school gym locker rooms

[emostache69]

is there anything i can do so i can get out of changing in the girls locker room and not change in the boys locker room (cause i know my school wouldn't allow me to change w/them and i don't mind while I'm non - op). i feel extremely uncomfortable changing w/girls for a few reasons:
a) gives me dysphoria
b) i don't like the girls watching/seeing me change
c) i like girls and to change w/them all the time sometimes when I'm next to a hot girl is like adjskejnjknjsgsjndlf 

[spacial]

Don't know what the situation is now-a-days. Hopefully something can be done for you.

I recall when I was at school, back in the 60s, I had similar problems.

My school was all boys. Most were utterly repulsive, especially those around my age. The younger ones were cute and funny, but in no way attractive. A few older ones were nice, but tended to get rather agressive if they thought, for a moment, that they were being admired.

Sorry that it's not particularly helpful, but might be useful to know that the problem is not new.

Needless to say, I just kept my head and eyes down.

[niamh]

Nurse's room, disabled/uni-sex toilets, spare classroom....You need to discuss it with your PE and head teacher and get their input on the issue. I am sure if they are nice people they would be accommodating.

[mm]

Have you talked with a counselor or principal about where you could change?  Being with the other girls changing can be very troublesome to us.

[Dana_H]

I absolutely HATED school because of this. My Phys Ed instructors wouldn't let me change/shower separate from the class without an explanation from my parents, which was certainly not forthcoming; they had no clue about my GID/GD and just assumed I was a normal boy.    Heck, I wasn't even aware of GID or TG/TS at the time, so I wasn't able to verbalize *why* I didn't want to change with the "other boys"; I just knew it felt really, really creepyscary. At least I now understand why it felt so wrong.

Definitely consider talking to a Counselor or other school official about this. If you have your parents' support, that should count for a lot. It might also help if you can make it clear that it is not the PE class itself that you have issues with, just the changing before and after class.

Best of luck. I sincerely hope you are able to work out an acceptable arrangement.

[lilacwoman]

back ion dark ages when I was faced with school gym changing time I used to face the wall to strip off as quick as possible and just disassociate myself.

my sister tells me I did things during puberty and mid teens that  I have no memory of whatsoever so I must have been somewhere else a lot of time.

[Guantanamera]

back ion dark ages when I was faced with school gym changing time I used to face the wall to strip off as quick as possible and just disassociate myself.

my sister tells me I did things during puberty and mid teens that  I have no memory of whatsoever so I must have been somewhere else a lot of time.

This ^^. I live in a piece of God's green earth filled with most passionate and caring people. (Read: In a desert, in Utah, with religious bigots and slack jawed yokels.)

I couldn't get out of changing with the boys, but I quickly learned to disassociate myself like lilac, It really only takes a few minutes to learn. I used to think of something that made me happy (But not excited!) and by the time I realized where I was, I was doing warm ups outside.

Interestingly enough, I had a butch lesbian phys ed teacher. I wasn't out at the time, but she assumed that I was gay (and thus incapable of sports?) and gave me certain 'allowances' in not having to compete with the other boys. I still don't understand what the hell she was thinking, but I still appreciate it.

[Callum]

Does your locker room have a bathroom attached? I just change in one of the stalls and just try to minimize the amount of time I spend in the actual locker room as much as possible.