Having fun being alone

[Joeyboo~ :3]

No.
Not really, I'm not gonna get so much in to typing out my feelings because I'm sure everyone has been where I'm at right now.

My last 'real relationship' was years ago and way before I identified as trans.
So to me it feels as if I never really did have one.
Is there any advice whatsoever to let me know things will get better, or is there a button that's been made to skip this horrible stop I'm at in my life?

[AbraCadabra]

Big hug my pretty one :-)

I'll tell you more when I'm back from SRS - I may just find the answer to your question.

Meanwhile I'm sure one of the other girls will come up with some smart inputs --- which I will then be happy to read also :-)

How about just ASKING some nice dude - it's the thing to do if they to daft to ask you!!!

Like: "Honey, my looks and your brains, would be sooo nice to share a burger and a Coke?" Then add your biggest smile. :-)
Kiss, kiss...

Bye for now,
Axelle

[NatashaD]

Chill.

Get to know yourself.

Go out to eat at a restaurant with nothing more than a book. Go see a movie by yourself. Go hiking or running with your iPod shutting you off from the world. Find out how far you can really go without anyone to lean on.

I'm highly introverted and independent (and despite that I know how you feel). Doing those things aren't really a big deal for me to do, so I was amazed at the looks I would get (like I had a third penis) when I told people to do that. So I started people watching and seeing how uncomfortable people were with themselves and how they sought to use other people as a crutch. They never really deal with themselves, so they never really grow individually.

You'll come out stronger and more confident, and that attracts a better class of people to you.

Just thinking out loud. You could already be doing those things, but there might be others who have never even thought of that.

[A_Dresden_Doll]

I pretty much have to agree with Natasha. I've found that the moment you stop looking, truly looking, for some one, is the moment someone will show up. How you actually stop looking when all you want is to find that special someone? I have no freakin idea. But I know it has happened, and more than once.

[Forever21Chic]

    The first year of transition is always the hardest, it's your androgynous stage both mentally and physically. I know this is easier said then done but don't let being transgendered take up all time and don't be afraid to go out and have fun make friends and meet people. You might just find someone that doesn't care your trans and is attracted to you. You never know unless you get out there and try!   

[azSam]

Well I feel like I should be realistic. It doesn't seem to get much better over time. I've had several men interested in me, but as soon as I give them vital information they lose interest. Some are still willing to be friends and hang out, and some run away never to be seen again. So far only 1 person has stuck with me, and I am still currently with him. Unfortunately it's a bit long distance; but when you meet someone that amazing, you stick with em.

[justmeinoz]

That is exactly my recent experience, Forever.  After a bad GID attack, I went back to square one and just tried enjoying life one day, even one hour or minute at a time, and getting comfortable with myself again.

Two weeks later and I have met a woman who is able to look past the anomalies to relate to me as another woman.  Early days yet, just had a first lesbian date, but looks like it won't be the last.  I think it was my self confidence showing again that attracted her.

Karen.

[JenJen2011]

No.
Not really, I'm not gonna get so much in to typing out my feelings because I'm sure everyone has been where I'm at right now.

My last 'real relationship' was years ago and way before I identified as trans.
So to me it feels as if I never really did have one.
Is there any advice whatsoever to let me know things will get better, or is there a button that's been made to skip this horrible stop I'm at in my life?

Trust me, things will get better.

2 years into my transition, I was still single. I felt lonely. I had no one. I cried myself to sleep many nights. It was horrible. I felt like I would never find anyone that would accept and love me for who I was. I kept looking, and looking, and looking. Nothing. All I came across were men who wanted a quick fling.

So, I stopped looking. One day, I met this guy through a mutual friend. Almost 5 years later, we are still together. He is the best thing that's ever happened to me.

There is someone out there for you. Just be patient. Worry about bettering yourself in all aspects. Don't put so much mind and energy into finding someone. They will come when you LEAST expect it.

Hope this helps in some way.

[Joeyboo~ :3]

Reading the replies did make me feel better



I have been independent for a long time but it seems last night I had a little episode :/
I just see all my peers  having these cutesy petty relationships and I feel jealous.

I'm homeschooled and transportation is limited( if a place is too far for my mom to drive then I have to get a ride from someone else. So going out is usually when its a family event.
I feel like my teenage years are going to waste.

