sterile sperm

[Lucy O Connell]

iv'e just recently started T blockers and i was wondering how(this relates to the girls who didn't have kids before there transition) you delt with the fact that you won't be able to have boilogical kids?
I personaly looked at it this way, if i were born a cis gender woman and i am lesbian, i wouldn't of been able to have kids with this other woman that i may fall in love with in the future but atm i have the chance to possibly stop my HRT for now and maybe get my sperm frozen, but isn't it wrong to want to have a child that way, if i was born cis gender i would of fell in love with a girl and we more than likely would of had to adopt.
i guess what i'm trying to ask is, is it a big deal if you do have to adopt a child, does it really matter aslong as your the parent that raises the child as your own? surely the child is yours since you raised it from a baby to a fully grown adult.
I am just at a cross roads atm, i am scared and afraid and i need advice, espicaly if you have been through this yourself(and no finding a girl and getting her pregenant, and telling her i'm trans a few years down the road is not an option for me i just would like to be honest and true to whoever i fall in love with) but thats just me everyone is different, but i just need some help, any advice is welcomed! xx

[Forever21Chic]

   I thought about this alot back when i was 19 just starting transition, at the time it seemed important to me back then. I thought about freezing some of my sperm in a sperm bank but it was already to late by that time i was completely sterile....oop's! 

[Lily]

It's never been a concern for me. Adoption is perfectly fine.

And I wouldn't want it done biologically unless I was the one who carried the child.

[~RoadToTrista~]

but isn't it wrong to want to have a child that way, if i was born cis gender i would of fell in love with a girl and we more than likely would of had to adopt.

Why would it be wrong? You don't think there are lesbian couples who would go out of there way to have biological kids with each other? The only difference is you're born with the possibility, limiting your options because cislesbians can't do it is silly.

I'm just saying. I intend to freeze sperm myself, but yeah, adoption's perfectly fine for some people.

[Sirenia]

It's never been a concern for me. Adoption is perfectly fine.

And I wouldn't want it done biologically unless I was the one who carried the child.

I've exactly the same thoughts regarding this. I wouldn't / won't mind adopting a child at all. Don't really care whether biologically it's mine or not. I will love the kiddo all the same. :-)

- Maja

[Lucy O Connell]

thanks for the advice, i figure a girl you fall in love with being lesbian herself 100% dosn't expect to have a bio child with you because they like only women, so it would be a shock for her also, i think i will adopt when the time comes if i find the special lady at some point in my life and there's no gaurente that she will be cis gender either so either way you guys helped me make a decision thanks x

[~RoadToTrista~]

thanks for the advice, i figure a girl you fall in love with being lesbian herself 100% dosn't expect to have a bio child with you because they like only women, so it would be a shock for her also

So? -.-' Well whatever makes you happy.

[The Passage]

It is extremely important for me and I need to get my butt down to a sperm bank and save some, before I can't any longer. I just cringe at the idea of someone waiting for me while I go into the m-stall to "release" into a little jar. Disgusting...

[Caldwell]

What if your kid finds out they're the result of their mom jacking off into a cup? Isn't that worse than being adopted?

[~RoadToTrista~]

Nahhhhh

[The Passage]

What if your kid finds out they're the result of their mom jacking off into a cup? Isn't that worse than being adopted?

So, basically you're saying that it sucks to be the child of a transgendered mother? Because someone who started their transition after they've had kids... well, that isn't a pretty scenario in this context either. >.<

[Cen]

After talking with my SO about it we determined that we don't want kids due to the expense and responsibility involved.  Avoiding kids and a big wedding will allow us to save for my surgeries and for the traveling we both want to do.  If our income suddenly skyrockets and we have a change of heart, adoption is a fine option.

[Jen61]

You can always get off the spiro, wait until some healthy sperm shows up, the freeze it util further partne appears.

I made the decion to delay transition, married this woan, had 6 kids with her, and now that the kids are i their teens and  20's, well is my tie to be me. All my kids are supportive.

Jen61