Why "Can't" You Transition?

[Hypatia]

I agree, it's so neat that you would even out the gender balance in your family by transitioning, Osiris. What a rare and symmetrical arrangement! It would be easier to sell than my predicament--I have four sisters and no brothers! Very lopsided.

Please don't apologize for posting about your situation, because after all, that's exactly what this forum is meant for. Work through your issues, find support, advice, and useful information. Haven't you noticed everyone else filling up these forums with introspective posts just like yours? This affliction by its nature forces us all to turn introspective.

[Seshatneferw]

Yes, what the ladies said.

I wouldn't worry too much about influencing your sister -- transitioning is a long process, with safeguards intended to make sure it's what she really wants. Still, it is a valid concern, and it's good that you have thought of it already.

Your parents may be a harder matter. I don't think you should delay anything for their sake, though: the longer you do that, the more you will start to resent them for keeping you back. That's both unhealthy and unfair to them, and the end result is likely to be something much harder for them than you coming out and transitioning.

(By the by, cool idea naming yourself after a god with a prosthetic penis.)

  Nfr

[Kimberly Kilpatrick]

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[Osiris]

Thank you all for your responses. I never thought about my transitioning as evening out the gender balance. That's a great way to think about it and somehow makes the prospect of transitioning a bit more feasible.

Renate, mara, Hypatia, and Seshatneferw: has anyone ever said that you're inspirational? Thanks for inspiring me to take more steps towards my goal. I doubt I'll come out anytime soon, but I'll stop denying what's staring me in the face.

Seshatneferw, I WHAT?! J/K.

[Jordan]

thats a great start... Just go at your own comfortable pace, you will be fine, in fact hopefully you will be better.

In the last four months since i have come to terms with what is staring me in the face, I have become so much happier of a person.

My life has only been improving...  Good luck Osiris.

[Seshatneferw]

Seshatneferw, I WHAT?! J/K.

It's one of the classics in Egyptian mythology.

In short, Osiris didn't get along with his brother Seth (not so surprising, since the former started out as essentially the god of the Nile valley and the latter of the surrounding desert). Seth eventually killed Osiris and chopped him up; the goddess Isis (with help from Anubis, after this episode the god of embalming and other fun stuff like that) collected all the pieces of her late husband, except for his penis which had been eaten by a crab or a fish.

Well, of course marital relations are much easier if there is a penis in the family, so Isis made a new one for her dearly departed husband. Since his body was now complete she blew some life into it (being goddess and all that, and having help from a couple of other gods), and they lived happily long enough to get a son, Horus, who later avenged his father. Soon after conception Osiris decided that since he had died he should play the part, and became the god of the dead.

So, anyway, yes: after his transition from being dead to alive again, he had a prosthetic penis and even used it to sire a son. I thought you knew -- but in any case I think it's cool.

  Nfr

[Osiris]

Oh dear, I guess my online humor didn't come across too well. <_<

But thanks for posting the story for anyone who was curious. I'm glad you got the story behind the name.

[Seshatneferw]

Whoops, my bad. Now I see what you mean, but of course hindsight is 20/10.

Still, be glad that it was just the very short version -- the full story would make a season or two of soap opera, save for being funnier and having much more sex and violence.

  Nfr

[Osiris]

I'm all for that. However, that's for another thread. 

[Dizzy]

"When you are ready to lose everything, you are ready to transition.  That doesn't mean you WILL lose everything, just that you have to be prepared to do so."

I "couldn't" transition for a number of reasons:
1. I"ll never pass.
2. I'll be rejected by my family.
3. I'll be rejected by my friends.
4. I'll be a freak in society.
5. I don't have the courage.
6. I can live okay without transitioning.

You pegged my fears completely! Add these two :
7.I'm about to finish my 4 year degree and transitioning could kill my chances of getting hired where I want because of discrimination.
8.My 80K+ school debt is enough to worry about.

Your therapist was totally right though. The middle of last summer I got to the point where if I lost it all.. it would have been worth the shot.

Rock!
Dee

[Maddie Secutura]

It's a money problem for me.
But engineers tend to make enough money I guess.
Then again school debt is a big deal as well.

Blast it, full steam ahead after this summer.
I figure I'm already in the hole for school, what's a little more debt on top of that?

Besides, I only get one go at this life, I want to live it the way I'm supposed to live it.

[Hypatia]

Besides, I only get one go at this life, I want to live it the way I'm supposed to live it.

BINGO.