Being identified as female...?

[Lucy O Connell]

So you apparently 'give' 'too much' - don't know how you are, however, then I'm just guessing. My friend thought a little, she herself being gay, and came to the conclusion that the only things different she notices are my soft face with almost no beard. Hair a little long (for a 'man'). Didn't talk about the fingernails, though my hand is becoming more feminine, but she also doesn't know I'm on hormones too.

well this is me when fem

and this is me in male(bit of an old pic sometime in the last year)

i think people have always known i was different, i was never into anything other guys were into, i guess nobody ever thought i was gay since i did date women but i could of been seen that way if i didn't, i am jealious as i wish i was on estrogen also lol but yeah back on subject i belive that even adults can sence the girl inside, i did get mistaked for a girl before buy a few adults, lol xx

[versuchsanordnung]

I forgot to mention the bullies.

I have no idea how they could tell but they picked up my being trans like sharks. And because I couldn't tell anyone how I felt inside, mainly because I knew nothing about transsexuality or that I wasn't the only one, Everyone thought I was gay. But there wasnt the internet back then either. So I wonder if they would have still seen me as gay if the internet was available in the 80's.

i was bullied a lot. A LOT. I was the underdog of the underdogs, had absolutely no social or emotional support of any kind. I have probably heard every insult under the sin and then some. But no one ever called me gay or girly or anything along those lines. And no, i was not overcompensating. I was not seen as female of any kind, but definitely as non-male. I got beat up for talking funny, talking strange etc.... So, calling me gay or girly, not manly etc would have been the logic choice for any bully. But that never happened. Perhaps because it would have had the same effect on me as accusing me of having a nose? Even bullies are clever enough not to waste energy....

[soulfairer]

i always was 'chesty' since i was a teen, took a lot of kidding about it but secertly loved my mini figure. when i was a kid my grandma told me i had a cute frigure too - destiny

I'm fearing my chests are developing. In some places I bend my shoulders forward for the (loose, haha) t-shirt to cover them. If I stay too much on the fence, I fear having to use a binder.

I lived with my grandma! For some years. Now she's gone, but she cheered my life up a lot. Will always thank her...

[soulfairer]

well this is me when fem

and this is me in male(bit of an old pic sometime in the last year)

i think people have always known i was different, i was never into anything other guys were into, i guess nobody ever thought i was gay since i did date women but i could of been seen that way if i didn't, i am jealious as i wish i was on estrogen also lol but yeah back on subject i belive that even adults can sence the girl inside, i did get mistaked for a girl before buy a few adults, lol xx

I think you can, by what I can see on the photos, be both quite easily. Some people think I'm gay (moreso today because my hair is growing and I constantly caress it ), some don't because I date women too, and nobody close to me knows I'm on HRT. I wish it could be different, but I just can't...

[Lucy O Connell]

I think you can, by what I can see on the photos, be both quite easily. Some people think I'm gay (moreso today because my hair is growing and I constantly caress it ), some don't because I date women too, and nobody close to me knows I'm on HRT. I wish it could be different, but I just can't...

well thats gonna change once i start the hormones.

even if you were gay there is nothing wrong with that, for a long time i let that rule my life and i decided to stay in the ultimate stealth(being male) which as you can guess ended up very bad, because i would of been called gay and i honestly didn';t know who i was back then, i think you will have to tell them because using a binder is bad espicaly when your breasts are devloping it could hurt you or destroy your growth or make them mis shapen, don't tell them your on hormones but tell them your trans lets them adjust to that then once they are say your starting hormones soon and lie a little saying you devloped much more quickly than most people.
ofc your other option is to move away but i don't think u want that, but i would say to tell them because u don't want them finding out later, this will ruin your relationship with them, if you don't think you can do it to there face then try writing a letter and giving that to them, i did that and it worked enough for me. xxx

and additional question, how did you get over the fact you would become sterile once u started hormones? i want them so badly but this is scareing me and i'm not sure it should be....i guess like anyone else in this world we all want kids.

[HitOrMiss.]

and additional question, how did you get over the fact you would become sterile once u started hormones?

I got over it by banking sperm before starting HRT. Costs something like $240 a year to keep them frozen, though the initial cost of banking was more like $600-700.

[soulfairer]

well thats gonna change once i start the hormones.

even if you were gay there is nothing wrong with that, for a long time i let that rule my life and i decided to stay in the ultimate stealth(being male) which as you can guess ended up very bad, because i would of been called gay and i honestly didn';t know who i was back then, i think you will have to tell them because using a binder is bad espicaly when your breasts are devloping it could hurt you or destroy your growth or make them mis shapen, don't tell them your on hormones but tell them your trans lets them adjust to that then once they are say your starting hormones soon and lie a little saying you devloped much more quickly than most people.
ofc your other option is to move away but i don't think u want that, but i would say to tell them because u don't want them finding out later, this will ruin your relationship with them, if you don't think you can do it to there face then try writing a letter and giving that to them, i did that and it worked enough for me. xxx

and additional question, how did you get over the fact you would become sterile once u started hormones? i want them so badly but this is scareing me and i'm not sure it should be....i guess like anyone else in this world we all want kids.

Not exactly once I start them, but I weighed everything before starting HRT... I never really wanted them sooo badly. But I'm starting, yet. I simply don't know everything, unfortunately, but I'll try to decide for the best. This year is the one

So far I've been on the stealth side, but two months more (I think) and something has to be decided (or postponed, whatever). It's just that I'm ageing and, for that, if I stay in the middle it's okay, but I have yet to push the boundaries to really decide. It seems I work that way, because I've thought about it many times since childhood... Now it's time to get off the fence (or stay in the forest forever)!