what is full time?

[jainie marlena]

I reaized to day I have changed out my whole wardrobe. Everything is female. No one has said anything. No one is laughing at me. I always look for it but it has not come yet. I do get looks from women that makes me feel like they like what they see some men too. Lol. I know I don't pass but they seem to except the way I look. It makes me want to do more just to see how far I can go before someone says something to me. I feel very androgynous. It feels better but not good enough. I want more. My oldest daughter told me my face is starting to look more girly. Anyway I just wanted to say this and get your thoughts on it.

[Stephe]

I called my start of 'full time' when there would be no doubt in anyone who saw me that I was at least making a serious attempt to look like a woman 24/7. No being lazy around the house or days of "bah screw it" and going out half trying etc. Def would have to inclu7de work and everything you do. I was very andro for 5 years before that but didn't really consider that "full time". At least that is where I put the marker at of full time.

[xxUltraModLadyxx]

fulltime to me means that you're fully expressing your gender identity and not compromising it at any time.

[Forever21Chic]

  I'm full-time now and to me it was just presenting myself as female 24/7 out in public. I still wear some of my male shirts around the apartment, if i'm not planning on going anywhere then getting all dolled up is a waste of time. My roomate is GG and she walks around in sweatpants and a tee shirt with no makeup all the time. 

[jainie marlena]

thank you for your replies

[Cadence Jean]

  I'm full-time now and to me it was just presenting myself as female 24/7 out in public. I still wear some of my male shirts around the apartment, if i'm not planning on going anywhere then getting all dolled up is a waste of time. My roomate is GG and she walks around in sweatpants and a tee shirt with no makeup all the time. 

I second this - I don't see a reason to wear makeup or do my hair if I'm staying in.  Or even shave! :s  I still wear girl clothes and use girl voice etc - I just feel like a woman who's lazing about.

[jainie marlena]

I am me full time. I feel like I am doing all I can at this time. I dont look it. That is what is driving me crazy.

[Jamie Nicole]

I reaized to day I have changed out my whole wardrobe. Everything is female. No one has said anything. No one is laughing at me. I always look for it but it has not come yet. I do get looks from women that makes me feel like they like what they see some men too. Lol. I know I don't pass but they seem to except the way I look. It makes me want to do more just to see how far I can go before someone says something to me. I feel very androgynous. It feels better but not good enough. I want more. My oldest daughter told me my face is starting to look more girly. Anyway I just wanted to say this and get your thoughts on it.

fulltime=living 24/7/365.5 as your designated gender/sex with absolute conviction

[xxUltraModLadyxx]

fulltime=living 24/7/365.5 as your designated gender/sex with absolute conviction

that sounds awfully vague. the first thing is, the designated gender/sex part. who knows what that is? my designated gender/sex didn't work out to well being as i was designated as male, and not by myself. then, how do you do the conviction part?

[jainie marlena]

@jamie nicole I got the 24/7 but working on 365.5
@fullmoon19 my thread respect the way people say things dont call them out she was speaking to me. tell me your view it will get the same respect from me. all views are good views when people  are talking to me.

[xxUltraModLadyxx]

@jamie nicole I got the 24/7 but working on 365.5
@fullmoon19 my thread respect the way people say things dont call them out she was speaking to me. tell me your view it will get the same respect from me. all views are good views when people  are talking to me.

well, i already gave you my view, but if you don't wish to add more layers to the thread, i won't force you.

[jainie marlena]

@fullmoon19
As  long as it does not point out others. vague is negative general is positive. What if we took her general view and built off of it by adding your view. Views can branch off into many directions which. Is what I like about them. They can even be the opposite of each other yet show how complex we are as awhole. I'm sorry that I came off a little strong. If we realized what we could do here an information tree would grow. What if we organized all of these thoughts and branched them like a family tree. It would tell a story of multible back grounds which is what creates opions that is why respect is to be given to all. If you would have given your view and some else would have said something negative than gave their view I would have done the same for you. Please add to what is said. Oh, I see what you mean I still have to use the men's room. What going to happen when I start to pass? Are the men going to get uncomfertable peeing in the same bathroom with me?

[Jamie Nicole]

@jamie nicole I got the 24/7 but working on 365.5
@fullmoon19 my thread respect the way people say things dont call them out she was speaking to me. tell me your view it will get the same respect from me. all views are good views when people  are talking to me.

congratulations!!  I remember for an interview I gave before on a story that was done on me, how did I feel walking out my front door for the first time as "jamie nicole" and the day I decided to go full time.  My answer was "like a huge weight lifted off my shoulders because I decided to live as I was intended to".....
it isnt easy nor will it ever be easy but for me, it's made me a much stronger woman and I know it will you to.

a good place to shop for quality but affordable clothes is Victorias Secret.  A good place to shop for shoes of all kinds, is zappos.  I cant advise on makeup and such but what I did was rather creative.  I went into the local dept store, to the cosmetics counter (when I used to wear makeup) and said "I need help" and got a complimentary makeover and as each cosmetic was applied, I asked how to apply it and what shades/tones work best for me.

[Jamie Nicole]

  I'm full-time now and to me it was just presenting myself as female 24/7 out in public. I still wear some of my male shirts around the apartment, if i'm not planning on going anywhere then getting all dolled up is a waste of time. My roomate is GG and she walks around in sweatpants and a tee shirt with no makeup all the time. 

i saved or gave all my "male" clothes to my son.  no way in hell was I throwing away $100 polo shirts, polo/nautica/hilfiger/lauren jeans, sweaters, shirts!! no way in hell was i throwing or giving away a perfectly good Armani silk suit!!  thank goodness for sons! lol

[AbraCadabra]

Re: what is full time?

To *PRESENT* 24/7/365 in your chosen gender.

Simple as that,
Axelle

[V M]

When people bring up the subject of living full time a question often comes to mind, are they talking about consciously or subconsciously?

In my mind I've been living as a female all my life, I am naturally feminine and people have commented on my feminine appearance and behavior since childhood...

I was made to at least attempt to 'act' like a man by society's ideals of what a man is supposed to be... The more I tried to 'act' like a man, the more I was told how feminine I was and how everyone was going to make a man out of me

So to me, It is about self acceptance and allowing yourself to be who you are without having to putting on an act or show

[VeryGnawty]

what is full time?

It is exactly twice that of half time.

Sorry, I couldn't resist.  I was watching sports on TV earlier.

[jainie marlena]

@V M
I never thought of it from your perspective. Subconsciously I was so over welmed by my manly looks and over come by them (blinded) I could only see my outward person ;however, since I have been coming  here I got to know the inner me. I am stronger on the inside. It amazes me how much I have changed outwardly just getting to know myself. Letting myself like the things that I know I really like. Subconsciously I'm all woman.
What I meant by full time was how I present myself to others. My question came about because I don't look like a woman so I was hurt a little thinking full time was passing or something. Noone has said anything in this thread about passing. Just being the woman you know you are and letting her shine.
@VeryGnawty
That made me giggle

[rock chick]

full time is living all day everyday as male or female

[Whitney]

fulltime=living 24/7/365.5 as your designated gender/sex with absolute conviction

Hate to do this, but a year is 365.25 days; 4 years between each leap year, one quarter a day each of those four years to add up to that one extra day.
RLE for one year is required for SRS. SRS is required to live in my designated gender/sex. RLE is defined as living full time. How do you pull this knot loose?