Ways do deal with not yet being socially accepted as desired gender

[AndyBCM]

Hi I'm Andy and i'm a 19 year old trans guy. I haven't started hormones yet, though i'm diagnosed and everything its just i have to work through a lot of family, financial and other **** before i take that step. I've been living 24/7 as male since January now and even though i dress in mens clothes, bind, have short hair, male name and pronouns (Basically everything one can do without medical intervention done) but socially i still haven't yet crossed the line to male. I never pass and i get constantly she'd and miss'ed everywhere i go or people just think i'm lesbian. I can understand why as i have a feminine voice and features but it hurts when other gay men won't even acknowledged me. That's a major issue since i identify as a gay male yet not one will show any interest back. I know it can't really do anything until i start hormones and that will make it easier for them to see me as ascetically as male and as attractive to them but until then does anyone have having ideas for coping mechanisms?

[Natkat]

I know how it feels.. I also get alot of these, specially because im pretty femenine, and T have started to work alittle but my voice is still not deep enough to pass..
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I would since you havent been out that long (since january) I can say, its get better.
as you get out, you start to get used to things, and you start to notice on yourself what makes your more or less pasable, it takes time and can help.
but even the really maculine people can still have a hard time to pass without T.
some lucky ones dont need it, some.. do unless they dont care about the passing.
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if people get my pronoucing wrong I often have friends to correct them, I also do somethimes myself,
it depends.

[Nygeel]

I really don't know. I spent 6 or 7 years presenting as male as much as possible yet being unable to do the basics as male. That was pre-t now I'm almost 9 months on T and it hasn't changed. Just sort of living for the future.

[RyGuy]

I really don't know. I spent 6 or 7 years presenting as male as much as possible yet being unable to do the basics as male. That was pre-t now I'm almost 9 months on T and it hasn't changed. Just sort of living for the future.

i guess this is the best advice. live for the future. try to appreciate what you have right now, but know that things will get better eventually. nygeel has probably had the hardest passing/presenting struggle out of everyone on the forum, but even 7 years is fraction of a full lifetime, about 10%. assuming that he has now spent about 25 years not being interacted with as a male, that still leaves him with over 2/3 left of life to be lived as he pleases. some day we will all be old men with beards and high waisted pants and maybe even children running around screaming grandpa at us. transition, though a significant one, is such a short journey compared to an entire lifetime.