I applaud your efforts!!!! I am doing the same for my Jill, it has only been 4 or 5 months, but I have researched such as you have and have the same attitude as you do. I have told ppl at my work about my partner. They are rather supportive and my mom and dad are pretty cool about it, her parents need some work.. but they are trying. I have seen a better spouse in all of this, so far. We are making plans for our future and what we both would like to obtain. So far, it is looking really good. You have to stay positive and remember, please do not give to much of what you might not be getting back in return. This is a time for our partners to be selfish, I am sure you know this as well, but you and I have to know when to draw a line.. Keep your head up!!!