I wear it a bit more down maybe than where you tried it, and you really have to get used to it, 'cause everything looks and feels big in the start. But the middle of the shaft sprouting from the clit, maybe a little bit higher but not too much. And then dress the shaft left or right of the balls, I feel it makes for a nice subtle bulge like that. No boner looking thing and not uncomfortable. I'm not a big guy, works for me.