Advice on how to break it?

[Sam(my)I am]

Hey everyone, well I'm posting here just to get some opinions and advice on coming out.
As of right now I have not told anyone but a few very close friends online and I am stressing out a bit
with the idea of telling my mum and eventually others. I know she most likely be accepting but I just don't
want to add to her plate, school is starting up for myself and my 3 younger siblings so she has a lot on her mind.
This isn't the only thing my relatives that are very dear to my mum are having a hard time at the moment too.
So I'm currently struggling with the guilt that I'll be over taxing someone I love, and that perhaps she won't be as
accepting as I'd hope.
So as of past few days with my lack of sleep and stress pains(I get physically sick when stressed) I have come to the
decision I won't tell her until school has started and settled. Though with that out of the way, I want to ask~
How did you break it to people important to you, and do have any advice on things to say?

[annette]

Hi Sam

You don't want to overtaxing your mum, so you make a delay in coming out.
I think, the moment you want to tell is never a good time because there is always something going on.
On the other hand, when you're fully accepted, it was a very good time.
IMO you're giving it some time to collect some courage before you tell and that's very understandable, because there is never an easy way to come out of the closet, never, it feels like you are standing there naked in front of a bunch of people.
But, there is some good news about it.
The relief when everything is done.
I notice, when I read the stories of people that there is some quiltfeeling thing because some people are upset or something when they will hear the news.
But, did you ask for gid?
Nobody did, everyone of us would rather be born in the right gender, but, nature sometimes makes mistakes and thankfully there is something there could be done about it.
Take your time, and when you feel you need to say, just do it.
A lot of strength wishes when you reach that point.

hugs
Annette

[Vincent E.S.]

Hi Sam! 

It took me a long time to get the courage to come out (even though my mom had asked me about it several years ago). What helped me was to get on my laptop and type a letter to each of my parents. They each got their own letter because I know that they process things differently and would focus on different aspects, but each letter had the same basic information. Just having the letters typed took an enormous load off of me. It was hard to type them at first, but then the words came pouring out. I edited the letters a few times, and then, a few days later, copied them onto sheets of notebook paper. I figured that having the letters handwritten might help take away some of the impersonal feeling and also help show that I had spent some time on it. Then I put each letter into its own envelope(I actually couldn't find any envelopes, so I made some from construction paper).

I actually planned it out so that I could give them their letters on the same day. I got up early and gave my dad his envelope just before he left for work and told him to read it on a break. He works all day and goes to the gym afterwards, so he would have time to process it. I gave my mom her letter just before she went to church (she goes every Monday for prayer and meditation) and told her to read it there, because I know she feels safe their and also she could pray about it if she wanted to, and also have time to process.

I've actually been thinking about starting a new thread so I can post the letters just in case it'd help someone.
I'm also going to write a letter to a few students at school, the principal, and a brief heads-up note to each of my teachers, and give out the various notes on Monday, when school starts, though I'm going to meet with the school counselor before the school day in case she has anything to add to the principal's letter.

I hope that helps somewhat.  Eat cookies and play a game to get some of the jitters out before you start.