My Wife Keeps Stealing My Girly Stuff

[Chloe]

Well in a twist on "the norm"...... My wife keeps raiding my . . .

Daughter's are even WORSE, but maybe she'll at least ask "daddy" first (underwear? Never but otherwise how can i say no?)!

[melissa42013]

I think the #1 most important thing you must do for your own sanity before or early in transitioning is to learn to accept yourself and be comfortable with you are as trans. It was once, not too long ago, my biggest fear and now I really don't care. I am stealth transitioning for the benefit of ease of acceptance for my wife and to give me time to sort out everything that needs to happen. But here are some of the things that happened to me that made me laugh now but would have killed me had I not been comfortable with being trans.

* - On my first HRT doc appointment they asked it if was ok if his intern came into the room with him. I said ok and in walks a drop-dead gorgeous female college medical student. Yea! And then he starts asking me all sorts of private questions about my trans experience.

* When I went to pickup my first E script the pharmacist was very concerned that I understand WHAT the doc had prescribed for me. I told her I did understand. She asked WHY and I said, "Well because I'm trans and am going from MTF....lol

* When I went to get my bloodwork they lady looked at me strange and called the Dr. to see if they really needed to test estradiol levels and why. He told her none of her business he was addressing hormone imbalance issues.

* When I went to buy some makeup to see how I would pass after a few months on HRT the cashier asked me if the makeup was mine. When I said yes he said..... really? I said yes and he said.... "are you sure?" and I said yes, it is mine thank you.

* When I went to my GP for a physical and to come out to him as trans they asked if I would mind if his intern came into the room too. Guess what, another georgous medical student.... yea! This time I took the opportunity to try and educate her on the TS medical issues as they don't teach it in medical school.

* There have been a few more of these and if you are reading this cringing wishing you could some day transition but this is just to embarrassing to handle...... well that is where I was eight months ago. Personal acceptance makes it all a lot more fun. I even have a list of people I am deliberately going to avoid so I can blow their mind when I am full time. If I have to go through this, then I am going to have some fun with it!

[xXRebeccaXx]

I think the #1 most important thing you must do for your own sanity before or early in transitioning is to learn to accept yourself and be comfortable with you are as trans. It was once, not too long ago, my biggest fear and now I really don't care. I am stealth transitioning for the benefit of ease of acceptance for my wife and to give me time to sort out everything that needs to happen. But here are some of the things that happened to me that made me laugh now but would have killed me had I not been comfortable with being trans.

* - On my first HRT doc appointment they asked it if was ok if his intern came into the room with him. I said ok and in walks a drop-dead gorgeous female college medical student. Yea! And then he starts asking me all sorts of private questions about my trans experience.

* When I went to pickup my first E script the pharmacist was very concerned that I understand WHAT the doc had prescribed for me. I told her I did understand. She asked WHY and I said, "Well because I'm trans and am going from MTF....lol

* When I went to get my bloodwork they lady looked at me strange and called the Dr. to see if they really needed to test estradiol levels and why. He told her none of her business he was addressing hormone imbalance issues.

* When I went to buy some makeup to see how I would pass after a few months on HRT the cashier asked me if the makeup was mine. When I said yes he said..... really? I said yes and he said.... "are you sure?" and I said yes, it is mine thank you.

* When I went to my GP for a physical and to come out to him as trans they asked if I would mind if his intern came into the room too. Guess what, another georgous medical student.... yea! This time I took the opportunity to try and educate her on the TS medical issues as they don't teach it in medical school.

* There have been a few more of these and if you are reading this cringing wishing you could some day transition but this is just to embarrassing to handle...... well that is where I was eight months ago. Personal acceptance makes it all a lot more fun. I even have a list of people I am deliberately going to avoid so I can blow their mind when I am full time. If I have to go through this, then I am going to have some fun with it!

Vey optimistic!!!!

[Nicole]

My mum used to steal my shoes, until the day she broke a heel

[melissa42013]

Vey optimistic!!!!

Always! You get what you focus on. IMO.
-M

[jamie lee]

My wife and I keep all our jeans together,  so If I buy a pair of new ladies jean that she likes, she doesn't even have to ask, she just takes them from the closet, and vise versa !. I have to watch the panties though I just got some new high cut with some pretty flower, and the next time I know she was wearing them and showing me how pretty they looked on her ! (easy come easy go ! )
But she surprised me and replaced them with a couple new pairs. 

[regan]

Always! You get what you focus on. IMO.
-M

I've found that it's alot easier when you're up front about it.  There's no reason not to be honest with your doctor's staff, your electrologist, you name it.  They either don't care or they're really supportive of you - but either way its alot easier then not being honest about it.

It gets hard to keep telling lies all the time.

[Caith]

Hi, Melissa!    I guess you should feel flattered she's "borrowing" your things.  At least that means you have similar taste and style preferences.  At the same time, she probably might not have appreciated you using her makeup in the past.  Maybe she didn't mind, but as you know, it's pricy and a buck's a buck these days.  My wife always likes anything new I get, simply because it's new, and she's envious.  If she doesn't care for the style or look, she'll say so.  Fortunately, I'm a size 20/22 and she's about a 12/14, so there's very little of mine she can "borrow".

My only advice is, enjoy that female friendship.  It's an extremely valuable source of support.  So many of us can only wish we had such a loving and caring spouse.