dating as an ftm- there is hope!

[RyGuy]

for all you guys who are worried about dating during or post-transition, i used to be in your boat. i literally used to believe that there wasn't anyone in the world that would want to date me- the me that is a straight man. they are out there!! don't give up. just be patient.

thumbs up if you have an amazing s.o. who accepts you for the person you truly are and a shout out to my amazing girlfriend.

[akitokitoast]

Thumps up!

Go my girlfriend, she is superfoxyawesomecool.

[Wolfsnake]

That's awesome, guys! I love that you took the time to post this.

There is hope for us not-so-straight guys too! My boyfriend is totally cool with dating me as a man. And doing everything else with me as a man, too. He says I turned him to the Dark Side, and he's much happier there.

For a little background, I'd been dating him as a straight tomboy for five years prior to coming out. He identified as straight (though he wasn't your typical straight guy by a longshot). Now he identifies as bi, and though it took me a little while to believe him, I'm confident he feels that way now. He was very quick to use the new name, call me boyfriend, etc. He was even the first to switch pronouns, before I even asked him to. He's made of awesome. 

[Nathan90]

Thumbs up here too, although I'm cheating a bit since my boyfriend is FTM himself. We started out as a female-gay couple and turned out to be a male-gay couple!

(and with gay, I mean to the outside world, we're both bi/pan/something/not really specified/I suppose)

[GentlemanRDP]

Congratulations!

I'm happy that you've found someone so accepting!

Consider yourself lucky xD

[Jasper]

To all of you with SOs who have stuck with you:  Excellence right there.

I was worried that my gf would take off when I told her since she's adamant about being a lesbian. But then I did tell her and she looked me in the eyes and said "we'll make it through this, you know."
She's the best. xD

To those of you without SOs:  You'll find the right person for you. Eventually.

[Natkat]

There is hope for us not-so-straight guys too! My boyfriend is totally cool with dating me as a man. And doing everything else with me as a man, too. He says I turned him to the Dark Side, and he's much happier there.

did he get cookies?
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sure there is hope,
a couple guys and girls been interesteed in me, I guess you just have to go after the openminded kinds, because there is people who are interested in you but too scared to date you, that kinda how I see it..

my ex boyfriend where bisexual/pan/gay? (well he said straight, but I also called myself straight once and it where a lie so so.. XD)

I had this very romantic moment with him were we kissed out in the snow and I said.
"you know.. if I make my transdition complitely, turn out 100% a man with beard, flat cheast and a **** would you still love me?"
and he looked me deep in the eyes and said..
"well you still have your ass"

ohh.... love is so..<3 F*** up XD

[Wolfsnake]

did he get cookies?

You bet he did. 

[Darth_Taco]

That's awesome, guys! I love that you took the time to post this.

There is hope for us not-so-straight guys too! My boyfriend is totally cool with dating me as a man. And doing everything else with me as a man, too. He says I turned him to the Dark Side, and he's much happier there.

For a little background, I'd been dating him as a straight tomboy for five years prior to coming out. He identified as straight (though he wasn't your typical straight guy by a longshot). Now he identifies as bi, and though it took me a little while to believe him, I'm confident he feels that way now. He was very quick to use the new name, call me boyfriend, etc. He was even the first to switch pronouns, before I even asked him to. He's made of awesome. 

It's almost the exact same situation with my own boyfriend, only change being that we weren't dating as long when I came out :'P. Just curious, when did your boyfriend come out as bisexual? Mine decided to pretend to be straight for another month and a half before finally coming out XP. Only reason he did was because I freaked out he'd leave me for a woman ;_;.

[Arch]

For a little background, I'd been dating him as a straight tomboy for five years prior to coming out. He identified as straight (though he wasn't your typical straight guy by a longshot). Now he identifies as bi, and though it took me a little while to believe him, I'm confident he feels that way now. He was very quick to use the new name, call me boyfriend, etc. He was even the first to switch pronouns, before I even asked him to. He's made of awesome. 

