Quote from: Axélle on August 31, 2011, 11:24:11 AM
Ann,
and what about the "proxy" issue??
cannot speak to that because I never identified with anyone as a 'proxy.' I can only guess that is something dealt with by the later-in-life peeps. I knew I was transsexual at an early age. I socialized AS a female in the lesbian bars by the time I was in my mid-teens (thankfully back when the drinking age was still 18 so nobody cared about carding people as they entered). And I was well into HRT by my early 20's. Never had any interest in guys, straight or otherwise. Also never sought to marry someone as a means of dealing with the transsexuality so there was never any seeking to live through someone else...
QuoteI have a theory - if you may forgive me here - that the more we resemble our 'gender of choice' the less we are in need for that 'proxy'.
It really makes no difference as such, no 'goody two shoes' girly needs a male thing going (for me), but we always seem to look for something in a partner to compliment us --- something we perceive we do not really have. Right?
I don't look for someone as a complement or balance...I look for someone I am compatible with, who I can carry a conversation on with and who can be self-sufficient in their own right. Ideally they ALSO possess gold-star status and don't have any real interest in kids...I certainly am not looking for someone to effectively live vicariously through or to augment some component of my identity or appearance. And nothing of what I look for in a partner was the product of HRT given that we know my sexual orientation was etched into place and acted upon more than five years before taking my first tablet of estrogen...
ETA: Damn, despite a couple of other posts in this thread, I just realized it was on the F2M board...hope nobody felt like I was stepping on toes. Although I am guessing that theories of change would be consistent no matter which direction one was going...
