What Terminology Do You Use?

[Joeyboo~ :3]

Trans-chick
MTF
transmexual


but when i'm coming out to someone and wanna look appropriate i use transgender lol.

[Leek]

I don't expect anyone I meet to tell me how they identify (unless I'm inadvertently using the wrong pronouns), how their gender aligns with their sex, or anything of that nature, and so I don't really get this whole dynamic where people who were raised as one sex/gender and now live as something else are assigned (by others) the special responsibility to disclaim themselves so that others will feel comfortable.

Uh, I don't think that's what people mean here. I'm assuming they don't mean going around coming out to people wantonly and stuff, just what word one uses to the refer to the state of being trans (in others and oneself) when it is mentioned in some kind of conversation where that would be mentioned. It may not be often, but it has to come up at some point in ones life (especially, as in the original poster's situation, when talking to other trans people about trans-related things).

[smearedblackink]

Uh, I don't think that's what people mean here. I'm assuming they don't mean going around coming out to people wantonly and stuff, just what word one uses to the refer to the state of being trans (in others and oneself) when it is mentioned in some kind of conversation where that would be mentioned. It may not be often, but it has to come up at some point in ones life (especially, as in the original poster's situation, when talking to other trans people about trans-related things).

I understand that completely. I was simply putting forth my personal practice/opinion and what terms I do or don't use, as the topic suggested.

The only thing I forgot to leave out is that I'm speaking of someone specifically and I know they have different preferences than me, I'll use whatever they want me to.