Quote from: RhinoP on September 25, 2011, 06:19:39 PM
- but gay men are never, ever totally straight acting. The only guys I have truly ever fallen in love with are the straight men who, because they like females and female identity, are naturally more controlling, demanding, hardworking, and independant. Gay guys, no matter how straight they want to act, all end up being a bunch of flowers, and many of them are plain ugly. I don't really find anything attractive about gay culture and I've never wanted to be a part of it. I don't want to settle with being gay just so that I can find a man.
See, here's the thing.
This right there is a load of prejudiced nonsense.
The only thing that makes a gay man gay is that he only feels emotionally and sexually attracted to other men.
That's it.
Sexuality is not "behaviour". You can't "act" gay or "act" straight.
Sexuality is not "personality".
Sexuality is not taste in clothes, or music, or food.
Yes, there are stereotypes.
Yes, there are "feminine" gay men out there and the hyper-feminine is the stereotype.
That doesn't mean that gay = feminine it means that these gay men are "feminine".
There are masculine gay men out there.
That doesn't mean they're "acting straight" it means that these gay men are "masculine".
Then there's just the simple fact that sexuality isn't white and black.
There aren't just "100% gay", "100% straight" and then bi guys perfectly in the middle.
The sweeping generalization that if you're attracted to men, especially if you are one, makes you a delicate flower is rubbish.
Similarly, the sweeping generalization that if you're a man who's attracted to women that you won't have any delicate parts, that you won't have any need for being taken care of, that you will always, and without fail, be "the strong one", is equally rubbishy.
Men are human beings.
Human beings have emotions, needs and frailties.
Regardless of whether or not they like to have sexual and emotional relationships with men, women, both or neither.
Don't want to deal with human weaknesses? Don't want to hold someone while they cry?
Don't want to have to ever, at all, in any way, take care of your partner?
Tough luck... even "sex toys" need maintenance.