Why I am not queer, or the trials of dating as a radical lesbian feminist
http://womononajourney.wordpress.com/2011/08/08/why-i-am-not-queer-or-the-trials-of-dating-as-a-radical-lesbian-feminist/8/8/11
In my last post, I gave a very partial overview of my journey into lesbian-ville. Just as I never felt comfortable with men, I never felt comfortable in the boy-based GLBT movement. I would go into my local GLBTIQ shop and find a small section of lesbian fiction with an increasing amount of erotica. I attended a regular lesbian discussion group, and many women there dis-idenfied as feminists altogether. (Hey, if I'm going to be a lesbian, I can still get attention from the boyz by not being a feminist!) S/M, dildos, and porn were all the rage. I have been teased by a lesbian friend for spending so much time hanging out with het women, but honestly, the ones I hang with are not into boy-based sex. I have becoming increasingly in despair about where young lesbians are headed. Most totally erase anything to do with woman identification, by referring to themselves as "queer." As I very much would like a girlfriend, and one I can actually talk to, not just make love with, I am having intense trouble finding a partner.
