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This should be a smite free zone

Started by cynthialee, October 17, 2011, 01:44:36 PM

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cynthialee

This section of the forum should be smite free people.

If someone sounds off in this part of the forum and it upsets you personaly I feel that you should just put on your big girl panties and suck it up.

Smiting someone in the Arghhh forum is just petty.
So it is said that if you know your enemies and know yourself, you can win a hundred battles without a single loss.
If you only know yourself, but not your opponent, you may win or may lose.
If you know neither yourself nor your enemy, you will always endanger yourself.
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HelenW

The purpose of this section is, I was under the impression, to air out concerns and issue that anger us but still conform to the TOS, particularly rules 2, 10 and 15.  Inappropriate smites are inappropriate all over the site, including this section.  I feel that no part of this set of forums is, or should be, exempt from the TOS.

The primary mission of this site is support and I think anything that works against that mission needs to be excised.  Let's not forget this and keep it in mind before we click on the Post button.  If you cannot render an argument for a point without resorting to personal attacks or other logical fallacies then it's best you remain silent since what you are going to say probably won't help the discussion and might very well harm the site mission.  Try to put yourself into your readers' minds before you post and edit the sections that you find could cause offense.

Let go of your anger and use kindness.  You can still be firm and support what you want to say.  It may be very tempting to "put someone in their place" but that goes against everything this sit is created for. 

Use constructive criticism, not attacks and when you see such criticism don't assume it is an attack.  Too many people misinterpret a person's statement of opinion as a personal attack when it isn't one.  Let's not take things too personally.
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cynthialee

Well I certainly can not agree with you on that one Em.  (well the last paragraph is ok...)

If someone feels the need to vent, it would seem to me that this section of the forums should be a reasonable place to do so.

So it is said that if you know your enemies and know yourself, you can win a hundred battles without a single loss.
If you only know yourself, but not your opponent, you may win or may lose.
If you know neither yourself nor your enemy, you will always endanger yourself.
Sun Tsu 'The art of War'
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Annah

One can vent without being offensive and demeaning. That is what I took from Emelye's message. I agree with it. In my opinion, the "ARGHHH!" section should not be a zone where people can openly attack other people. I see it as a section to air out frustrations but it can be done with some tact.

If someone posts something offensive and disturbing in this section of the forums, I will smite. If someone posts something that is enlightening or something well deserved then I will applaud. Until that rule changes or until the Administration ends the Applaud/Smite in "ARGHHH!" I will continue to do so.....regardless if I am wearing little girl panties or big girl panties.

If anyone feels that I wrongly smited or applauded them, then I encourage them to take the issue to the administration. If I broke the ToS by smiting or applauding unnecessarily, then I will be more the willing to take the full brunt of my consequences.
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Valeriedoeswcs

I said nothing offensive if you read what I actually said.

The smites that were given to me hurt. Just so you and everyone that smited me today knows. Something done by you so casually. Hopefully, it made you feel better to reach out and smite instead of responding through discussion.
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xxUltraModLadyxx

i've accumulated one smite the whole time i've been here. the reputation system really is nothing more than a dog and pony show sometimes. there's certain people who may give you an applaud, and it just is a nice surprise. every now and then you get some fools who smite you because they are not even on the same page as you. i just think whatever. smites really don't have any coordination with your authorization to be here, though sometimes they do...
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Annah

I never smite "to get back" at someone. I only smite when I find a post sorely distasteful or mean spirited.

If you find a smite unjustified then I encourage you to take it to the admin.

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Valeriedoeswcs

Smites are meant to hurt someone. If a person doesnt believe that, then they are not being honest.
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Annah

then you and I have differences on how the system works.
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Steph

I applaud those who smite me, as while some gain some form of satisfaction by smiting, wielding the ultimate power of the unholy smite.  I gain satisfaction by giving an applaud to those who do.

So just because I say

"I despise the fact that those TS who are diagnosed with GID are grouped with CD's/TV's/Andro's under the Transgender umbrella"

would I receive a smite?

Actually getting a smite from some poor sap, who's feeling have been hurt because the real world hurts is somehow satisfying.  DILLIGAF

Quote from: FullMoon19 on October 17, 2011, 05:50:19 PM
i've accumulated one smite the whole time i've been here. the reputation system really is nothing more than a dog and pony show sometimes. there's certain people who may give you an applaud, and it just is a nice surprise. every now and then you get some fools who smite you because they are not even on the same page as you. i just think whatever. smites really don't have any coordination with your authorization to be here, though sometimes they do...

Hmm FM you did give me a smite, and in return I gave you an applause just to make you feel better about yourself.

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xxUltraModLadyxx

Quote from: Annah on October 17, 2011, 05:51:37 PM
I never smite "to get back" at someone. I only smite when I find a post sorely distasteful or mean spirited.