I basically live in a cave all the time.
I should just grow out a long white beard and call myself a hermit.

[Jayr]

I was told transguys were welcome here, I hope you all agree to this because I just had to post.

Anyways.
From your avatar picture, I'd say your GORGEOUS!
You should have no trouble finding someone once you start going out and stuff,
then you'll be able to make everybody else jealous with your cutesy pretty relationship
Just give it time.

Ps. If it helps, your not the only hermit in the house

[Forever21Chic]

I feel like my teenage years are going to waste.

I basically live in a cave all the time.
I should just grow out a long white beard and call myself a hermit.

   Awe boo i'm sorry i know this must really hard for you and i think you have alot of courage for transitioning this early in your life. I can't image what you're going through because i lived my teenage years and had alot of fun but even so i would trade those memories in a heartbeat to be in your position. Like i said before, you can't let being trans run your life! I don't know if you have any friends but now would be a good time to ask for their support. If you don't have many friends then try to make some at your local LGBT community center, i'm sure there are other ts youths out there you make friends with.


   Point is DON'T give up...get out there and live your life! Life is to short, don't waste it! - xoxo

[Karlee]

Aww, it makes me upset seeing someone so beautiful and so kind feeling like this. :/

Things can only get better for you now. Your future life is going to be amazing, I can see it now. You're absolutely gorgeous, so let it radiate! Think good of yourself and good things will come. Show off your confidence and you'll go very far.

I was in a long term relationship last year which ended very badly. After that, I started realizing how strong some of my trans feelings were.

Oh and if it's any consolation, I think you're absolutely adorable, and if the circumstances were right, I'd be into you in a heartbeat.

Take care of yourself hun, it's exactly as it sounds, a transition period. Transitioning into who you are meant to be. Everyone has their difficult periods, but you'll be stronger and better than ever!

Love,
Karlee.x

[Jen-Jen]

Joeyboo your a very beautiful girl, if your just as beautiful inside I'm sure you wont be lonely too much longer. I feel the same as you do, I am extremely lonely too!  But I'm sure our prince or princess will come. In the right circumstances I would so totally date you though, just by looking at your pic, wow!

[madirocks]

Things will get better!

I haven't had a relationship for four years, and I can't transition for another year. I'm very very far from family and friends, and the only friend I have just went to war. Pity party, right? Wrong.

Difficult times always come, but things improve after those difficult times. I've been through much before, and after some of the most difficult times my life has seemingly improved. I know it's easier to just hope to skip through these periods, but really they're for the best. Difficult times make a person stronger. Sounds cliché right? But it's entirely true.

*hugs* and don't give up!

[wendy]

Joey,

Maybe you have trans people in your town?  You can go out to eat, do sleep overs, go to movies, socialize, and discuss things with people with similar feelings.  It is nice.

You are very pretty and you can do activities that you enjoy with group of peers your own age.

If you need confidence in your new gender then do some activities that require you interacting with people.  Go to building supply store and ask someone you like for help.  Do same for auto supply store.

Take a class that you enjoy and get to know other students.

Finally remember to smile.  When you smile people will be drawn to you. 

[Joeyboo~ :3]

I don't know if now is the right time to be posting anything.
But I'm currently trying to keep my emotions inside, and i'm freaking out.
I have complicated emotions and I feel like such a douchebag because I can't seem to make friends.
I can't make friends just stay friends, i always end up liking someone.
->-bleeped-<- even more than one person.
i'm desperate, i just wanna have someone in my life who can be my everything.
i get so hurt when these people show no interest in me when we talk.
it almost makes me want to hurt myself.
my self esteem is so low and is easily broken.

[Joeyboo~ :3]

I just re-read what i said and i realized i was overreacting.
i still wanted to post it because thats how i was truly feeling at the time.

i feel like i should isolate myself and stop complaining.
Now I'm crying, great.

[mimpi]

As more than one poster said upthread when one stops looking usually someone turns up when least expected. You're a very pretty girl, JoeyD and I'm certain that if you worried less about it you would find someone. I've never done dating, internet dating or anything like that and certainly wouldn't rate myself at all but one meets people. My last girlfriend I met at a funeral! You will find someone, trust me.

It is tough however being alone, been over three months now and sleeping alone is the worst and most lonely part for me at least.

Edit: Don't be sad, I'd kill to look as good as you