Quote from: dessiree2b on February 10, 2007, 09:48:17 AM
Hello my female name is Dessiree and am new here. Since I first started trying on mom's lingerie, I have always like wearing womans cloths. When I first got out on my own, I started buying cloth's and things for cross dressing. Then I would meet a girl, trash eveything and think it was over.Some years later I would get the feeling to dress again. Start buying cloth's again and dress around the house. This last time I made a friend that cross dressed and we went out on the town. I liked going too this club and lip sinking. I even started liking men while is was dressed as a woman. Then I stopped dressing again, because I started dating women again.
It's called purging and many, many, CD's and TS have done it. I'm not sure why it's done, but maybe someone here can explain why. The only thing I can think of is an attempt to deny reality.
QuoteI started dating a pre-op and we are know married. She know's about my past cross dressing. She is ok if I want to cross dress or be gay. If I do cross dress or am gay, she wont stay married to me. She want's a man that is in charge and is masculine. I love her very much and don't wont to lose her.
"be gay"? you make it sound like being gay is a choice. It's not you either are or you are not. From what you have written it cold be that you are Bi which is cool as well. Additionally loosing loved ones is all too common for member of the T community. To help with the situation at home you have to keep the lines of communication open, and above all you must be honest with her as a relationship that is not based on honesty is really not a relationship. Be open and talk, talk, talk. See if there is a compromise there as that is another key element of a successful relationship is the ability to compromise. But be warned that there is still a good possibility that the relationship won't survive.
QuoteThe other issue running through my head is my sexual problem. I found a link to my starting up crossdress again. After a relationship with a women and I have difficulty getting erections, I turn back to crossdressing and being a bottom in a relationship. help me I am so confused and don't know what to do.
It would seem that your cross-dressing is a sexual fetish and that is quite common among CD's. The important thing to remember is that it's ok to be that way so I wouldn't really worry about that aspect. Your real worry at this time seems to be your relationship wit your wife. Solve that problem and the others should be easy.
Remember honest, open, calm and collected communication is the key.
Steph