Dating and Kids

[Constance]

Anyone who would date me would have to accept that I have two kids. However, my kids are 19 and 22; pretty much adults.

At one point, I felt that I'd be reluctant to date someone with kids. Now, I'm not so sure that's such a good idea. If I find myself attracted to a person who's willing to date me, why would kids make me think twice. And yet, I do.

What about you, my board mates? If someone you fancied had kids would that make you reconsider dating them?

[~RoadToTrista~]

Nope, wouldn't matter. I'd still date them.

Besides, I'm trans so..... can't be too nitpicky. >.<

[Constance]

I'm trans so..... can't be too nitpicky. >.<

Yeah, that's occurred to me, too.

[espo]

Dating someone with kids would be much easier then dating someone with a spouse.

[JungianZoe]

Dating someone with kids would be much easier then dating someone with a spouse.

Ain't that the truth!

I certainly wouldn't run from a guy who has kids.  I've always wanted kids but was infertile even before HRT, so a built-in family would be nice to have.

[Constance]

Dating someone with kids would be much easier then dating someone with a spouse.

Yeah, that's where I'd draw the line.

[espo]

I can't see a negative with dating someone with kids unless you want their 100% undivided attention and you must have their 100% devotion to you .... which would be a little unhealthy and unrealistic. Personally, I would give it a shot cuz who knows !  I mean dating is just a period where you figure things out right ?

[Constance]

dating is just a period where you figure things out right ?

Good point.

[Ann Onymous]

What about you, my board mates? If someone you fancied had kids would that make you reconsider dating them?

It would depend on the age of the kids...my ex had a child who was 7 when she entered my life and we were together until the early teens (and I was involved in the child's life until graduation).  However, that was a child who was 7 going on 25 in terms of how she conducted herself.  I have been around other kids that age who I would NOT want to be sharing a household with. 

So, short answer is 'it all depends on circumstance...' But yeah, in some cases, it COULD be a deal-breaker.

[Constance]

So, short answer is 'it all depends on circumstance...' But yeah, in some cases, it COULD be a deal-breaker.

Makes sense. I also would not want to come between kids and their parents.

[Janet_Girl]

Interesting question.  I have four children, who are all adults.  Go figure, I am 57.  And I have 10 grandchildren.  If they can't understand we had a life before them, and it bothers them; Don't let the door hit you, where the good lord split you.  At least that is how I fell about it.