If you find a smite unjustified then I encourage you to take it to the admin.

i don't think i could since it was a thread i was kicked out of in consequence. i even had "warning" stamped under my name for a couple weeks. i would rather just forget it, because i know what goes on here now, and i'm just going to stay away from it.
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Valeriedoeswcs

Quote from: Annah on October 17, 2011, 06:07:18 PM
then you and I have differences on how the system works.

All of this action today against me because I was trying to get you to admit SRS was necessary for you.

You are having your surgery because it is necessary for yourself. Otherwise your surgeon woudnt allow it.

But you preferred to take it as an attack.

Would you please read what I just wrote. I am not attacking you. Just asking you to admit you need it for yourself.

There was no need for smites. You simply need the surgery. For whatever reason is between you and your team, but you need it. Otherwise it would be illegal for the surgeon.
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Steph

Quote from: FullMoon19 on October 17, 2011, 06:08:06 PM
i don't think i could since it was a thread i was kicked out of in consequence. i even had "warning" stamped under my name for a couple weeks. i would rather just forget it, because i know what goes on here now, and i'm just going to stay away from it.

I'm so sorry that I gave you The Smite FM, I was smiting along the guidelines that annah uses "I only smite when I find a post sorely distasteful or mean spirited. " And I thought your post fit the bill.  I didn't mean to hurt your feelings pumpkin.  I did give you an applause though to make you feel better about yourself.
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Annah

Quote from: Valeriedoeswcs on October 17, 2011, 06:12:07 PM
All of this action today against me because I was trying to get you to admit SRS was necessary for you.

You are having your surgery because it is necessary for yourself. Otherwise your surgeon woudnt allow it.

But you preferred to take it as an attack.

Would you please read what I just wrote. I am not attacking you. Just asking you to admit you need it for yourself.

There was no need for smites.

1. Don't bring the subject of SRS and whether you agree or not about my beliefs. This thread is about smiting in a free zone. Not about the thread that was locked.

2. If you feel that I unnecessarily smited you then I encourage you to see the Moderators about it. If the Moderators find that it was done unnecessarily and reverse it, then I will be the first person to apologize, openly, about it.
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xxUltraModLadyxx

Quote from: Steph on October 17, 2011, 06:14:18 PM
I'm so sorry that I gave you The Smite FM, I was smiting along the guidelines that annah uses "I only smite when I find a post sorely distasteful or mean spirited. " And I thought your post fit the bill.  I didn't mean to hurt your feelings pumpkin.  I did give you an applause though to make you feel better about yourself.

well, thank you for the apology. i smited you because i really don't agree with the alignment you participate in, but i've got no say in what you are just as you have no say in what i am. i'll just leave it there.
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cynthialee

Honestly,
I have had a smite in the past (it was removed as it was done for the wrong reasons) send me into a tailspin.
Lasted for about 2 days.
Got me downright depressed.

I can see the use of them as a moderator tool to keep an eye on folks but it is rather ruinous of ones day when you are already feeling low and then you see that a post that was in your mind perfectly reasonable has resulted in a smite.

Also it just gets my goat that there is not a single place on the forums that we can be assured of a free tounge.
So long as no one is calling for felonies or misdemeanors when they are venting it should be a free zone in this area.
imho
So it is said that if you know your enemies and know yourself, you can win a hundred battles without a single loss.
If you only know yourself, but not your opponent, you may win or may lose.
If you know neither yourself nor your enemy, you will always endanger yourself.
Sun Tsu 'The art of War'
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xxUltraModLadyxx

Quote from: cynthialee on October 17, 2011, 06:30:34 PM
Honestly,
I have had a smite in the past (it was removed as it was done for the wrong reasons) send me into a tailspin.
Lasted for about 2 days.
Got me downright depressed.

I can see the use of them as a moderator tool to keep an eye on folks but it is rather ruinous of ones day when you are already feeling low and then you see that a post that was in your mind perfectly reasonable has resulted in a smite.

Also it just gets my goat that there is not a single place on the forums that we can be assured of a free tounge.
So long as no one is calling for felonies or misdemeanors when they are venting it should be a free zone in this area.
imho

which makes sense, because that's the reason for posting in this thread. it's kind of corrupt i guess.
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wendy

Quote from: cynthialee on October 17, 2011, 01:44:36 PM
Smiting someone in the Arghhh forum is just petty.

Dear Cynthialee, what if we are just ornery?  I think I should be entitled to giving myself an occasional smite.  I can not get it to work! Arghh!  My new handle would be Smitemeister instead of Threadender.

.............
My favorite term is we each have different coping mechanisms.  We have different tolerances to pain as I removed my own beard with a hot needle.  We have different reactions to criticism.  But I do feel very few could understand pain in someone else's mind.    We can accumulate mental baggage that makes decisions more challenging.
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ativan

Can I smite myself? How does that work? I piss myself off so much, I should be able to smite myself in ARGHHH! every once in awhile.
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