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haha anyone never get why?

Started by LilKittyCatZoey, August 21, 2011, 04:59:46 PM

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Forever21Chic




   Guys are weird.....the end.
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BunnyBee

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tekla

I'll just toss this in here, but a lot of guys (and a lot more guys than girls) work in jobs where their safety depends on the people around them, and I think part of that stuff is getting to know someone, which you have to do before you trust them.
FIGHT APATHY!, or don't...
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~RoadToTrista~

I thought you said "hit on" at first.
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Tyler92

I think it's what most people are saying, just a way to show friendship; just some playfulness...I was never manly, still not, so I don't know the actual reason why, but that's my guess
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cindianna_jones

Quote from: LifeInNeon on August 21, 2011, 09:14:34 PM
I think not understanding things like this is part of being MTF. :P I don't think I was ever wired to "get it", since I always disliked roughhousing of any kind. I can't turn off the empathy that says "But that would hurt!"

Ditto. I never understood this literal "Pecking" part of the man's man image. It reminds me of my dogs.  They do it all the time to establish who's on the top.
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tekla

Guys only do it to establish who is like fourth and fifth, the top dog, everyone knows.
FIGHT APATHY!, or don't...
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V M

It's only a pecking order with girls,  they tend to use their mouths rather than fists... With guys it's more of a pecker head order with the biggest prick dominating the others

On a friendlier note... It can be a form of male bonding
The main things to remember in life are Love, Kindness, Understanding and Respect - Always make forward progress

Superficial fanny kissing friends are a dime a dozen, a TRUE FRIEND however is PRICELESS


- V M
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valyn_faer

Actually, it has nothing to do with dominance, but is a means of bonding and creating a form of support network. This may sound odd or counter-intuitive at first, but a man would never hit another guy on the shoulder in a similar manner if that man was a total stranger or if he did not have a close enough relationship with him. He would probably not hit his boss on the shoulder, unless they happen to actually be close, or the CEO of his company (assuming the CEO is a man, which is statistically likely). If it were about dominance, then we would see men doing this with guys they do not know, which we do not. It is only after they have gained a certain sense of camaraderie that they are able to hit another guy on the shoulder without it being problematic. Also, as someone else noted, homophobia is a huge regulatory force for straight men. If a guy hugs another guy or touches him in a way that a woman might touch another woman to show support, he is labeled gay for doing so. Gender non-conformity among men is largely equated to homosexuality, and so homophobia also functions as a means of policing gender norms. Transphobia, androphobia, and other gender related phobias can and do function in similar ways, but those are whole other issues.
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milktea

hey girlfriends pinch and slap each others butts all the time too...at least my friends do!

oh and the bra snaps that is alleged to be a sign of good luck...
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