If you had been born in the "opposite" body....

[kyle_lawrence]

Do you think you would be any happier than you are now?

A thread in the FTM section got me thinking about this.  The topic for the guys was about thinking about how much better your life would be if you had been born in the correct male body.  I was thinking that I wouldn't even be able to guess what type of person I would be if I had been born male, but I have a feeling I would still have some gender issues. 

I feel like ive gotten to to the point where I identify first as an FTM,  I still feel like an adrogyne in many ways, and often identify as both.  I dont believe that if I had been born male, that I would be a 'normal' straight guy.  I'm queer now in every sense of the word, and probably still would be.  Maybe instead of being viewed as a butch lesbian, I would be a flamboyant gay guy, or dragqueen.  I think I would still be gay/ adrogyne/ trans/ queer in some way or another. 

Since we (as androgynes) dont really have an opposite sex, and the closest thing that biologically happens to 'correct' would be an intersexed or ambigigous genetalia condition, which unfortunately doctors insist on 'correcting', do you think your life would be better or happier if you had been born as the opposite sex from the one you were born as?

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[Julian]

I wouldn't be any happier in a male body, but I don't think I'd be any more put out either. It's the secondary sex characteristics that I dislike and want to be rid of, and that would be the same no matter the sex of my body.

[Sevan]

I definitly don't think I'd be any happier had I been *born* intersexed because I'm quite certain my parents would have absolutely "corrected" the condition which I'm quite sure comes with it's own set of trouble and difficulty.

I've thought long and hard on being born male....and I don't think I'd have been any happier. Though...I think had I still been androgyn I might have been happier because adding breasts to a body with beard and penis already might be easier on me. Though...the whole "being raised societally male" thing might not have been so fun...can't really know.

[Eva Marie]

I've thought about it and my current feelings would be exactly the same no matter which body i got issued. This boy body will do me just fine until i turn into dust LOL.....

[foosnark]

It's hard to guess; it's the kind of change where one wonders what else changes.  For instance, if I still preferred women, I'd probably have gone through life as a semi-butch lesbian and not really thought about gender identity.  If not, maybe I'd have been kind of a tomboy and also not thought much about gender identity.  Or perhaps I'd be like a couple of my female friends, who -- without considering themselves androgyne per se -- are as comfortable being "one of the guys" as they are at being a girl, and don't believe the gender binary is absolute.

[mimpi]

Depends what that body looked like. Harsh but honest.

[ativan]

I think that the butterfly effect would have kicked in on day one. I would be in an alternate world. Which one of the virtually infinate, I can't imagine that much information at once.
I'm already dealing with one version already. That's enough without wishing things could have better.
It's not half full and it's not half empty. It's just a glass with water in it.

Ativan

[Taka]

if i was born as a totally hot guy... there's still a chance my life would have been even more miserable than it is now
/thought experiment failed/

[Elijah3291]

Technically I wouldn't be happier because I wouldn't know what it would be like having to deal with being FTM.  But in general, I would obviously be much more accepting and proud of my body, and I would have much less issues.  Although I would probably be less open and knowledgeable about gender and transsexuals.  I would probably also be a bit more uncomfortable with my being gay.

[Taka]

thinking about it again i guess i would have an inferiority complex because of my penis size, instead of being perplexed and sometimes confused by the fact that there's nothing there. and i might start wondering why i have no vagina, and i'd have troubles trying to deal with my bi-/pansexuality, and maybe that child molester would have made me his first victim before my younger brothers

or maybe i'd really have been a happier person. who knows

[mimpi]

Serious answer assuming this implies being born into the same ->-bleeped-<-ed up family.

Either married to some idiot stuck out in the sticks or more hopefully would have managed to break free and led a similar life to the one I've led but with more tranquillity, more joy and more love.

[Pica Pica]

I imagine I'd like walking around in a female body, but I guess it'd come with it's own set of expectations and irritations.

[CynicRecluse]

Interesting question..
I'm not really sure to be honest..
I think I'd be an androgynous boy either way.
If I was born the opposite sex from which I was born.. I'd probably end up taking estrogen.
You know, I'm just in between so it's defiantly hard to say.
But I agree on being queer either way and what not.

[Kinkly]

If born into a female body then I would have had a very different life. If my Identity was the same as it is now then I'd be able to transition to my perfect body easier.  I don't think I'd be happier  or sader, but on the other hand a butch girl is more accepted then a fem guy. so I'd have had a very different experence of life & gender

[ZaidaZadkiel]

Most likely I would have become a prostitue and have sex for drugs and fun with just anybody. I would be dead by now.

[xxchriscsxx]

As identifying as being 75% female and 25% male in my gender binary I would be a lot happier if I was born as a girl. Sometimes I just don't feel that passing is enough but since I am a biological boy I want to stay that way. I still identity as ze or she but never he though.

[mimpi]

Most likely I would have become a prostitue and have sex for drugs and fun with just anybody. I would be dead by now.

That's the first thought that came to me as well to be 100% honest but I was too scared to write it here.

[Vyn]

I think I'd have similar feelings and identity I do now, just from the other end of the biological spectrum.  There are some things I probably would like more, and some things I would like less, so its evens out really.  I probably would be ever-so-slightly happier as a female though, at least in our limited present day culture (gag). The grass is always greener I guess.

[noeleena]

Hi,

The ?  is not wether im one or the other im both . so as it stands i am both male / female . intersexed. so my ? would be would i like to be any different than i am   . so a all   out male or woman.
I have  given that a lot of thought over the years & my answer is im happy the way i am ,

one is i dont know what its like other than how i am , iv had 64 years of being this way ,

Mind you i prefer womens clothes yet doing male or womens work is no different i dont mind what i do. & i have more women friends so i have the advantage of both worlds if you like & i can choose with out haveing to prove my self in one way or the other, so being in the middle ground is the best of all. & would i change that, no. my only disapointment is not haveing my womb, other than that im very happy,

...noeleena...

[LilDoberman]

I think women get to wear mens and womens clothes without a second glance, but a male in a skirt will always get stares, so I'd have to say I prefer this body.  I'd rather not have the whole montly and childbearing to go with it, but eh, what are you going to do?  I'd say that 75% of the time I'd prefer a male body, but since the other 25% would be very difficult, I'd stick with this.