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Started by valkyrie256, August 30, 2011, 08:08:41 PM

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valkyrie256

   Howdy fellow humans! The coming out process for this one has been rather slow and cautious, as I am still as a stage where I am uncertain where exactly lay on the gender spectrum, but I slowly but surely seem to figuring things. Today, at my University, I came out to a close cisfemale friend,  who I shall refer to as Helen, who I know I could both trust, and would be tolerant of this subject matter. I was very nervous, but managed to rather easily tell her how I didn't feel quite right as a male, and that I'm likely either Androgyne or MtF. To my surprise, she had done a research paper at one point on non-binary people, and she was very supportive, understanding, and actually curious about my feelings and how I came to this realization. So while academic stuff is taking it's usual toll, I am happy that I was able to come out to her in such a positive fashion. I will also encourage my (FtM) boyfriend to come out to her as well (Helen happens to be a mutual friend), and I think it will turn out well for him.

I know that there are likely more coming outs in the future, and many of them may not be positive, but at least I'm glad that Helen is understanding.
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grrl1nside

That is great that you have some support. I know for myself that having 1 person initially and now 3 people who are positive and my jumping into the pond has been great. I know that I found knowing that at least one person would stick with me has given me so much more courage. I was certainly afraid that I could end up with no social support at all. Rejection will likely come from some, but having 1 and now 3 in my corner has made a huge difference to me.
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valkyrie256

Thank you! I'm glad to have it as well. I came out to my boyfriend pretty much the same time he did to me (yes, we both came out to each other about a month after we started dating). I did tell another close (male) friend several weeks earlier, and at the time I was identifying as Androgyne. He seemed to be a little confused, and the next time I hung out with him he did call me sir, though I just think it was habit, and not malicious, but after that we just carried on as normal, talking about video games, politics, philosophy, and many other things. As long as I give him a gentle reminder, I'm sure he'll correct himself. I just don't think it'll be something I discuss with him much. I also had come out a different female friend earlier, who was similarly supportive like Helen.  It's just that the one with Helen stood out the most. So I have four people who know, three who are supportive, and one who seems indifferent.

Next person I'll probably tell will be my father. I know my mother will not support it at all, but I'm not sure how Dad would react. He was supportive when I came out as bi (actually pan, though), but overall he seems indifferent to LGBT matters. I just know that for him, realizing that his "son" may not be male will throw him for a loop, at the least.
Pansexual.
Atheist.
Stoic.
Nerd.
Anything else?
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