D+ for grammar, A for sentiment!
My therapist and I discussed this last week considering how boy crazy I've been lately and desperate to find a date. For some reason, I can't shake this overwhelming sense of loneliness right now and I'm really wanting to date someone. And I get totally hung up on the fact that I've never been asked out or even approached. It's quite upsetting me.
But then she told me that we transwomen, for so many guys, represent their biggest fear: castration. I guess it never really occurred to me because there wasn't a time in my life where I didn't want this disgusting thing off me, but guys genuinely fear losing it more than almost anything. And it kind of made sense. My breasts are still infinitesimally small, but I'd be devastated if I lost them. Like seriously, crying myself to sleep every night devastated.
So that's a part of why some men fear us. And the fact that they feel the masculine ideal is to reject the feminine, and that includes the very notion that they might fall in love with a man. If they view us as castrated men and not as women, then that triggers all the masculine defenses.
It was an interesting conversation!