Wish I'd been as lucky. My ex (who also wasn't a typical straight guy) knew about my male identity early in the relationship, and I changed my name a few years later. He had no trouble with that, called me "boy" and stuff like that...and jumped ship a few months into my HRT. He said that he couldn't cope with the body changes yet to come. I can't really blame him, but I still can't help thinking that he should have tried harder.

But I also see lots of evidence that he just didn't want people to see him as a gay man. Considering that I didn't want to be seen as a straight woman, I figure that the least he could do was put in as much time as a gay man as I put in as a straight woman. Then we could have gone on for another couple of decades.

[Nygeel]

Thumbs down on my front. I've been on the search for two and a half years. I've looked high and low and all I can find is ->-bleeped-<-s. Now, there are people who are totally okay with dating ->-bleeped-<-s an that's good for them but it's not for me.

[anibioman]

i dont really date much as its to much to deal with in high school and everything. all of the girls who have liked me besides one have been 'straight'. although you never know what they'll be saying a couple years from now, which is why i dont date in high school girls.

[Arch]

Every time I hear that someone is in a relationship that makes them happy, I think, "Why not me?" The hope only lasts for about thirty seconds, but that's better than nothing.

I'm not looking right now. I don't feel that I can be with anybody while I have my current equipment, but that's not the only issue. I'm still getting my head straight, and I'm still working on career stuff, and that's about all I can handle right now.

Actually, sometimes it's more than I can handle. So I would be nuts to be looking for a boyfriend right now, no matter how much I want to be in a relationship again.

[Wolfsnake]

Just curious, when did your boyfriend come out as bisexual?

I'm happy to hear there are more stories like this!

My bf is selectively out. He's been gradually coming out to friends, some of my family, and two of his family members. Most of his family is very conservative and Catholic, so we're keeping my transition on the down-low for as long as we can (only because his parents are still funding his college expenses right now). I've managed to avoid his family for about two years, since I'm on their ->-bleeped-<- list and quite happy to be there, so it shouldn't be too hard to keep my transition a secret for a little while longer while he finishes school.

[Wolfsnake]

Wish I'd been as lucky.

I'm sorry to hear that happened, Archer. The first few months after I came out, I was waiting for the other shoe to drop, you know? I thought he'd back out, and honestly I wouldn't have blamed him. But he's now telling his friends he has a boyfriend, and has told me repeatedly he can't wait for me to start on T. I'm still nervous, but feeling less so each day. 

[Arch]

But he's now telling his friends he has a boyfriend, and has told me repeatedly he can't wait for me to start on T. I'm still nervous, but feeling less so each day.

Sounds wonderful. Having someone who WANTS you to begin transition must be a terrific relief, too.

[Darth_Taco]

I'm happy to hear there are more stories like this!

My bf is selectively out. He's been gradually coming out to friends, some of my family, and two of his family members. Most of his family is very conservative and Catholic, so we're keeping my transition on the down-low for as long as we can (only because his parents are still funding his college expenses right now). I've managed to avoid his family for about two years, since I'm on their ->-bleeped-<- list and quite happy to be there, so it shouldn't be too hard to keep my transition a secret for a little while longer while he finishes school.

Same with me o.o. Except he's paying his own way through school XP. His family is also quite Catholic. Not just Catholic, Mexican Catholic xD. Not just Mexican and Catholic, but gangsters :'P. So yeah, if they knew he was dating a guy, they wouldn't hurt him or anything but I'm pretty sure they'll be pretty pissed XP. They just think I'm his very manly looking girlfriend. Thankfully they like me, but I don't know how much longer that will last. My hair is short and I'm binding and packing now. Not all the time, but often enough where they're beginning to ask questions. Right now we're keeping it secret for the most part until I come out to my own family :'P. I have that family. Pretty sure I'll have to have a hospital bed reserved for the day I come out to my extended family XP.

[Alessandro]

Course there's hope - don't anyone believe there isn't.  We focus on gender and stuff a lot because it is a big deal to us, but when it comes to love it's the person that people look at.  If you make yourself friendly, open and approachable, most people are more interested in that than if you're trans or not.  Sure there may be issues with some folks, but there are loads of people in the world.  Remember, there's always the 'cool 10%'