder. as you see in my pic a bit different . im not trying to be male or female so as people see me & get to know who i am ,   i enjoy being seen & talk to & with people ,

This of cause will depend on self worth , confindece in your self  as a person , & being one strong woman who knows who she is , & how to be constantly  in front of people all the time, i said woman because thats how im accepted . tho im intersexed , that has helped me tremendously. both men well some , & women accept im different yet no problems  ,

women are more at ease with me of cause, . & thats not to say i dont have some neat men as friends , & that has surprised me because i thought most would shun me , so it goes to  show , there is acceptance when you go about it in the rightway, & my demeaner shows as i interact with people , being out going interested in others as well. & inviteing people in to you life is really just so neat, . why do i have ,,,,so,,,so,,,, many friends , i think youll know why.

...noeleena...

[justmeinoz]

Best answer-"and which are you?" But then I do like to mess with peoples heads.

[jmaxley]

Best answer-"and which are you?"

Win!    The next time someone asks me, I'm totally using this.

[BillieTex]

Best answer-"and which are you?" But then I do like to mess with peoples heads.

I love it that!!!!