your first time....

[saraharmstrong]

I am still not yet out at the moment although I got a few women's clothings from shop. I only dress indoor (skirt, legging and shirt), I think I quite like the feeling of dressing skirt and shirts. but I think it is embarassed to buy them from shop. In general, which clothing shop would you prefer for your shopping?e.g ASDS, Tesco, Topshop, Primark,H&M, Zara, M&S or Debehnam? I am still not sure which shop is the best for women clothings.

I got myself a dress, bra and a legging from Debenham and Primark last time. One of staff in Denbenham seems very helpful and helped me to look for my size. By the way, do you know if the fitting room is individual or not? I do want to try some tops and skirts before buying them in the shops but you know, I am embarassed as I have been taking on hormone not long ago. Anyway, I would definitely want to go out when dressing in female, but I am not confident enough, I don't have boobs so how could i wear a bra although i brought a white one, i love it. I got a high heel from Asda as well. Do you girls have any suggestions?

[JungianZoe]

I took one hell of a plunge the first time I went into public visibly female.  Got dressed in a hot pink shirt with a tight, white overcoat, and black flared pants.  As for hair and makeup, it looked exactly like this:



Those pictures were taken February 28 of this year,  the week before my first time going out dressed female.  I'd been going to work like that for two years (in fact, the first picture above was taken at work before I even came out).  Then on my first day dressing female, I went to work and told my boss for the very first time that I was trans and was going full time and that's why I'd been wearing makeup to work for two years.   She just smiled and said "okay!"  Then she asked if I wanted to make an announcement at the meeting that coming Friday, and that's when I told all of my coworkers.

[Sunnynight]

You look great in those pics Zoe. I really like your style.

[BillieTex]

Zoe!!! Zowie!!! You look wonderful!!!! I could never look like that. (but i can dream    )

[JungianZoe]

Thanks, you two!  I wasn't trying to show off, just thought a picture spoke a thousand words when it came to the second half of the original question.   Scary thing is, that was my "boy mode" for the nearly two years before I came out and went full time.  It was about 2.5 months on HRT before I felt confident enough to go out in women's clothing (so those pics were around 2 months).

[Jillieann Rose]

I'm sure you didn't have any problems Zoë.
You passed even then.
My first outing was more then 3 years before I started hrt.

[V M]

My first time was years before I even knew that transitioning was possible    I'd been randomly collecting stuff I could find for quite awhile and keeping it hidden

I was totally closeted and yes, I was a bad girl - raiding the Goodwill drop off area after dark even though I could afford to buy just about anything at the time   I was too afraid to set foot in a women's shop and the internet didn't exist then

I did however buy my own panties at Kmart along with a birthday card and claiming they were for my sister    I couldn't bare the thought of wearing used undies 

So anyway, I got made up and nervously drove for miles down the freeway and was surprised to have guys checkin' me out and giving me the  "Hey Baby" looks, smiles and waves

But then I was getting low on gas and had to stop somewhere    I nervously pull into a self serve isle and the attendant told me to relax and did the whole full service routine then asked for my phone #... Again I was bad and gave him the name and # of one of my X girlfriends and said I could hardly wait to hear from him

Feeling a bit more confident and rather hungry I stopped to get fish and chips at a nice lil' beach town... So then I made my way home

Didn't have much for problems really, other than a few people commenting on me being a tall drink o' water or such

It was probably one of the most liberating and nerve racking days I can remember 

[Francis Ann Burgett]

It's a mental & physical act/thing. 

Mentally relax chill, the world does not care at all, people are busy, they did not wake up to see what funny looking girl they could spot that day. So mentally just be a girl/woman relax, enjoy the feelings if not normal. I've always felt mentally normal so no big deal for me.

Physically, dress as any normal woman/girl for that day. Most women do not dress up at all if you notice. if it's hot don't wear pantyhose obviously...... Normally we are more attractive than the average woman. Do not over dress flashy unless your on the troll. Remove all extra hair, shave legs smooth, they will feel great & look great. arms & hands remove all hair. Guess shave close, we have no choice for most of us. Makeup use some as to fit the time of day or night.  Just do all as any normal would, it's no big deal.

Voice if you have to speak just do your best if rough voice, it's hard to hide. If someone realized you are male just tell them you are having fun being as female as possible, it's fun. Look them in the eye. Just tell them man or woman that you are doing just fine, I'm enjoying being a woman. Be assertive & feminine.

Good luck, my 2 cents worth.

Francis